Double Dating (90)
symbolistartistHanko, Southern Finland Finland10 Threads 761 PostsTurns out that the man I was putting all my energy into and with whom it seemed I was really compatible has been double dating and now decided to go for the other woman. Well, if someone lies like this he certainly isn't someone I'd care to have in my life. I find it extremely immoral to do this sort of thing and have myself been honest about the presence of this guy to anybody who has contacted me during this time. Do men really think this is alright??? I'm still standing today but tomorrow I will probably not feel very well. Please don't make any jokes about this, I couldn't handle it.
symbolistartist: Turns out that the man I was putting all my energy into and with whom it seemed I was really compatible has been double dating and now decided to go for the other woman. Well, if someone lies like this he certainly isn't someone I'd care to have in my life. I find it extremely immoral to do this sort of thing and have myself been honest about the presence of this guy to anybody who has contacted me during this time. Do men really think this is alright??? I'm still standing today but tomorrow I will probably not feel very well. Please don't make any jokes about this, I couldn't handle it.
No jokes. Very sad. Tell smoky when she gets back. Smoky has some hedge clippers.
Thank you Rusty, I'm not doing too good now.
Hi Symbol....
Straight Q....Did you tell this bloke your deepest darkest...???
ANd here'sanother...
How far down the line where you two???
Straight Q....Did you tell this bloke your deepest darkest...???
ANd here'sanother...
How far down the line where you two???
symbolistartist: Turns out that the man I was putting all my energy into and with whom it seemed I was really compatible has been double dating and now decided to go for the other woman. Well, if someone lies like this he certainly isn't someone I'd care to have in my life. I find it extremely immoral to do this sort of thing and have myself been honest about the presence of this guy to anybody who has contacted me during this time. Do men really think this is alright??? I'm still standing today but tomorrow I will probably not feel very well. Please don't make any jokes about this, I couldn't handle it.
Hi SA
Sorry to hear this happened to you..
The best thing about it is - that you found out sooner than late.
And... he is still waiting for you (the real one)
Kitty
Phoenix: Hi Symbol....
Straight Q....Did you tell this bloke your deepest darkest...???
ANd here'sanother...
How far down the line where you two???
Straight Q....Did you tell this bloke your deepest darkest...???
ANd here'sanother...
How far down the line where you two???
Far enough to have done "compatibility tests" to each other about most things and also found that the tests on the other site matched, especially the intimate one. No we didn't really discuss anything too private whatever that could be (well I can think of a few things on my own that I don't disclose until the guy really is there for me), obviously he was holding back. If you ask me I think he already had his pants down with the other woman, isn't that how some women get a good grip of a guy? I'm really surprised though because despite some reticence he seemed really excited about our compatibility and said many times that he'd come and see me very soon - DEFINITELY. But... when a guy starts to fuss about his passport that's déjá vu for me and the alarm goes off. And right I was.
u2Kitty: Hi SA
Sorry to hear this happened to you..
The best thing about it is - that you found out sooner than late.
And... he is still waiting for you (the real one)
Kitty
Sorry to hear this happened to you..
The best thing about it is - that you found out sooner than late.
And... he is still waiting for you (the real one)
Kitty
Thanks, that's very sweet of you... I do appreciate some support to get this off my mind so I won't lie down and die... the idea of starting all over again is just heavy yet I know I must. I sure hope the real one is out there. But won't find him here in this dark forest and don't know right now what I could do to advance the issue...
Hi Symbol,
I know this is tough for you even though I have never had to go through it before except when I was 19 and that is too many years ago to even remember details. But this is exactly what I mean. I think that if you keep on thinking about it in the way you have said you will only keep it in memory. Think of it exactly the other way and that is. It was fun while it lasted it didn't work out and luckily nothing came of it. No cash was wasted no real emotions were spent. You were fooled by a con artist so what. A lot more will be fooled by him and probably more will suffer with his lines of morality (a guess because of the religious site). The thing is you are the lucky one the other is up the creek without a paddle. Warn her send a red flag to her get to her before the train wreck occurs. Symbol believe me I know there are many worse things you can go through and if this is the worst a would trade with you any day and whistle a happy tune doing it. It is a bit overwhelming now but try to think of how you will think about it in a years time. This will all seem so much more trivial that way.
