Relationship problem. X-girl friend (25)
Ge0rgeLondon, Greater London, England UK4 Threads 13 PostsI have not seen my x for nearly 2 years. We lost contact, new phone numbers etc. She got in contact yesterday, and wanted to meet me. So I met her, and she was telling me that she has thought about me alot, and missed me so much, and still loves me and about how good I youst to treat her, And basically askin me to get back with her. But she has just come out of a bad, controlling relationship, and she broke up with me and kinda broke my heart. Is she being genuine? but 4 some reason it just don’t seem right, there is something not adding up. It’s all way to quick.
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no she is using you on the rebound she just feels lonely 
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Ge0rge: I have not seen my x for nearly 2 years. We lost contact, new phone numbers etc. She got in contact yesterday, and wanted to meet me. So I met her, and she was telling me that she has thought about me alot, and missed me so much, and still loves me and about how good I youst to treat her, And basically askin me to get back with her. But she has just come out of a bad, controlling relationship, and she broke up with me and kinda broke my heart. Is she being genuine? but 4 some reason it just don’t seem right, there is something not adding up. It’s all way to quick.
Personally, I never go back..
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HJFinAZ: Personally, I never go back..
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Sometimes you don't realize how special something is until we loose it.
I think you are right to be wary, she needs time to think and you ned to decide do you really want her back jmo
I think you are right to be wary, she needs time to think and you ned to decide do you really want her back jmo
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We can all tell you you shouldn't go back to her, but we don't know how you feel only you know that.
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saseez: no she is using you on the rebound she just feels lonely
And she knows that you won't treat her badly like the man she just left. Offer her your friendship if you feel you can do that, but unless you want your heart broken again, I'd be careful about a relationship. Of course, it could also be a case of now she realizes what she had with you and honestly still has deep feelings for you and is being genuine. I'd proceed cautiously and slowly if you still have feelings for her.
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She needs to rebuild your trust. If she is willing to take things slow, and help heal the damage that she caused by breaking up with you then she probably is being genuine.
You also need to look at yourself and decide if the things you loved about her are still there.
How did she treat you in the relationship etc. This is your opportunity to challenge her to fix any wrongs that there were before. You two could build a stronger relationship this time around.
You also need to look at yourself and decide if the things you loved about her are still there.
How did she treat you in the relationship etc. This is your opportunity to challenge her to fix any wrongs that there were before. You two could build a stronger relationship this time around.
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morgan5: Sometimes you don't realize how special something is until we loose it.
I think you are right to be wary, she needs time to think and you ned to decide do you really want her back jmo
I think you are right to be wary, she needs time to think and you ned to decide do you really want her back jmo
As the song says, "you don't know what you've got til it's gone".
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Yea, I am thinking don't go back, and I told her. She is probably on the rebound or wants some attention. But there is that thing at the back of my mind thinking maybe it could work. It's prob where I still must have feelings.
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druidess6308: As the song says, "you don't know what you've got til it's gone".
yep, can be so true 
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Ge0rge: Yea, I am thinking don't go back, and I told her. She is probably on the rebound or wants some attention. But there is that thing at the back of my mind thinking maybe it could work. It's prob where I still must have feelings.
As Morgan said, only you can decide what to do here. You know how she broke it off with you, and what she said then, and how you feel about her now. I will say that one thing it would be good to do is at least be kind about it if you reject her now. There's no need to be unkind unless she pushes you too far.
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In response to: I have not seen my x for nearly 2 years. We lost contact, new phone numbers etc. She got in contact yesterday, and wanted to meet me. So I met her, and she was telling me that she has thought about me alot, and missed me so much, and still loves me and about how good I youst to treat her, And basically askin me to get back with her. But she has just come out of a bad, controlling relationship, and she broke up with me and kinda broke my heart. Is she being genuine? but 4 some reason it just don’t seem right, there is something not adding up. It’s all way to quick.
You said that for some reason it doesn't seem right, there's something not adding up.
There could be a million reasons: she's definitely in the rebound. Maybe she wants to show her ex that she has moved on, and since she's still hurting, someone has to join her in her pity party.
Or, she has realized 2 years later that she didn't give you guys a chance and now she wants to recapture the magic.
Or, and this is really far-fetched...she's pregnant, her ex doesn't want to hear about having a baby, her religion convictions are stopping her from ending an unwanted pregnancy, and she needs a scape goat...Maybe she knows you still have feelings for her, and that you would take her back, regardless...
Or...she's lonely and needs comfort, in which case she needs a friend...not to jump into another relationship
Just don't rush into it...but don't take too long either to make up your mind.
G'Luck!
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Ge0rge: I have not seen my x for nearly 2 years. We lost contact, new phone numbers etc. She got in contact yesterday, and wanted to meet me. So I met her, and she was telling me that she has thought about me alot, and missed me so much, and still loves me and about how good I youst to treat her, And basically askin me to get back with her. But she has just come out of a bad, controlling relationship, and she broke up with me and kinda broke my heart. Is she being genuine? but 4 some reason it just don’t seem right, there is something not adding up. It’s all way to quick.
When you say "it just doesnt seem right," thats your natural instinct, self preservation warning light screaming at you not to go back with her, trust your instinct and find someone who is right for you..
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HJFinAZ: Personally, I never go back..
Marrying the same woman three times doesn't count as going back?
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Ge0rge: I have not seen my x for nearly 2 years. We lost contact, new phone numbers etc. She got in contact yesterday, and wanted to meet me. So I met her, and she was telling me that she has thought about me alot, and missed me so much, and still loves me and about how good I youst to treat her, And basically askin me to get back with her. But she has just come out of a bad, controlling relationship, and she broke up with me and kinda broke my heart. Is she being genuine? but 4 some reason it just don’t seem right, there is something not adding up. It’s all way to quick.
is that about X- Men wolverine `s origin ???...
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In response to: I have not seen my x for nearly 2 years. We lost contact, new phone numbers etc. She got in contact yesterday, and wanted to meet me. So I met her, and she was telling me that she has thought about me alot, and missed me so much, and still loves me and about how good I youst to treat her, And basically askin me to get back with her. But she has just come out of a bad, controlling relationship, and she broke up with me and kinda broke my heart. Is she being genuine? but 4 some reason it just don’t seem right, there is something not adding up. It’s all way to quick.
She wants to use you, or show her ex she is moved on,You can be friends you guys
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Saseez is right. It's a "rebound" situation.
It doesn't mean she's insincere, but right now she's lonely and feels rejected and she's turning to you for comfort and reassurance.
But watch out, the rebound effect wears off as quickly as it appears.
From one day to the next she is likely to throw you away like a used tissue. My counsel would be to keep a healthy distance and not let your heart get involved unless she proves she's sincere over a period of several months.
In the meantime its a better situation for friendship than romance.
It doesn't mean she's insincere, but right now she's lonely and feels rejected and she's turning to you for comfort and reassurance.
But watch out, the rebound effect wears off as quickly as it appears.
From one day to the next she is likely to throw you away like a used tissue. My counsel would be to keep a healthy distance and not let your heart get involved unless she proves she's sincere over a period of several months.
In the meantime its a better situation for friendship than romance.
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I don't go back once a relationship is over....I just can't seem to bring back those feelings once they are gone....some people will say anything to get back what they have lost.....be cautious...
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