Why does "no" have such devastating impact?

Hello again everyone! Thanks for your interest!

Subject of this blog comes in line with my experiences here after a whole week. (Yes, time flies!)
I've been reading blogs, trying to follow up some interesting forum threads and such, besides the fact of been meeting many wonderful people here. Since my first day I've received so many wonderful mails, flower messages, and it's been a truly nice experience to make new friends and even finding potential to a lot more!

So thanks to all who contributed and/or continue to contribute to this pleasing time I'm having here.

But like most of things we experience in life, two sides of the coin applies so I'll also speak about the other side of the coin: To say "no" and accept a "No".

Is there a limit? Some seem to deal very badly when they don't receive what they expect from the other.
If you step out into the dating world at all, you are almost certainly going to hear some "no's." And you'll be saying a few "no's" yourself. So what is so hard about "no?" Why does "no" have such potentially devastating impact?

Of course there are subtle ways to approach a situation. For example, I tend to answer to all my first mails in a polite way, either if I'm interested in the person or not at that particular moment. I just think it's a polite thing to do, return the person's time in kind.
But still, right there one can make her/his intentions obvious. It's one thing to reply someone courteously and not encourage further contact, and another to reply courteously and incentive further contact.
Case one could be a simple: "Thanks for your interest and time in writing, I wish you all the best." And "Thanks for your interest and time in writing to me, will be a pleasure to keep in touch with you, all the best"

At my view the intentions are clear even if case one didn't state a open big 'NO'

It's nice and comfortable for both parts when they can read the intentions with words.

Extreme cases are very uncomfortable and hurtful when you reach a point to have to state a "No, thanks I'm not interested" and goes worse when you receive back a "Why not?"

From this point on, things starts to be delicate and feelings will probably get hurt. You either get into a poisoned ping pong or block the counterpart. Both results leaving a very negative impression in the air.

So why not try to avoid reaching this point by simply being more understanding regarding the multi-cultural essence of this site and accepting the fact that as you have preferences and tastes, others will have too and they should be respected as much as you respect yours. It's our differences that makes us unique. It's a good thing, not bad.
Let's avoid generalizations.

Some times reading the forums you see posts about people who tend to band together and reinforce each other's fears and negative ideas with statements like "There are no good men/ women out there" or "All the good ones are taken." so on.
Have you heard the expression "Garbage in, garbage out"?

Surround yourself with people and messages that encourage and support your love-ability. And now for some reverse psychology: Develop some "No!" tolerance.

It's part of where we are and gives us meaning because makes us sure that we seek different things too so all here have equal potential to find what they are looking for.

My apologies for the long blog this time and I hope that it was an interesting reading to you as much as it was an interesting experience sharing my thoughts here.

All the best!