To Annouce or not to annouce - that is the question (146)
tainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago215 Threads 2 Polls 3,777 PostsI've not been on CS as much as I would like but when I have been able to get on I've noticed a few announcing their new found happiness at finding a new love. I've always found such people to be brave souls, especially navigating the often choppy waters of public opinion on CS. Its a crap shoot as to what the responses will be. And as I've seen the last few times I've been on, things can get rather nasty. I'm more of a private person so don't think there would be any sharing for me unless its privately with a few near and dear friends, but I understand that other would prefer to let others know publicly (including those who might be viewing them as a potential mate) that they are off the market. What do others think? To announce or not?
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For some people, announcing is very good.
But on the other hand, it isn't such a good idea for some people.
They are definitely treading on some mighty choppy waters as you say and it is a crap shoot on the CS members comments back to the announcement.
But on the other hand, it isn't such a good idea for some people.
They are definitely treading on some mighty choppy waters as you say and it is a crap shoot on the CS members comments back to the announcement.
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Personally no I wouldn't do it, partly because I like to keep my private life just that.Also I have noticed if things don't work people often feel akward continuing to post, and leave which is a shame and others get involved which complicates it further.
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I like to see the postings and pictures of people getting married. That is providing they haven't gotten a bunch of the CS members angry with previous postings.
I agree with Morgan, it's probably better to keep your private life as is....private.
I agree with Morgan, it's probably better to keep your private life as is....private.
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morgan5: Personally no I wouldn't do it, partly because I like to keep my private life just that.
Also I have noticed if things don't work people often feel akward continuing to post, and leave which is a shame and others get involved which complicates it further.
Also I have noticed if things don't work people often feel akward continuing to post, and leave which is a shame and others get involved which complicates it further.
then i guess i'm going to have to tell them..... hello everyone
over the last three months Morgan and i have not been talking, and we are not a couple now.
that wasn't so bad now, was it?
yes ,i think thats alot of extra preasure most could do without.
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I have been here for a while now, and met some nice people, and if there was something nice going on wiht me, sure i would love to share with the nice people i have been chating with, its happiness i would like to share with others friends. but all has its advantage and disadvantage.
Having seen how things could turn out, i would rather keep it to myself till iam 200% sure, maybe even just keep it to myself self and discreetly kiss cs goodbye.
Having seen how things could turn out, i would rather keep it to myself till iam 200% sure, maybe even just keep it to myself self and discreetly kiss cs goodbye.
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morgan5: Personally no I wouldn't do it, partly because I like to keep my private life just that.
Also I have noticed if things don't work people often feel akward continuing to post, and leave which is a shame and others get involved which complicates it further.
Also I have noticed if things don't work people often feel akward continuing to post, and leave which is a shame and others get involved which complicates it further.
hiya
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What? Morgan didn't tell us that you have not been talking? Awwww...c'mon now Morgan. Spill the beans and do tell
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i want all to know i am in a committed relationship and no longer on the market we have deep love for each other and it is a union made in heaven, unless one of you rich ladies would like to make a better offer i am open to all bids 
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yes, definetily i would keep it on my own. there are so much bitterness and negative feelings. like that one was published, i read it and felt sick. i cant understand, maybe the name of this site, should be: DISCONNECTING SINGLES
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I suppose on the good side, announcing lets others know you've been successful in your quest to find someone special and that you are off the market so to speak, so you won't be entertaining other suitors(hopefully). But I have found that on the negative end if the responses one gets are not good then there might be an urge to defend the relationship. This can lead to many problems. Firstly if two people REALLY believe in their love then there is nothing to defend. It is what it is. Defending only leads to trouble, where people say things they probably don't mean and cannot take back and do things that are not well thought out. Enemies made and friendships ruined. Expose a weak flank and you give an opening to those who would take advantage of it. Its just another one of the risks we take in life.
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Should I or shouldn't I?
In response to: I've not been on CS as much as I would like but when I have been able to get on I've noticed a few announcing their new found happiness at finding a new love. I've always found such people to be brave souls, especially navigating the often choppy waters of public opinion on CS. Its a crap shoot as to what the responses will be. And as I've seen the last few times I've been on, things can get rather nasty. I'm more of a private person so don't think there would be any sharing for me unless its privately with a few near and dear friends, but I understand that other would prefer to let others know publicly (including those who might be viewing them as a potential mate) that they are off the market. What do others think? To announce or not?
