Has this ever happened to you? (81)
hopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 PostsSis, I can say anymore than what's already been posted here. But here's a 
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sweetowen: I had a date with a fantastic guy on Saturday night. I'd met him on another site. I laughed until tears were streaming down my cheeks. He was very handsome. He drove quite a distance to see me. And he was totally into me.
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Of course, most of us have, unless one is the sort of cold creature who can switch feelings on and off ! It needs good old TIME - and I'm a woman who was deeply, passionately in love with my partner . Er - he oozed off too without closure, its called COWARDICE my dear, so please don't cling so some faint hope, loads of men simply cannot bear to be around to axe you. They hope you just take the hint. Time will heal you, amazingly so, so hang on in there to that nice guy you've met - fate has been good to you to serve you up another chance !
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I feel for you, Sweet. I hafta say that when u find yourself falling hard for someone primarily because he's attentive is a sign of your own state of being. Coz if/when he ever turns his attentions off, you will be left standing with your own feelings yet again. No...ask yourself if he's the guy for you whether he's attentive or not. If he is, then, you've found yourself someone worth keeping. If not, you might have to move on.
I feel for you, Sweet. I hafta say that when u find yourself falling hard for someone primarily because he's attentive is a sign of your own state of being. Coz if/when he ever turns his attentions off, you will be left standing with your own feelings yet again. No...ask yourself if he's the guy for you whether he's attentive or not. If he is, then, you've found yourself someone worth keeping. If not, you might have to move on.
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oh man I know about this BIG time, I been tryin to get over the same guy for a couple of years now...it get better with time but it does take time...hey maybe its the same guy! He's not kenyan is he?? 
Seriously tho...you'll move on eventually...just give yourself the chance to go through the process and don't focus too much on being over him...
Seriously tho...you'll move on eventually...just give yourself the chance to go through the process and don't focus too much on being over him...
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In response to: I had a date with a fantastic guy on Saturday night. I'd met him on another site. I laughed until tears were streaming down my cheeks. He was very handsome. He drove quite a distance to see me. And he was totally into me.
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
I can honestly say I haven't.
But your circumstance is different to mine.
The fact that he said to "back off a little" left room for possibility.
If I've ever finished with someone, been a clean cut. Not that it didn't take me a while to get over them, but I was aware that it was all done and dusted.
Perhaps you need to have a conversation with your ex, to hear once and for all what the story is.
This other guy sounds great and very understanding.
So perhaps if you get closure from ex, you may find your feelings of being stuck on limbo, will evaporate very quickly!
I know I for one, would find it awfully difficult to move on, without knowing for sure where my previous relationship lay.
Best of luck lady..
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tgwstw: I can honestly say I haven't.
But your circumstance is different to mine.
The fact that he said to "back off a little" left room for possibility.
If I've ever finished with someone, been a clean cut. Not that it didn't take me a while to get over them, but I was aware that it was all done and dusted.
Perhaps you need to have a conversation with your ex, to hear once and for all what the story is.
This other guy sounds great and very understanding.
So perhaps if you get closure from ex, you may find your feelings of being stuck on limbo, will evaporate very quickly!
I know I for one, would find it awfully difficult to move on, without knowing for sure where my previous relationship lay.
Best of luck lady..
But your circumstance is different to mine.
The fact that he said to "back off a little" left room for possibility.
If I've ever finished with someone, been a clean cut. Not that it didn't take me a while to get over them, but I was aware that it was all done and dusted.
Perhaps you need to have a conversation with your ex, to hear once and for all what the story is.
This other guy sounds great and very understanding.
So perhaps if you get closure from ex, you may find your feelings of being stuck on limbo, will evaporate very quickly!
I know I for one, would find it awfully difficult to move on, without knowing for sure where my previous relationship lay.
Best of luck lady..
That's good advice. Thanks! Maybe that's what I need to do. Just ask him if there's no hope of us ever getting back together so that I can move on, if need be.
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I spoke with my date from the other night, this morning. He said he can't handle being just friends with me because he likes me too much. I asked him to reconsider... we're still talking, for now.
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Sounds like you need to decide fast sweet. If it is really this other guy you like then ask him out straight if he wants you or not, and if not ...... well that's for you to decide but at least you will know one way or the other, now. It is tough to ask if you fear what you might not want to hear. Perhaps it is all too rushed but it sounds like you have a good No.2 waiting in the wings for you. 
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RDM59: Sounds like you need to decide fast sweet. If it is really this other guy you like then ask him out straight if he wants you or not, and if not ...... well that's for you to decide but at least you will know one way or the other, now. It is tough to ask if you fear what you might not want to hear. Perhaps it is all too rushed but it sounds like you have a good No.2 waiting in the wings for you.
