Independance? (20)
Manda8403Blue Earth, Minnesota USA1 Threads 6 PostsGuys seem to be intimidated or just plain turned off by my need to be independent, and do things for myself, and have time to myself. Is my independent streak something I should down play until the guy gets to know me better?
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Manda8403: Guys seem to be intimidated or just plain turned off by my need to be independent, and do things for myself, and have time to myself. Is my independent streak something I should down play until the guy gets to know me better?
....Funny....I am also fiercely independent and a lot of Woman can't handle that either........
J.D
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Manda8403: Guys seem to be intimidated or just plain turned off by my need to be independent, and do things for myself, and have time to myself. Is my independent streak something I should down play until the guy gets to know me better?
Do you think that would work after the fact? Be who you are, you're bound to find someone just by being you.------ This thread is Archived ------
Manda8403: Guys seem to be intimidated or just plain turned off by my need to be independent, and do things for myself, and have time to myself. Is my independent streak something I should down play until the guy gets to know me better?
Nothing wrong with being independant. I am extremely independant myself, and yes, it probably turns off guys, but, i guess it's knowing when to tone it down, something i am still learning.
I don't think it's a matter of playing it down until the guy gets to know you better. You are who you are. I do think it's more a matter of knowing when it's appropriate to be a little less independant, again, something i myself have difficulty with.
Good Luck
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Just be who you are ,there are men out there who love and appreciate an independent woman
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nattye: Just be who you are ,there are men out there who love and appreciate an independent woman
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You probably need to let them get to like you the way you are. A lot of guys say they are looking for someone independent.
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virgiomonkey: ....Funny....I am also fiercely independent and a lot of Woman can't handle that either........
J.D
J.D
Okay so then what's worked for you? Tying them up in the basement on only taking them out when you want quality time. LOL
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Manda8403: Okay so then what's worked for you? Tying them up in the basement on only taking them out when you want quality time. LOL
YES YES YES
sorry ladies
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Maybe it's how it's coming across? i don't think we can change the people we are, that only causes problems later.Could try explaining you enjoy your independance and like time to yourself, but find a balance you are both happy with?
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Independance ok fine ,just let the guy know he is still the only one for you,sometimes it gets read as you tired of one company.I for one like independant ladies ,but they do make one wonder where you stand with them at times...
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jessejess47: Independance ok fine ,just let the guy know he is still the only one for you,sometimes it gets read as you tired of one company.I for one like independant ladies ,but they do make one wonder where you stand with them at times...
Yah man, it's give and take, carrot and stick business
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This calls for a song.
Off course we like independance...
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All I know is I like and need my personal space at times.
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If you arent you from the beginning then who are you trying to kid?
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Mercedes1: If you arent you from the beginning then who are you trying to kid?
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In response to: Guys seem to be intimidated or just plain turned off by my need to be independent, and do things for myself, and have time to myself. Is my independent streak something I should down play until the guy gets to know me better?
No, I don't think you should...but you don't have to be "in your face" about it with them either. I'm also a strong, relatively independent woman who needs time to herself...and if I want a man to be my life partner, he's got to accept that part of me...and perhaps even have that need himself. What good would it do me to hide it? I need a match to my strength, and someone who also needs space so that we can give that to each other without any grudges or misunderstandings.
I'm also willing to work as a team, for that's what I believe a good relationship is...a partnership where you both work together, and balance each others strengths and weaknesses.
Good luck. Be you, and be patient, and the right man will come along when the timing is right.
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druidess6308: No, I don't think you should...but you don't have to be "in your face" about it with them either. I'm also a strong, relatively independent woman who needs time to herself...and if I want a man to be my life partner, he's got to accept that part of me...and perhaps even have that need himself. What good would it do me to hide it? I need a match to my strength, and someone who also needs space so that we can give that to each other without any grudges or misunderstandings.
I'm also willing to work as a team, for that's what I believe a good relationship is...a partnership where you both work together, and balance each others strengths and weaknesses.
Good luck. Be you, and be patient, and the right man will come along when the timing is right.
I'm also willing to work as a team, for that's what I believe a good relationship is...a partnership where you both work together, and balance each others strengths and weaknesses.
Good luck. Be you, and be patient, and the right man will come along when the timing is right.
Thank you for the good advice.
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Manda8403: Okay so then what's worked for you? Tying them up in the basement on only taking them out when you want quality time. LOL
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No....it was the other way round, they try to put the 'ownership' chain around my neck.....and No Woman ever succeed in that one......and of course I am not trying to say White European are possessive or total control freaks..... J.D
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