Care?!

No one (normal) ever completely forgets a past relationship. It just fades and is less important today. We can't postpone dating because we still remember him or her. Fact is our memory will pretty much always work, at least until we get really old.

What most do once the hurt eases off a little is go on some new dates with new folk. They may not be all that great, but we call that moving on.. The first few such dates may not be very good ones because we compare. It isn't their fault, but my/our ex used to do such and such. Somewhere around date 3 we stop comparing every second and instead compare just a few times an hour. :)

We know we are halfway healed when the introspective comparisons are down to once every few days. Eventually we will only think about ex's every few months. That's normal and healed.

I am thinking you are still waiting for it to ease off a little. Your parents attitude didn't help. Good that nonsense attitude of theirs has moved to the background. The cultural expectation you must have a child before 28 is just nonsense. You can have one at 40.

You seem to be a nice girl. Like I wrote, if I were closer I would probably be bothering you for coffee or trips to the mall. Maybe if we got along, ask you for a date. Where I deffer I think from the guys locally asking you is I am old enough and (sadly) experienced enough to think I understand where your head is.

But I am not closer, so all I can say is let's go a virtual something. Have a cup of virtual tea. Try one of Mimi's virtual cupcakes. I like the ones with strawberry icing, but you may like the one with lemon icing.

Thanks Chame, yes, I also believe I will be OK.

Ken, I wish you find someone near you and do loves her till end your life...