GUYS ARE YOU SATISFIED WITH THE RESPONSES YOU GET ON CS? (92)
tainogirl: Connecting with people on internet dating sites can sometimes be hard work. Sometimes you have to work through a lot of pebbles to get to a real gem. I've seen a lot of people(especially men)getting frustrated after a while and leaving. Of course there is no guarantee of finding anyone here after joining the site.
Some strike it rich early on and for some of us it will take longer. I think in a lot of ways it is harder here than in real life. Many women expect men to be the chasers, if they are interested, they expect them to send the flowers, the e-mails. Many men though get frustrated when they send out many of these and there are no replies. There are many reasons why this happens. Perhaps some of the ladies can shed some light on some of these reasons and this might help the guys understand how they can probably improve their chances. But it would be interesting to hear from the men about there personal experiences here at CS. Comments please.
Some strike it rich early on and for some of us it will take longer. I think in a lot of ways it is harder here than in real life. Many women expect men to be the chasers, if they are interested, they expect them to send the flowers, the e-mails. Many men though get frustrated when they send out many of these and there are no replies. There are many reasons why this happens. Perhaps some of the ladies can shed some light on some of these reasons and this might help the guys understand how they can probably improve their chances. But it would be interesting to hear from the men about there personal experiences here at CS. Comments please.
"Good morning everyone"!
With the many years that I have been on the Net...like you, I feel that it is harder on the Net(for most), than in real life.
So many people get on the singles sites, with BIG expectations, and it just don't work out...or at least as fast as they would like.
I have learned to not put too much stock into the singles sites(for myself)and concentrate more on real life expectations.
I look at the Net/singles sites as nothing more than entertainment. That way, not as much disappointment! JMO
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Hi all! I'd have to say I have no complaints about responses. Seems to be two different types of people on here; those that want to meet thru the forums first and those that meet through e-mail. Personally, I've had more responses from those that don't post in the forums. No idea why, just seems to be that way. As far as who contacts who first, I really don't see where it makes a difference. Presently dating a gal that contacted me first. Interestingly, I had bookmarked her as someone to email and she beat me to the punch. I found it flattering and not unusual at all. Jmo.
I'd have to say I have no complaints about responses. Seems to be two different types of people on here; those that want to meet thru the forums first and those that meet through e-mail. Personally, I've had more responses from those that don't post in the forums. No idea why, just seems to be that way. As far as who contacts who first, I really don't see where it makes a difference. Presently dating a gal that contacted me first. Interestingly, I had bookmarked her as someone to email and she beat me to the punch. I found it flattering and not unusual at all. Jmo.------ This thread is Archived ------
Hi TG, I have been on CS for quite sometime now. Started off being a little shy, then started sending out flowers and e-mails like a crazy woman 
Got very few responses so I fianlly decided the forums are the place to be and here I will stay. I do answer the ones that are not scammers but even those I answer never reply back. 
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sassy49senior: Hi TG, I have been on CS for quite sometime now. Started off being a little shy, then started sending out flowers and e-mails like a crazy woman Got very few responses so I fianlly decided the forums are the place to be and here I will stay. I do answer the ones that are not scammers but even those I answer never reply back.
I find that truly shocking. You always struck me as a very fine lady Sassy. What are they freaking blind! (Oooops got carried away there Sassy)but seems to me you'd make somebody a good catch.
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people have there own views ... some people need beauty some of them need rich some of them look figure some of them ........................ lot s lots
so its rough to find out ..... if u are looking for a nice heart that also so hard here .............
for me still i am waiting for my girl may be i can find here or some where in ths world
so its rough to find out ..... if u are looking for a nice heart that also so hard here .............
for me still i am waiting for my girl may be i can find here or some where in ths world
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Have not met anyone on this site yet in real life so NO the results are not great. I gave up with the whole internet dating thing. If I actually meet a lady from this site thats all good but not holding my breath. The forums are good though.
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Have not met anyone on this site yet in real life so NO the results are not great. I gave up with the whole internet dating thing. If I actually meet a lady from this site thats all good but not holding my breath. The forums are good though.
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Well obviously I cant speak for the guys.
When I joined the site first, a year and a half ago, it was with the hope that I would meet someone to share my life with.
This hasnt happened, I have been proactive and sent flowers and mails, is very disheartening to see that a guy has read your mail, viewed your profile and decided not to respond. Makes me ask sometimes why some ppl are on here.
Anyway at this point I just stay for the forums and the friends I have made.
