What's your Philosophy ( Archived) (155)

That's pretty interesting, Snuggs. Something of a conundrum, given you haven't left anything salient out.

I have a suggestion for you. Simply ask Nancy, Linda, Rachel or whomever WHY they stopped talking to you. The answer may prove enlightening.

Clearly, many, many people have close friends who don't behave this way, so deciding not to have friends because it's impossible to trust them is not the logical choice. What you're describing strikes me as rather unusual (though not unheard of; many have had at least one "friend" who behaved this way). A better option would be to get to the bottom of what's going on. You're either picking the wrong people to befriend or you're doing something to turn them off.

If had to make a guess, I would bet it's probably a combination of these two things. I suspect you pick people who have problems and will use you as long as they feel you're helping with your problems, and when you're not needed -- pfffttt!

If it ain't broke.. don't fix it.

being self-centered just makes you alone

Linda was a long time ago back in the 70's and I don't know where she is.

I asked Nancy many times what happened and she wouldn't reply.

I recently asked Rachel if we could talk and here exact words were "I can't, I have a lot going on in my life". All I wanted to know was what happened. It was shocking with her because she had said she would come to visit me when I had my knee replacement. The last day of work before my surgery everything was fine...so what happened while I was in the hospital.

Truthfully, I took the blame as far as Nancy and Rachel. I don't know why but I figured it must have been something I did. I know I didn't say anything wrong to them. But I also know that I'm a person who takes relationships seriously, whether it's man or woman. I think I looked at a friendship with these women as I would have when I was 30 years old. However, Nancy is married yet we went to concerts together. Rachel is living with a loser for 16 years and has serious problems with her mother so I know she and I wouldn't have gone to a concert.

Ambrose, it's safer and easier to not take anymore chances.

This is probably why I won't fall in love again because without trust you cannot love someone and someone cannot love me unless they believe they can trust me not only with what they tell me but more importantly, with their heart.

You are correct though that I do pick the wrong people, especially men. Oh, the horror stories on that one.

ok here's one of mine,

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A simple little thought for those, whom I know,
Is that their dreams and their hopes come true.
May what you need be always available to you.

However you may wish for yours year to go,
Is what I wish the universe on you to bestow.
Good things may come to those who can wait.
Hopefully for yours you won’t have to hesitate.

Look for the signs that point out good roads
Invite love and life into your humble abodes
Value what you have already thus far received
Enjoy and be proud of all that you’ve achieved

Linger not on any broken or forgotten dream
Only remember what made your heart beam
Virtue is found in the heart that always sings
Encouragement to others this often times brings

Loud rejoicing is another thing good to share
And with it comes a soul not afraid to dare
Unexpected results come from a happy face
Gifting to others a joy that they can’t replace
Hold onto the fun of life like a slinky on a stair

And never let any others forget that you care
Never fear your feelings for them to lay bare
Do not make people wait for you to be there

Beautiful things you all have given freely to me
Eternally grateful will my heart and soul be

With a light heart and free flying soul I thank you
Expect great things because for you each they‘re due
Life tends to grant to us those things that we give
Life owes you all a lot of happiness in which to live.

Believe none of the things you hear
Believe half of the things you see

That the sky is the limit

That it always feels better when you take your own decisions...so, gotta feel with your heart in order to feel what's best for you. If you live too much exclusively according to systems, you might get lost. Not fitting is also ok...just be firm and find the best alternatives.

What doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger...
Words I've lived by..