Wooffy
I know this is tough for you even though I have never had to go through it before except when I was 19 and that is too many years ago to even remember details. But this is exactly what I mean. I think that if you keep on thinking about it in the way you have said you will only keep it in memory. Think of it exactly the other way and that is. It was fun while it lasted it didn't work out and luckily nothing came of it. No cash was wasted no real emotions were spent. You were fooled by a con artist so what. A lot more will be fooled by him and probably more will suffer with his lines of morality (a guess because of the religious site). The thing is you are the lucky one the other is up the creek without a paddle. Warn her send a red flag to her get to her before the train wreck occurs. Symbol believe me I know there are many worse things you can go through and if this is the worst a would trade with you any day and whistle a happy tune doing it. It is a bit overwhelming now but try to think of how you will think about it in a years time. This will all seem so much more trivial that way.
Wooffy
Now, listen in...... enough talk of 'dark forests'!
Forests are nice places with lots of trees growing in them and if you cut down all the trees to let the light in then all the nice little furry forest living creatures die - and that's not nice.
Live a happy life in your dark forest, but come out to play in the field next to the forest by the stream where there is a cool watermill and an old man who grinds flour and mutters strange and wonderful things about how he can use the power of the water to make something called elec tris ity!
My, oh my - he says he can make a glass thingy burn with light by harnessing the power of moving water.
Whatever next!
So - enjoy living in your dark forest, but come out and play sometimes............ then, when you are fed up of playing you can go home again into the dark forest and feel warm and snug and secure in your log cabin.
Ok?
Forests are nice places with lots of trees growing in them and if you cut down all the trees to let the light in then all the nice little furry forest living creatures die - and that's not nice.
Live a happy life in your dark forest, but come out to play in the field next to the forest by the stream where there is a cool watermill and an old man who grinds flour and mutters strange and wonderful things about how he can use the power of the water to make something called elec tris ity!
My, oh my - he says he can make a glass thingy burn with light by harnessing the power of moving water.
Whatever next!
So - enjoy living in your dark forest, but come out and play sometimes............ then, when you are fed up of playing you can go home again into the dark forest and feel warm and snug and secure in your log cabin.
Ok?
wooffy: Hi Symbol,
I know this is tough for you even though I have never had to go through it before except when I was 19 and that is too many years ago to even remember details. But this is exactly what I mean. I think that if you keep on thinking about it in the way you have said you will only keep it in memory. Think of it exactly the other way and that is. It was fun while it lasted it didn't work out and luckily nothing came of it. No cash was wasted no real emotions were spent. You were fooled by a con artist so what. A lot more will be fooled by him and probably more will suffer with his lines of morality (a guess because of the religious site). The thing is you are the lucky one the other is up the creek without a paddle. Warn her send a red flag to her get to her before the train wreck occurs. Symbol believe me I know there are many worse things you can go through and if this is the worst a would trade with you any day and whistle a happy tune doing it. It is a bit overwhelming now but try to think of how you will think about it in a years time. This will all seem so much more trivial that way.
Wooffy
I know this is tough for you even though I have never had to go through it before except when I was 19 and that is too many years ago to even remember details. But this is exactly what I mean. I think that if you keep on thinking about it in the way you have said you will only keep it in memory. Think of it exactly the other way and that is. It was fun while it lasted it didn't work out and luckily nothing came of it. No cash was wasted no real emotions were spent. You were fooled by a con artist so what. A lot more will be fooled by him and probably more will suffer with his lines of morality (a guess because of the religious site). The thing is you are the lucky one the other is up the creek without a paddle. Warn her send a red flag to her get to her before the train wreck occurs. Symbol believe me I know there are many worse things you can go through and if this is the worst a would trade with you any day and whistle a happy tune doing it. It is a bit overwhelming now but try to think of how you will think about it in a years time. This will all seem so much more trivial that way.