So in answer to the OP, No I am not satisfied with the responses I get lol
When I joined the site first, a year and a half ago, it was with the hope that I would meet someone to share my life with.
This hasnt happened, I have been proactive and sent flowers and mails, is very disheartening to see that a guy has read your mail, viewed your profile and decided not to respond. Makes me ask sometimes why some ppl are on here.
Anyway at this point I just stay for the forums and the friends I have made.
So in answer to the OP, No I am not satisfied with the responses I get lol
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tainogirl: Connecting with people on internet dating sites can sometimes be hard work. Sometimes you have to work through a lot of pebbles to get to a real gem. I've seen a lot of people(especially men)getting frustrated after a while and leaving. Of course there is no guarantee of finding anyone here after joining the site.
Some strike it rich early on and for some of us it will take longer. I think in a lot of ways it is harder here than in real life. Many women expect men to be the chasers, if they are interested, they expect them to send the flowers, the e-mails. Many men though get frustrated when they send out many of these and there are no replies. There are many reasons why this happens. Perhaps some of the ladies can shed some light on some of these reasons and this might help the guys understand how they can probably improve their chances. But it would be interesting to hear from the men about there personal experiences here at CS. Comments please.
Some strike it rich early on and for some of us it will take longer. I think in a lot of ways it is harder here than in real life. Many women expect men to be the chasers, if they are interested, they expect them to send the flowers, the e-mails. Many men though get frustrated when they send out many of these and there are no replies. There are many reasons why this happens. Perhaps some of the ladies can shed some light on some of these reasons and this might help the guys understand how they can probably improve their chances. But it would be interesting to hear from the men about there personal experiences here at CS. Comments please.
i met some nice people here, but i love to read some of the forums here, so i stick around to read them...if someone is interested so be it, if not....such is life...
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I would say that the primary problems are that either people respond without reading the profile or their profiles are so vague that no one knows who they are or what they are seeking.
If a person says that he or she is looking for someone local, don't contact them from another country. If there are any discrepancies between your profile and the other person's profile, address those discrepancies in your first email. Also, address anything out of the ordinary. If there is a significant age difference, address the reason that you want someone significantly older or younger. Don't just ignore the elephant sitting in the middle of the room, assuming that no one will notice it is there.
What does a flower mean? If you are truly interested, send a message.
Be realistic in your expectations. You'll likely be disappointed if you seek more than you bring to a relationship.
Unless you are willing to be open and honest with your potential partner, you'll probably end up hurt, frustrated and confused. Vagueness tells people that you will be taking advantage of them or they can take advantage of you.
If you don't feel good about what you have to offer, fix that before seeking a partner. Don't expect a partner to make you whole.
If a person says that he or she is looking for someone local, don't contact them from another country. If there are any discrepancies between your profile and the other person's profile, address those discrepancies in your first email. Also, address anything out of the ordinary. If there is a significant age difference, address the reason that you want someone significantly older or younger. Don't just ignore the elephant sitting in the middle of the room, assuming that no one will notice it is there.
What does a flower mean? If you are truly interested, send a message.
Be realistic in your expectations. You'll likely be disappointed if you seek more than you bring to a relationship.
Unless you are willing to be open and honest with your potential partner, you'll probably end up hurt, frustrated and confused. Vagueness tells people that you will be taking advantage of them or they can take advantage of you.
If you don't feel good about what you have to offer, fix that before seeking a partner. Don't expect a partner to make you whole.
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My personal favorites are the ones that claim they like your profile, yet they clearly have never bothered to read it, since the questions they ask you are already addressed in your profile. Then there are those that send flowers but never write. I too wonder what exactly is the significance of the flower beyond the just trying to be nice.
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i don't think i set myself up with any unrealistic illusions.
i wasn't really looking for just pen pals, nor immediate dating. kind of in between.
so i'd have to say yeah. i am entertained in the forums. i have met some interesting people who had interesting things to say. some of them i have sent emails to, some to me. some of those stopped immediately , some kind of eased away, and some still talk to me.
lot of dynamics going on that can make people a little skittish. understandable.
it is what it is.
so with all that, i guess it is actually better than i expected.
people don't trip all over themselves to get to know me in real life. so i wouldn't expect it here , either.
but i think i stand a better chance of talking to a wider variety of people here than in real life.
i wasn't really looking for just pen pals, nor immediate dating. kind of in between.
so i'd have to say yeah. i am entertained in the forums. i have met some interesting people who had interesting things to say. some of them i have sent emails to, some to me. some of those stopped immediately , some kind of eased away, and some still talk to me.
lot of dynamics going on that can make people a little skittish. understandable.
it is what it is.
so with all that, i guess it is actually better than i expected.
people don't trip all over themselves to get to know me in real life. so i wouldn't expect it here , either.
but i think i stand a better chance of talking to a wider variety of people here than in real life.
