Or maybe I am wrong and they are up there looking down on us? ( Archived) (62)

me neither

we bury it and that not good.




I am here if ya need to vent at any time

Talking about it, and crying the tears, help to heal. Trust me.

I am very sorry for your and your kids loss, Beb

It's very hard for you yourself, but I can't even imagine how tough it must be to guide kids through the loss of their dad.


The best wishes to all of you!

Oh, Pretz!! You just love to argue methinks

Thank you, Ken

I don't think it's wrong to tell a child that his loved one is watching out over him. My aunt(father's sister)while on her deathbed told my teenage son and I that my father would guide me as well as my son in all my decisions in life. She said that my dad was in the room with my mother standing by her bedside. And he was talking to my aunt and asking her to give us this message. Also told my aunt it was not my choice to become a nurse....it was his and he led me to this field because he was grateful for the 4 extra months of life that I gave him caring for his medical needs after mom died.
At 99 yrs old when she died, my aunt had no dementia or alzheimers disease either. Her heart literally wore out.
Since that conversation, my 19 yr old son has gone on to heating ventialation air condition training(HVAC)which was my father's field. My dad died in the 1960s. My aunt died in 2005.
I do not doubt for one moment that the spirits of the deceased watch over us and even guide us. Sometimes, they move something, leave a familiar scent or an object or even save our life in certain situations. My aunt leaves pennies when there is a medical issue that I need to get addressed.

thanks Laura, yeah I know its sounds weird but looking at her photo it was her, the night before my ex-wife birthday, she died on this day also, so I knew she wanted to pass on her love to her daughter through me.

best of wishes for the little lady but think she is in good hands with plenty of love and suport around her

Maybe not to the child but if only to yourself then why not look up Near Death Experiences, I just did and it really makes you think....

NDE is a very fascinating subject, Tigerjay.

But reading about other people's NDE is kind of tricky - it's not an easy task to separate a narator's wishful thinking, or hallucinations, etc.,

...or even just banal shameless lies...

from the actual events that happened during NDE.



Welcome to CS, by the way.
And good luck in your search.

I asked myself that question also when my son was little and in the end, I decided to be truthful (well, I do not believe in an afterlife). So I explained that death is something that happens to all of us; that it's not a "bad" thing, it just is. People who die stay alive in the hearts of those who remember them. You know, I think it's all in the presentation, meaning how you talk to your child.

I don't believe in feeding kids a bunch of lies about anything really. When you think about it, do we explain to kids the story of St. Nicholas when we talk about Santa Claus? All we tell kids really is that he brings presents... so what message does that convey? (Rhet). Actually I believe that kids see through the balony anyway... sometimes more so than adults.

Will the child resent having been lied to? I don't know. I chose to go the other route. I did ask my son (22) what he thought about how he was raised and he claims that I did a good job because he turned out brilliantly (of course he'd say that because he's a man )