Playing the Field ( Archived) (35)

So here's this fellow who told me that he recently hooked up with an old flame. They talked about the possibility of marriage, but he remains non-committal, still letting her believe that she's his girlfriend. They talk off and on because she lives in a different city.

This man tells me that she's willing to sell her apartment and go into business with him.

Now he says he doesn't love her, but would want a relationship with her because otherwise he can't set up the business.

Meanwhile, he's out looking for something "better." He's looking for a woman that he can really fall in love with.

Methinks he's probably telling the same sop story to several women, trying to get each one to think she's "the one" for whom he'd leave the "business opportunity." At the same time, there's this girlfriend who has no clue what he's up to.

He went so far as to tell me that he'd dump her in a heart beat if he finds someone else, but until such time, he will not tell her what he's up to.

In my book, that's the textbook player m.o.

So here's the question:

While a person is unmarried, is it right to play the field?

Is he right or wrong to do what he's doing?

Should he tell the girlfriend? If he does, she'll dump him and he'll be alone. If she never knows, she won't be the wiser and it won't matter.

I actually think this happens a lot on the dating scene, so we might as well discuss it. What do you think?[/quot

He is such a loser, an a**hole

Yes, that's basically it. His justification is that he doesn't love her, therefore he's justified looking for "love". I just feel sorry for the woman who has no clue what this clown is up to... and I feel sorry for the women that he's pursuing. I don't think he's telling them all that he has this lady in another city.

Still, I think we all know that this is probably pretty common in on the dating scene.

Hey Scubadiva

We sometimes get these types of stories on our current affair shows - and actually its scary, because this guy is truly out to hurt someone... in their mind... and that hurt is indelible sometimes... ruins a perfectly good life because they just dont think.... how if it was the other way round...

But usually karma catches up with them... what a dope... tell him he has to come clean with his intentions and not hurt others by his actions.
Cheers darls.

Your Honor .. members of the court

My Client had a ruff childhood .... His motherer did`nt make him dinner one evening in 1987... and one new years eve ,his father got drunk

so my client is nt really guilty ..he is just a bit confused...

No you dont defend "hem." Ahem... Amen.

its a guy solidarity

is it hem or him???

Hi Merriweather

I did tell the man that it's wrong what he's doing and that he should at least not string the girlfriend along, but it goes in one ear and out the other. There's no incentive to dump the girlfriend in case nobody else comes through.... and she's got the money.

You're right, this would have been a good one for a TV talk show

It's him. A "hem" is the seam of a skirt or trousers.

so yall are nailing me to the cross without even hearing MY side of the story....?????


yall are just mean and judgemental !!!!!!