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"Marriage isn't a love affair. It isn't even a honeymoon. It's a job. A long hard job, at which both partners have to work, harder than they've worked at anything in their lives before. If it's a good marriage, it changes, it evolves, but it does on getting better. I've seen it with my own mother and father. But a bad marriage can dissolve in a welter of resentment and acrimony. I've seen that, too, in my own miserable and disastrous attempt at making another person happy. And it's never one person's fault. It's the sum total of a thousand little irritations, disagreements, idiotic details that in a sound alliance would simply be disregarded, or forgotten in the healing act of making love. Divorce isn't a cure, it's a surgical operation, even if there are no children to consider.”Rosamunde Pilcher,
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Why? We don't want to lose him/her regardless of the red flags.
We don't want to be alone etc.
Yes marriage needs work all the time.
trying hard to make a person happy doesn't work out. Either that person is happy with you or not. We often make things more complicated than they are. We must view a relationship the way it really is and not in a way it 'should' be.
It's usually when selfishness steps in that things go very wrong.
Love is always worth the effort though
a state of the facts which have to be considered by both.
I totally disagree. Learning to play the piano is hard work (for most people). Going to work 8 hours a day is hard work. Marriage is not 'a job' and it should not be hard work. It should be natural, or it's time to move on to the next one.
I suppose it might be hard work for people from backward cultures, who are stupid enough to let their parents or others decide their futures for them. Then I would get it.
Marriage or living common law takes work...but it is beneficial for the most part...give and take but sometimes couples grow apart...it depends on the couple's willingness to grow with each other and reinvent their relationship...
you are my darling!
your supremacist view is highly objectionable. letting ( outsourcing to ) the parents deciding their loved one's future does not make their culture backward or the person stupid. there are perfectly logical reasons behind it like lack of time or poor decisive skills of the outsourcer. even match-dot-com's algorithms do that for millions of people albeit for a fee.