I think you're right. Yes, I think I AM afraid of what I'll hear. But I agree it probably should be done.
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sweetowen: I had a date with a fantastic guy on Saturday night. I'd met him on another site. I laughed until tears were streaming down my cheeks. He was very handsome. He drove quite a distance to see me. And he was totally into me.
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
yes. yes i have been there. and its hard to determine if im still there or not. i know that i will always love him. i may find someone else i can love and be happy with and possibly spend the rest of my life with. but i know that i will always love him. he was my first love and those feelings dont disappear easily.
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I broke down & bawled last evening. Got it out. My eyes are all puffy today, but I needed to do that. Not that I may not do it again, I'm still sad.
Then the new guy texted me. It was really nice to know that someone was thinking about me.
Then the new guy texted me. It was really nice to know that someone was thinking about me.
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sweetowen: I broke down & bawled last evening. Got it out. My eyes are all puffy today, but I needed to do that. Not that I may not do it again, I'm still sad.
Then the new guy texted me. It was really nice to know that someone was thinking about me.
Then the new guy texted me. It was really nice to know that someone was thinking about me.
Good to see that some things are working out for you with the 'new guy' and hope that your relationship with him progresses at a pace you can feel comfortable with
BTW... love your new photo 
Also, looks like more than a few here are thinking of you Owen
even when you don't know it (or them) sometimes 
is just a post away, even when it could be from half-way across the country, world... or universe Blessings and peace to you Owen
Jack
"There are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart's desire. The other is to get it." --Bernard Shaw, Man and Superman, IV
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bohemianjack:
Jack"There are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart's desire. The other is to get it." --Bernard Shaw, Man and Superman, IV
Jack"There are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart's desire. The other is to get it." --Bernard Shaw, Man and Superman, IV
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Hey Lago 
good to see you this morning for me... evening for you
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Did you see I got a ten for my new photo I'll have to send her a consolation message
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sweetowen: I had a date with a fantastic guy on Saturday night. I'd met him on another site. I laughed until tears were streaming down my cheeks. He was very handsome. He drove quite a distance to see me. And he was totally into me.
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
The last time it happened to me was in my twenties, so I have no recent experience. My last hard fall happened over nine years ago, so I have escaped from limbo long ago.
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In response to: I had a date with a fantastic guy on Saturday night. I'd met him on another site. I laughed until tears were streaming down my cheeks. He was very handsome. He drove quite a distance to see me. And he was totally into me.
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Oh goodness, yes. Something similar happened last year. Took almost that long to get over it and going out with other people didn't help, so I stopped and decided to get my head on straight first.
The pain is horrendous and I wish there was something I could say to help you make it go away, but alas, the only healer is time. I've found that setting myself outside goals, meeting new people (not romantic dates) helped a lot. Still, off and on that hurt came back, but as time passed it got better and eventually went away.
To be honest, I find people who do not offer closure a tad cowardly, but there's nothing one can do to change that. Take it as read that he wants it over and try to move on as best as you can, one day at a time.
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Scubadiva: Oh goodness, yes. Something similar happened last year. Took almost that long to get over it and going out with other people didn't help, so I stopped and decided to get my head on straight first.
The pain is horrendous and I wish there was something I could say to help you make it go away, but alas, the only healer is time. I've found that setting myself outside goals, meeting new people (not romantic dates) helped a lot. Still, off and on that hurt came back, but as time passed it got better and eventually went away.
To be honest, I find people who do not offer closure a tad cowardly, but there's nothing one can do to change that. Take it as read that he wants it over and try to move on as best as you can, one day at a time.
The pain is horrendous and I wish there was something I could say to help you make it go away, but alas, the only healer is time. I've found that setting myself outside goals, meeting new people (not romantic dates) helped a lot. Still, off and on that hurt came back, but as time passed it got better and eventually went away.
To be honest, I find people who do not offer closure a tad cowardly, but there's nothing one can do to change that. Take it as read that he wants it over and try to move on as best as you can, one day at a time.
A few posts back Owen is feeling better, but I found this for anyone still trying to get over someone once close
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This ever happened to u...???.
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Get ovewr the old guy, or you're not ready for the new guy.
I'm just curious, though. Didn't you know your ex's band was going to be playing at the casino you went to? Sounds like maybe you were trying to make the ex jealous? MAYBE? Just a little?
Don't be mad, just think about it.
I'm just curious, though. Didn't you know your ex's band was going to be playing at the casino you went to? Sounds like maybe you were trying to make the ex jealous? MAYBE? Just a little?
Don't be mad, just think about it.
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