Are you just waiting for it? (26)
I try to keep an open mind at the beginning of a relationship, but unfortunetly, I do sometimes find myself thinking negatively and wondering, 'Well this is too good to be true, I wonder how many lies he's told me?', 'When is this guy gonna bail on me like the rest?' I try real hard to start w/a relaxed and trusting peace of mind, but I sometimes let the past get the best of me.....
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it is pretty hard to do once you have been stomped on that's for sure!!
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Like all things new you have to just enjoy them,being too cautions can and does cause more harm then good.I always say that trust should be given until proven other wise.
Sure you watch out for warning signs,but you go with it in stride,allow yourself to feel and when it stops feeling right,you close the door,why lose out on what could be,cause you worried about the might have been.
I can't change yesterday,but I sure as hell am incharge of today.
Just my opion tho,what do I know.
Sure you watch out for warning signs,but you go with it in stride,allow yourself to feel and when it stops feeling right,you close the door,why lose out on what could be,cause you worried about the might have been.
I can't change yesterday,but I sure as hell am incharge of today.
Just my opion tho,what do I know.
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For those who are just waiting for it to happen what should your partner do to reassure you so you will be more relaxed?
There are always some good reasons to be late or talking to another women or man and the such..
There are always some good reasons to be late or talking to another women or man and the such..
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I think relationships can wait for now, I don't even wanna think about one!
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HONESTY,can't stress it enough,and when in doubt,ask,one shold NEVER assume.
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I would never compare---we are all individuals in our own right
Seek not perfect love--- seek to love perfectly
Seek not perfect love--- seek to love perfectly
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So, beeing in a writing mood this eveningm ore likely morning, I´m willing to make less conclusions in one way, on the other hand i´m making new ones which i haven´t done before.
Hope this does make sense.
Finally, i would think about myself i´m a possitve thinker and let me experience the bad issues, some people do it opposite.
Lutz
Hope this does make sense.
Finally, i would think about myself i´m a possitve thinker and let me experience the bad issues, some people do it opposite.
Lutz
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Great answer - especially the last sentence!
I keep an open mind and try to enjoy meeting new people but sometimes the warning signs are hard to ignore. Like a camera on a tripod in the bedroom as you're given a tour of the house....
I keep an open mind and try to enjoy meeting new people but sometimes the warning signs are hard to ignore. Like a camera on a tripod in the bedroom as you're given a tour of the house....
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You have to keep an open mind or else the preoccupation of looking for things will get the better of you. If you look hard enough for something, you may just convince yourself of it.....
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No, it's impossible to do so. If you have had a bad experience then you are naturally wary until you can feel that things are different and you can relax. It's normal and a way of protecting yourself, we are hopefully wiser when we have gone through bad times and can identify bad vibes.
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My issue with this is: EVERYONE has a past. If you want to find something, you can ALWAYS find it. I guess I prefer ignorance...but then, I have been called naive. But in my world, everyone starts clean. I do have good intuitions though...so I get away with being naive.
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When starting a knew relationship I try not to let my past get in the way.However, I have found that since i've been lied to & cheated on in the past I find that it is easier to also listen to my head as much as my heart.I am also better at seeing the red flags earlier than in the past.It only took me 2 months this time.
Chrissy
Chrissy
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To me, each relationship is fresh - No 2 people are alike, so nothing from another should play a part in the new one unless you broke up with one that has hurt you, and for some reason chose to get back together with them. It's not fair to either side, causes chaos, and is something I feel should be avoided if at all possible.
Rich
Rich
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Well I try my best not to. But its hard when you have been disappointed and let down the past few times know what I mean? It gets to the point that you automaticaly assume things before even realizing you do because you are so used to expecting the worse.
I don't like to judge people before I get to know them and I don't like to generalize everyone because of a few bad experiences but sometimes you just can't help it I guess.
I don't like to judge people before I get to know them and I don't like to generalize everyone because of a few bad experiences but sometimes you just can't help it I guess.
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Im always very nervous about beginning a new relationship, but now after my ex...Im even more cautious. I have a man in my life now that I think is very nice and kind but there are somethings that he does or says that compeletly freak me out...only because of the way that I was treated in the past. I work very hard at not trying to compare him to my ex because they are two different people and that would be fair to him or myself.
To not be cautious and learn from the past would just be opening the door to the same kind of cruel treatment.
To not be cautious and learn from the past would just be opening the door to the same kind of cruel treatment.
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I always keep an open mind, and I never really look for faults, as we all have them. I think to many people get hung up on the little things..
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im actualy a pretty trusting soul....caused me to be burned more than afew times but i still hold fast, never been the jeaslous or possessive type either
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and evenin pet
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and evenin pet
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So my question is when you start a new relationship are you just waiting for it to happen? are you looking for the slightest sign that somethings not right
Or are you honestly able to enter a new relationship completely relaxed with an open mind?
Paul