Is it appropriate, if yes then at what stage is it justified to …
Becoming suspiciously judgmental about a Woman’s/ Man’s where about, if for a day or two they have been unable to login to the dating site where they have been chatting ?& should the one questioned, have to give a detailed answer?? If so, again at what stage?
1. Acquaintance stage
2. After having expressed the desire to be friends but before they have exchanged Ph Nos etc.
3. After having exchanged Ph Nos, Names etc
4. After having expressed attraction.
5. After having met.
6. After having expressed love.
7. After deciding to stay together.
8. Any other
Although relationships develop organically but as we live in a highly cerebral world it will be interesting for theoretical & ethical understanding.
This has intentionally been posted in the 'Educational Category' though it qualifies for Dating & Relationship too :))))
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Stage 1 - definitely not
Stage 2 - you can ask if everything's okay, because they didn't log in, but only showing friendly concern, not 'where have you been, why didn't you log in?' accusing way
Stage 3 - 5 - contact them by phone if concerned. If they don't answer, or cut you off short, problem in their lives or with you, not much you can do about that. Let it go until they contact you. If they don't, let it go.
Stage 6 - 8 I would wonder why they WERE logging in, not why they weren't! It's a singles website and you two are no longer singles looking for someone?
If it is an LDR and being on CS is the only way you can share a social life when not together, that's different. In that case you have the right to ask, wth concern - but to be suspiciously judgmental implies insecurities, jealousy, problems.
I think you have summed it up brilliantly, your comment/replay is indeed very educating & brings clarity,
Being so dynamic, sometimes the ideas/ethics of online dating or friendships or relationships can be quite confusing.
Thank you :)))
You think hmmmmmmm your blunt with your reply because you know if you don't speak up it will eat at you so you think stuff it just say it then your looked at in a different light for speaking up.
I agree with the good fairy :)))
Sometimes one is kind of
Also as Elegsabiff elaborated above, one needs to know the capacity in which one is behaving/demanding in a certain way. I do understand online insecurities yet.....
@ Mercedes
That is still understandable once the two have accomplished a certain understanding, but at Acquaintance/friendship level it can be a bit awkward ;)
Thanks for the inputs
I loath liars I prefer upfront their good side their not so good side because that's what I offer of myself.
I'm either weird or very dumb.
I ditto that 'voice' of yours :)))
I think its very much appropriate & a balanced personality (yours) but maybe for a lot of people its dumb & weird lol ;)
"I know that I am intelligent because I know that I know nothing" -----Socrates----
& seriously for me, with each passing day this realization keeps expanding .... ;) lol
I don't know why but I'm getting so much mail today about my profile being funny thanks for cheering them up thanking me for being normal and keeping everything real my profile is hilarious on and on and on.
I'm thinking I didn't even try to be funny with my profile these people must be laughing at my head
I just had a look
Glad to see someone not taking themselves too seriously