Have I set the bar too high? (344)
stefonline: The ferris wheel.....romantic.....
Especially when you can pay the operator a fiver to stop our car at the top for a good long while.
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In response to: I've been conversing with a man via internet, text, & phone calls. We've connected on so many levels. We had very deep conversations & had the same opinion on many subjects. There was a definite connection & we both felt it. I felt myself really liking him even before we met.
We had our first real date last night. While we had a really nice time & great conversation, the physical spark wasn't extremely there for me. I really WANTED it to be, but have to admit... it was dim. I'm so upset & disappointed in myself. I've dated a quite a few men who made me weak at the knees, only to find that we didn't connect intellectually, spiritually, or some or many other ways. With this guy, everything was wonderful... until I met him face-to-face.
Am I giving up on Mr. Possibly Right if I don't try again? When do we say enough is enough & stop looking for the WHOLE picture? I feel like I've possibly closed the door on quite a few potential wonderful relationships for being so shallow. Have you ever run into this dilemma, & what do you do? Should you go for someone who doesn't really thrill you physically? I really need some advice here!
We had our first real date last night. While we had a really nice time & great conversation, the physical spark wasn't extremely there for me. I really WANTED it to be, but have to admit... it was dim. I'm so upset & disappointed in myself. I've dated a quite a few men who made me weak at the knees, only to find that we didn't connect intellectually, spiritually, or some or many other ways. With this guy, everything was wonderful... until I met him face-to-face.
Am I giving up on Mr. Possibly Right if I don't try again? When do we say enough is enough & stop looking for the WHOLE picture? I feel like I've possibly closed the door on quite a few potential wonderful relationships for being so shallow. Have you ever run into this dilemma, & what do you do? Should you go for someone who doesn't really thrill you physically? I really need some advice here!
I am sorry that you have run into this situation. I have also had the same experience. The man was wonderful, we were a perfect match on every level, but when we met, there was nothing. I had to say goodbye and never saw him again. I think the spark is critical to start a relationship.
The spark is your physical reaction to a person and you can't make it happen. Clicking on other levels is important to ensure a successful long term relationship, but I don't personally believe there is any hope without the spark..
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ltlmstrouble: I am sorry that you have run into this situation. I have also had the same experience. The man was wonderful, we were a perfect match on every level, but when we met, there was nothing. I had to say goodbye and never saw him again. I think the spark is critical to start a relationship.
The spark is your physical reaction to a person and you can't make it happen. Clicking on other levels is important to ensure a successful long term relationship, but I don't personally believe there is any hope without the spark..
The spark is your physical reaction to a person and you can't make it happen. Clicking on other levels is important to ensure a successful long term relationship, but I don't personally believe there is any hope without the spark..
I'm a bright spark..... how about me
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Let's face it guys... This is 2010, women are more independent, have good jobs, many are professionals, they make good $$$$..
I suggest from now on, the pay FOR EVERYTHING!!!
I suggest from now on, the pay FOR EVERYTHING!!!
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ALL THE TIME!!!
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Englishman55: I'm a bright spark..... how about me
LOL and to think you just invited Stef to Tuscany....
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HJFinAZ: Let's face it guys... This is 2010, women are more independent, have good jobs, many are professionals, they make good $$$$..
I suggest from now on, the pay FOR EVERYTHING!!!
I suggest from now on, the pay FOR EVERYTHING!!!
Think your stirring the t-cup HJ.....
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ltlmstrouble: LOL and to think you just invited Stef to Tuscany....
It's called... keeping my options open !
That or desperation
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stefonline: Think your stirring the t-cup HJ.....
ME????? Sweet, innocent, obedient me??
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Englishman55: It's called... keeping my options open !
That or desperation
That or desperation
I hear ya......
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stefonline: I hear ya......
I just read my post again Stef.... and I meant desperation on my part.
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Englishman55: I just read my post again Stef.... and I meant desperation on my part.
That's ok....I know what you ment...no explaination required....
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stefonline: That's ok....I know what you ment...no explaination required....
Phew... thankyou
And you are welcome to come and explore this lovely part of Italy and I would be glad to be your guide.
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Englishman55: Phew... thankyou
And you are welcome to come and explore this lovely part of Italy and I would be glad to be your guide.
And you are welcome to come and explore this lovely part of Italy and I would be glad to be your guide.
No problem...thank's for the invite....
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Englishman55: Is this the "gender equality" thread ?
One does wonder .........
I'm hearing alot of excuses though .....
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sweetowen: Equality goes both ways, J. It seems to me that all we women have done is taken on more roles... in MOST instances. Yes, we're now in the workforce, but we still go home to cook, clean, do laundry, etc. And many men (not all, mind you) still go to work & expect the dinner to be on the table when they get home, the kids taken care of, & everything to be spotless.
Sorry,, but I don't see a lot of that lately. Instead I see alot more families where the guy takes care of the kids - shuttling them to school every morning and entertains them while the wife works and spends at Costco weekends.....
Times have changed here.
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sweetowen: Equality goes both ways, J. It seems to me that all we women have done is taken on more roles... in MOST instances. Yes, we're now in the workforce, but we still go home to cook, clean, do laundry, etc. And many men (not all, mind you) still go to work & expect the dinner to be on the table when they get home, the kids taken care of, & everything to be spotless.
I have a nephew who worked a 40 hr week and also took on the role of being both mother/father,taking both his kids to and from school,cooked meals, did the laundry,cleaned house,attended parent teacher conferences etc while the childrens mother contributed absolutely nothing.She sat around all day watching soap operas with some of her lady friends.She even made him a chore list to do when he got home from work but she was the one who was home all day.Go figure.They've since divorced and he's now married to someone else thank god.
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somechick: I have a nephew who worked a 40 hr week and also took on the role of being both mother/father,taking both his kids to and from school,cooked meals, did the laundry,cleaned house,attended parent teacher conferences etc while the childrens mother contributed absolutely nothing.She sat around all day watching soap operas with some of her lady friends.She even made him a chore list to do when he got home from work but she was the one who was home all day.Go figure.They've since divorced and he's now married to someone else thank god.
I was him in my marriage. Would it be OK if he'd been the wife & doing all that? Not saying what's right or wrong. And heck, I never started this thread with the intent of it evolving to this.
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sweetowen: I was him in my marriage. Would it be OK if he'd been the wife & doing all that? Not saying what's right or wrong. And heck, I never started this thread with the intent of it evolving to this.
But it has.....and this will be one of the main arguements for the next few decades ..........
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The big wheel ?
The waggon wheel ?
or the wheels on the bus ?
The ferris wheel.....romantic.....