Wooffy
Thanks Wooffy, oh I certainly hope not to come across as naive. I have been through worse. But this whole winter has been a series of rejections based on lies and deceit that probably wasn't even perceived as such by the one who rejected, well in fact I've never seen as many sordid ways as I have over the past few years. I'm totally amazed at the level at which people are at. I'm amazed that I was fooled. I'm amazed that life doesn't grant me what I deserve. I'm amazed that I haven't jumped off a bridge in despair over the decadence of mankind yet. Ok that sounds melodramatic but in my darkest moments I really wonder what the heck I'm doing here. You do go into a sort of shock when suddenly ahead of you lies only emptiness which you know you'll have to fill some way. It depends; in a few days or a few weeks you have managed to change your thoughtprocess around and you know you did a lucky escape. It was just one incident among a zillion others. But right now... I'm bloody tired. And I do question how a person can learn to trust anybody after so many bad experiences - and I'm not speaking only for myself obviuosly!
rusty_knight: Now, listen in...... enough talk of 'dark forests'!
Forests are nice places with lots of trees growing in them and if you cut down all the trees to let the light in then all the nice little furry forest living creatures die - and that's not nice.
Live a happy life in your dark forest, but come out to play in the field next to the forest by the stream where there is a cool watermill and an old man who grinds flour and mutters strange and wonderful things about how he can use the power of the water to make something called elec tris ity!
My, oh my - he says he can make a glass thingy burn with light by harnessing the power of moving water.
Whatever next!
So - enjoy living in your dark forest, but come out and play sometimes............ then, when you are fed up of playing you can go home again into the dark forest and feel warm and snug and secure in your log cabin.
Ok?
Forests are nice places with lots of trees growing in them and if you cut down all the trees to let the light in then all the nice little furry forest living creatures die - and that's not nice.
Live a happy life in your dark forest, but come out to play in the field next to the forest by the stream where there is a cool watermill and an old man who grinds flour and mutters strange and wonderful things about how he can use the power of the water to make something called elec tris ity!
My, oh my - he says he can make a glass thingy burn with light by harnessing the power of moving water.
Whatever next!
So - enjoy living in your dark forest, but come out and play sometimes............ then, when you are fed up of playing you can go home again into the dark forest and feel warm and snug and secure in your log cabin.
Ok?
I'll try...
But I'm freaking angry and sad that I'm stuck here and can't even go on a normal date with anyone... Everything gets so much more intense because of my situation and I did for once try and take it real easy... still no luck. I'm sure venting here is helping though, thanks to all.
Looks like you’ve got hurt, sorry for that. Don’t want to employ platitudes… but there’s not much to say in a situation like that. Time will heal that’s for sure. Though sometimes healing by time means withering of the best parts of your soul… Try to heal by positive means: music, books, dance, whatever that would keep your mind in a good mood and your body occupied.
I’ve noticed that double and triple and multiple dating is rather a rule here. Be aware.
I’ve noticed that double and triple and multiple dating is rather a rule here. Be aware.
Tulefel: Looks like you’ve got hurt, sorry for that. Don’t want to employ platitudes… but there’s not much to say in a situation like that. Time will heal that’s for sure. Though sometimes healing by time means withering of the best parts of your soul… Try to heal by positive means: music, books, dance, whatever that would keep your mind in a good mood and your body occupied.
I’ve noticed that double and triple and multiple dating is rather a rule here. Be aware.
I’ve noticed that double and triple and multiple dating is rather a rule here. Be aware.
