Are we looking for the perfect mate instead of a real person? (80)
P.S. Someone may be the most 'perfect' person and still won't be compatible with me.
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TheresMyFriend: I'm looking for what is "perfect for me"...not the world!"
Well said.
It's nice to find someone with complementary imperfections too.
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HJFinAZ: This is CS, a "FANTASY" world..
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What makes for a perfect person? What's a real person?
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katt1017: Well said.
It's nice to find someone with complementary imperfections too.
It's nice to find someone with complementary imperfections too.
Thank you, mam!
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somechick: What makes for a perfect person? What's a real person?
Hey girl...staying warm tonight?
2 questions, with millions of answers to them.
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TheresMyFriend: Hey girl...staying warm tonight?
2 questions, with millions of answers to them.
2 questions, with millions of answers to them.
Hi
Yup satying warm.I hear people say that they're searching for this perfect and real person so just thought I'd ask.
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somechick: What makes for a perfect person? What's a real person?
Real person: Someone you can poke, and they react.
Perfect person: Someone you can poke, and they react in a positive manner.
Kinda like the Pilsbury doughboy. hee hee
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kidatheart: Real person: Someone you can poke, and they react.
Perfect person: Someone you can poke, and they react in a positive manner.
Kinda like the Pilsbury doughboy. hee hee
Perfect person: Someone you can poke, and they react in a positive manner.
Kinda like the Pilsbury doughboy. hee hee
Guess I'll have to find me a Pillsbury doughboy.
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AsleepInNJ: you can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need.
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TheresMyFriend: Thanks for the kind words...
He just has to be a 10 in YOUR eyes, regardless of what number anyone else gives.
We all have our own "rating system" built in!
I may say your a 10, and someone else may say a 5...but that doesn't make you any less than what you are !
I understand you perfectly.
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year!
John
He just has to be a 10 in YOUR eyes, regardless of what number anyone else gives.
We all have our own "rating system" built in!
I may say your a 10, and someone else may say a 5...but that doesn't make you any less than what you are !
I understand you perfectly.
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year!
John
Thanks John. I totally agree with you. Too often people are so shallow about looks or they won't date someone that doesn't have a lot of money. I am looking for a good heart; thoughtful man that is gentle and kind. As for money, if he can pay his bills, thats good enough for me. I met a guy a week ago that has lots of money; owns a hummer, mercedes, couple of motorcycles, and he even showed me that he truly owns all this stuff. I wasn't impressed. He had no personality what so ever. I couldn't wait for the date to be over.
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itsallme112: When I look at the number of women I met and thought they were not a good match, I question if my expectations were too high. Likewise, myself selected as not a good match by others. Are our fantasies taking the place of reality?
Everybody has room for improvement. Far too many aren't trying though, which leads me to think that may be 1 reason they're single and on here which is sad.
Regards!
- Michael
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Michael211_2000: Everybody has room for improvement. Far too many aren't trying though, which leads me to think that may be 1 reason they're single and on here which is sad.
Regards!
- Michael
Regards!
- Michael
In what way would you want a partner to improve? Is it fitness, tolerance, education? Just curious as to what you consider improving one's self?
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navygirl1: Thanks John. I totally agree with you. Too often people are so shallow about looks or they won't date someone that doesn't have a lot of money. I am looking for a good heart; thoughtful man that is gentle and kind. As for money, if he can pay his bills, thats good enough for me. I met a guy a week ago that has lots of money; owns a hummer, mercedes, couple of motorcycles, and he even showed me that he truly owns all this stuff. I wasn't impressed. He had no personality what so ever. I couldn't wait for the date to be over.
He brought the titles to all his stuff on a date to show? Ok that's just a little odd IMHO.
Maybe he just doesn't know any other way to interact with a woman on a date other than to try to impress her with his monetary worth? Maybe he was just trying to show in the most literal way possible that he's a responsible person (as opposed to so many guys who are deep in debt and own nothing more than the shoes they're wearing, living in a trailer house with their mother)?
Maybe he's not a bad person, just a little clueless... I feel that way often myself truth be told.
- Michael
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navygirl1: In what way would you want a partner to improve? Is it fitness, tolerance, education? Just curious as to what you consider improving one's self?
All of thee above.
- Michael
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Michael211_2000: All of thee above.
- Michael
- Michael
I recently met a truck driver who feels he has to return to school to educate himself because he felt that is what I wanted. I assured him that wasn't necessary. I think if he is happy the way he is then don't change; the song " I love you just the way you are" comes to mind. He is into fitness which is good not because of looks but health issues. People my age are having a lot of cardiac problems which worries me. I think that with the both of us, we both are trying to improve ourselves but it shouldn't be just for the other person; it should be for yourself. If you do it for someone else; you end up resenting that person. I think you do end up changing or improving yourself for your partner but you should feel comfortable doing it; not being pressured into it. I feels its always something you should discuss with your partner not demand it.
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itsallme112: When I look at the number of women I met and thought they were not a good match, I question if my expectations were too high. Likewise, myself selected as not a good match by others. Are our fantasies taking the place of reality?
Yes, I think so.
Whether sub-consciously or otherwise, we can be in danger of having pre-determined requirements. If all the boxes aren't ticked....
It only leads to disappointment.
Personally, I wouldn't want a perfect person anyway, I'm happier with a human being, faults and all.
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Nope, I don't have any fantasies - I just know what I want and, best thing of all, I KNOW it's possible (from experience). I'm not looking for anyone "perfect" though, far from it.