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LILLYLADY: For some people, announcing is very good.
But on the other hand, it isn't such a good idea for some people.
They are definitely treading on some mighty choppy waters as you say and it is a crap shoot on the CS members comments back to the announcement.
But don't you think that when someone announces anything on a club forum they open the door for whatever the other members might be thinking? Not liking this sort of thing, the option would be to not post/share ideas. But then why be in a club that entertains an exchange of ideas? Do folks just want to hear that people agree with them, or are they truly interested in a lively, healthy exchange of ideas? Your thoughts, please.But on the other hand, it isn't such a good idea for some people.
They are definitely treading on some mighty choppy waters as you say and it is a crap shoot on the CS members comments back to the announcement.
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tainogirl: I suppose on the good side, announcing lets others know you've been successful in your quest to find someone special and that you are off the market so to speak, so you won't be entertaining other suitors(hopefully). But I have found that on the negative end if the responses one gets are not good then there might be an urge to defend the relationship. This can lead to many problems. Firstly if two people REALLY believe in their love then there is nothing to defend. It is what it is. Defending only leads to trouble, where people say things they probably don't mean and cannot take back and do things that are not well thought out. Enemies made and friendships ruined. Expose a weak flank and you give an opening to those who would take advantage of it. Its just another one of the risks we take in life.
the problem with announcing is if it don't work all the world knows and then take up to protect or forewarn the next victem so to speak, i think women more so than men have a tendency to try and protect one another in this regards, which is not all bad
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oranges2apples: then i guess i'm going to have to tell them..... hello everyone
over the last three months Morgan and i have not been talking, and we are not a couple now.
that wasn't so bad now, was it? yes ,i think thats alot of extra preasure most could do without.
over the last three months Morgan and i have not been talking, and we are not a couple now.
that wasn't so bad now, was it? yes ,i think thats alot of extra preasure most could do without.
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LILLYLADY: What? Morgan didn't tell us that you have not been talking? Awwww...c'mon now Morgan. Spill the beans and do tell
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YEAS right, we take risks on life. but those risks are not here.
but it just makes me sick, to read these threads sometimes, so i dont need to read them...
i took a risk tonight to meet a girl from this site. well, i think they thought im stupid. so, they found im not, and maybe the police of finland is going to search what they are doing for. but i could make them myself to find out to not to joke with me..
and, never go neverwhere with a girl without a picture..., or a boy. and remember your principles.
but it just makes me sick, to read these threads sometimes, so i dont need to read them...
i took a risk tonight to meet a girl from this site. well, i think they thought im stupid. so, they found im not, and maybe the police of finland is going to search what they are doing for. but i could make them myself to find out to not to joke with me..
and, never go neverwhere with a girl without a picture..., or a boy. and remember your principles.
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I guess another plus would be that reading of a successful union gives many hope that it is possible and that probably we won't all still be single on CS and using a walker to get to the computer.
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My advice is don't do it as some people on the net reading things are just not normal human beings.
I've heard of cases where some revel in trying to break up new relationships on here and other websites for their own entertainment.
So my advice as a former moderator of another site is keep your private life private, unless you are willing to take all the flack from unstable people that can, will and do post anything that comes into their coffee bean sized brain.
I've heard of cases where some revel in trying to break up new relationships on here and other websites for their own entertainment.
So my advice as a former moderator of another site is keep your private life private, unless you are willing to take all the flack from unstable people that can, will and do post anything that comes into their coffee bean sized brain.
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kaikoivu: YEAS right, we take risks on life. but those risks are not here.
but it just makes me sick, to read these threads sometimes, so i dont need to read them...
i took a risk tonight to meet a girl from this site. well, i think they thought im stupid. so, they found im not, and maybe the police of finland is going to search what they are doing for. but i could make them myself to find out to not to joke with me..
and, never go neverwhere with a girl without a picture..., or a boy. and remember your principles.
WOW man--so WHAT happened? Dang, you make it sound like the X Files...but it just makes me sick, to read these threads sometimes, so i dont need to read them...
i took a risk tonight to meet a girl from this site. well, i think they thought im stupid. so, they found im not, and maybe the police of finland is going to search what they are doing for. but i could make them myself to find out to not to joke with me..
and, never go neverwhere with a girl without a picture..., or a boy. and remember your principles.
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