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To be honest the first month I was here I didnt write any girls.I went straight to the forums and had a blast.
Soon after I started to get mails from nice ladies.Many of them are still my friends.
Soon after I started to get mails from nice ladies.Many of them are still my friends.
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Taino,
This is my second stab at CS. The reason I left the first time was because I felt it was a total waste of my time. I would be the one sending flowers/emails and not getting anything in return. Except for lots of people on the Who Viewed Me section. I guess men don't like to be chased? I just figured I saw a profile that sparked my interest why not drop a note? Since I wasn't being "chased" I figured I should take the initiative. Nothing do anything and doing something didn't work.
This time around its very similar. The only mail I've ha din my box is that email CS send that you can't delete...
So sorry I have no advice for the guys. Well...I do.
"At least there is forums"
This is my second stab at CS. The reason I left the first time was because I felt it was a total waste of my time. I would be the one sending flowers/emails and not getting anything in return. Except for lots of people on the Who Viewed Me section. I guess men don't like to be chased? I just figured I saw a profile that sparked my interest why not drop a note? Since I wasn't being "chased" I figured I should take the initiative. Nothing do anything and doing something didn't work.
This time around its very similar. The only mail I've ha din my box is that email CS send that you can't delete...
So sorry I have no advice for the guys. Well...I do.
"At least there is forums"
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azucarmorena: Taino,
This is my second stab at CS. The reason I left the first time was because I felt it was a total waste of my time. I would be the one sending flowers/emails and not getting anything in return. Except for lots of people on the Who Viewed Me section. I guess men don't like to be chased? I just figured I saw a profile that sparked my interest why not drop a note? Since I wasn't being "chased" I figured I should take the initiative. Nothing do anything and doing something didn't work.
This time around its very similar. The only mail I've ha din my box is that email CS send that you can't delete...
So sorry I have no advice for the guys. Well...I do.
"At least there is forums"
My lady had the same,and she also had my country blocked.This is my second stab at CS. The reason I left the first time was because I felt it was a total waste of my time. I would be the one sending flowers/emails and not getting anything in return. Except for lots of people on the Who Viewed Me section. I guess men don't like to be chased? I just figured I saw a profile that sparked my interest why not drop a note? Since I wasn't being "chased" I figured I should take the initiative. Nothing do anything and doing something didn't work.
This time around its very similar. The only mail I've ha din my box is that email CS send that you can't delete...
So sorry I have no advice for the guys. Well...I do.
"At least there is forums"
I had to ask her on the forum to unblock me.
We're very happy now...
I think the forums are a great way to get to know eachother.
good luck to you too
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Very satisfied now....
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rodolpho: My lady had the same,and she also had my country blocked.
I had to ask her on the forum to unblock me.
We're very happy now...
I think the forums are a great way to get to know eachother.
good luck to you too
I had to ask her on the forum to unblock me.
We're very happy now...
I think the forums are a great way to get to know eachother.
good luck to you too
Thanks! The forums are a fun distraction. I see an addiction forming!
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USThumper: Ive never met a woman who didnt, and I keep coming back for more
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tainogirl: My personal favorites are the ones that claim they like your profile, yet they clearly have never bothered to read it, since the questions they ask you are already addressed in your profile. Then there are those that send flowers but never write. I too wonder what exactly is the significance of the flower beyond the just trying to be nice.
I have always sent a little thank-you note to theose that sent me any thing interested or not.
I now have it in my profile that I am taken and I still get the emails Hi i read your profile and I would love to . . . I still send out a polite thank-you for you interest and I am now. . folowed by a suggestion to join the forums
Guys're usually pretty nice about it.
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Some strike it rich early on and for some of us it will take longer. I think in a lot of ways it is harder here than in real life. Many women expect men to be the chasers, if they are interested, they expect them to send the flowers, the e-mails. Many men though get frustrated when they send out many of these and there are no replies. There are many reasons why this happens. Perhaps some of the ladies can shed some light on some of these reasons and this might help the guys understand how they can probably improve their chances. But it would be interesting to hear from the men about there personal experiences here at CS. Comments please.