Yes, well it's the 100th time that I've seen potential going down the drain JUST when I thought I was safe... It's a shock. Yeah, this guy wasn't from here so I somehow assumed he might be a bit more serious (won't go into why) but I'm appalled at the dishonesty among people and that's why I wanted to start this thread... not only to moan and whine. Oh heck not sure why really, maybe just venting and getting ideas. You're right, I will certainly try and indulge in positive activities. Thanks for your support dear neighbour!
Oh Symbol!
It is difficult to advise in these situations and you have received lots of good advice already.
I know from what I have read here in your posts that you see honesty and being upfront important, as we all do.
Unfortunately, we cannot rely on other people to be that way. And this is what we must protect ourselves against and be able to handle it.
I am sure you put all your thoughts and energy into this man and of course the way he treated you was awful, that being said there is a way to be able to get through it. Pick yourself up now, dust yourself down and crash on with being you.
You took a risk and it did not work out and that is tough, love involves a risk and we open our beings to it. It didn't work out.
He has hurt you and time will ease it, in that time perhaps look at how you will handle the next person who pops along. I am not at all saying that you handle yourself wrong, because you display wonderful lovely manners, I mean with personal contact. We cannot ourselves from being hurt, we can only hope that we can deal with it in a way that will only make ourselves stronger in what we seek.
We will cheer you up, we can be quite good at that...
It is difficult to advise in these situations and you have received lots of good advice already.
I know from what I have read here in your posts that you see honesty and being upfront important, as we all do.
Unfortunately, we cannot rely on other people to be that way. And this is what we must protect ourselves against and be able to handle it.
I am sure you put all your thoughts and energy into this man and of course the way he treated you was awful, that being said there is a way to be able to get through it. Pick yourself up now, dust yourself down and crash on with being you.
You took a risk and it did not work out and that is tough, love involves a risk and we open our beings to it. It didn't work out.
He has hurt you and time will ease it, in that time perhaps look at how you will handle the next person who pops along. I am not at all saying that you handle yourself wrong, because you display wonderful lovely manners, I mean with personal contact. We cannot ourselves from being hurt, we can only hope that we can deal with it in a way that will only make ourselves stronger in what we seek.
We will cheer you up, we can be quite good at that...
what her above me said ... plus a .. you're a good kid with a great future .. it sucks bad but you can't light a match without getting the odd burn ..
.. you're a good kid with a great future .. it sucks bad but you can't light a match without getting the odd burn ..I think you look very sweet in your new picture.
rodolpho: I think you look very sweet in your new picture.
Thanks.CORRECTION
gillyloves69: you're lucky you never got to meet him...because it would have been even worse love ! it took me a while to get over somebody i met
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times that i got on famously with and wanted to spend the rest of my life with
BECAUSE OF HER
CHARACTOR
PERSONALITY
CHARISMA
SENSE OF HUMOR
AMBITIONS
INTERESTS
FACIAL ATTRACTION
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
HER KARAMA
HOW WELL WE GOT
etc etc
that turned out to be a lesbian
try telling her " we can work things darling "
and that was just the good news.... i won't even bother telling you what the bad news was
6
times that i got on famously with and wanted to spend the rest of my life with
BECAUSE OF HER
CHARACTOR
PERSONALITY
CHARISMA
SENSE OF HUMOR
AMBITIONS
INTERESTS
FACIAL ATTRACTION
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
HER KARAMA
HOW WELL WE GOT
etc etc
that turned out to be a lesbian
try telling her " we can work things darling "
and that was just the good news.... i won't even bother telling you what the bad news was
hello there symbolistartist...
I've read all the posts... and they're mostly right according to my way of thinking... just get on... there's no point moaning over spilled milk. it's better to clean up and have a good look in the fridge.
relax.. loves comes along eventually.. there's no need to rush.
I've read all the posts... and they're mostly right according to my way of thinking... just get on... there's no point moaning over spilled milk. it's better to clean up and have a good look in the fridge.
relax.. loves comes along eventually.. there's no need to rush.
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