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mariespoodles: Am I missing something when I say "what's up with no drama?"...
Doesn't life offer enough drama for us to face and deal with, without creating it between two people...
It seems people get bored if all is steady, pleasant and cruising ... Would love to just get on with getting to know someone without the put downs, in your face, distant attitude and pity parties that come with these dramatic behaviours... I'm so not into the mood swings etc.., that come with this BS... I am very serious about keeping this kind of BS out of my life and if they happen, I'm quick to express my opinion on the matter and proceed to the next exit
Am I in the minority or majority when it comes to my level of zero tolerance on this or am I better to have some tolerance... Just to be clear, I most certainly have no regrets with past decisions and will say I was more tolerant back then... I did however allow this type of BS in my life with negative results.
I don't expect the unrealistic perfect... I'm not saying life itself should be drama free... I am saying however, that it would be better not to have these ego driven, man made ones happening.
I do want a man that can leave this form of drama at the door though and give trust and respect a chance... I love excitement and inspiration... huge difference as I see it...
... I would like some feedback... is it too much to ask from a man???... please enlighten me...
Oh and for those who think I'm only referring to men, I'm sure this would be present in reverse as well, so feel free to respond to both genders.
there is little in this world that I despise more than drama Doesn't life offer enough drama for us to face and deal with, without creating it between two people...
It seems people get bored if all is steady, pleasant and cruising ... Would love to just get on with getting to know someone without the put downs, in your face, distant attitude and pity parties that come with these dramatic behaviours... I'm so not into the mood swings etc.., that come with this BS... I am very serious about keeping this kind of BS out of my life and if they happen, I'm quick to express my opinion on the matter and proceed to the next exit
Am I in the minority or majority when it comes to my level of zero tolerance on this or am I better to have some tolerance... Just to be clear, I most certainly have no regrets with past decisions and will say I was more tolerant back then... I did however allow this type of BS in my life with negative results.
I don't expect the unrealistic perfect... I'm not saying life itself should be drama free... I am saying however, that it would be better not to have these ego driven, man made ones happening.
I do want a man that can leave this form of drama at the door though and give trust and respect a chance... I love excitement and inspiration... huge difference as I see it...
... I would like some feedback... is it too much to ask from a man???... please enlighten me...
Oh and for those who think I'm only referring to men, I'm sure this would be present in reverse as well, so feel free to respond to both genders.
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mariespoodles: Am I missing something when I say "what's up with no drama?"...
Doesn't life offer enough drama for us to face and deal with, without creating it between two people...
It seems people get bored if all is steady, pleasant and cruising ... Would love to just get on with getting to know someone without the put downs, in your face, distant attitude and pity parties that come with these dramatic behaviours... I'm so not into the mood swings etc.., that come with this BS... I am very serious about keeping this kind of BS out of my life and if they happen, I'm quick to express my opinion on the matter and proceed to the next exit
Am I in the minority or majority when it comes to my level of zero tolerance on this or am I better to have some tolerance... Just to be clear, I most certainly have no regrets with past decisions and will say I was more tolerant back then... I did however allow this type of BS in my life with negative results.
I don't expect the unrealistic perfect... I'm not saying life itself should be drama free... I am saying however, that it would be better not to have these ego driven, man made ones happening.
I do want a man that can leave this form of drama at the door though and give trust and respect a chance... I love excitement and inspiration... huge difference as I see it...
... I would like some feedback... is it too much to ask from a man???... please enlighten me...
Oh and for those who think I'm only referring to men, I'm sure this would be present in reverse as well, so feel free to respond to both genders.
Doesn't life offer enough drama for us to face and deal with, without creating it between two people...
It seems people get bored if all is steady, pleasant and cruising ... Would love to just get on with getting to know someone without the put downs, in your face, distant attitude and pity parties that come with these dramatic behaviours... I'm so not into the mood swings etc.., that come with this BS... I am very serious about keeping this kind of BS out of my life and if they happen, I'm quick to express my opinion on the matter and proceed to the next exit
Am I in the minority or majority when it comes to my level of zero tolerance on this or am I better to have some tolerance... Just to be clear, I most certainly have no regrets with past decisions and will say I was more tolerant back then... I did however allow this type of BS in my life with negative results.
I don't expect the unrealistic perfect... I'm not saying life itself should be drama free... I am saying however, that it would be better not to have these ego driven, man made ones happening.
I do want a man that can leave this form of drama at the door though and give trust and respect a chance... I love excitement and inspiration... huge difference as I see it...
... I would like some feedback... is it too much to ask from a man???... please enlighten me...
Oh and for those who think I'm only referring to men, I'm sure this would be present in reverse as well, so feel free to respond to both genders.
I am sure everybody wants it drama-free.
...assuming that you know what others want and that they know what you want...
Hard to give a feedback with no concrete examples of what you actually consider to be drama.
Could it be just a get-to-know-each-other phase?
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denmcintyre: there is little in this world that I despise more than drama
Life has enough of a challenging kick to it without including ego driven dramas in our getting to know each other. Thanks for the support dentyre
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mariespoodles: Life has enough of a challenging kick to it without including ego driven dramas in our getting to know each other.
Thanks for the support dentyre
Thanks for the support dentyre
I think the dramas created by humans are normally ego driven and I think it's safe to say that all humans have an ego of some sort/degree.
It is often said that you must first love yourself before you can love another, so surely, to love yourself has to be ego driven.
I guess what you are saying is that you do not like those people with a large ego and I would agree with you on that.
Is that then not part of the whole courtship ritual........
To find someone with a compatible ego one of similar stature to our own
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Englishman55: I think the dramas created by humans are normally ego driven and I think it's safe to say that all humans have an ego of some sort/degree.
It is often said that you must first love yourself before you can love another, so surely, to love yourself has to be ego driven.
I guess what you are saying is that you do not like those people with a large ego and I would agree with you on that.
Is that then not part of the whole courtship ritual........
To find someone with a compatible ego one of similar stature to our own
It is often said that you must first love yourself before you can love another, so surely, to love yourself has to be ego driven.
I guess what you are saying is that you do not like those people with a large ego and I would agree with you on that.
Is that then not part of the whole courtship ritual........
To find someone with a compatible ego one of similar stature to our own
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Laura25: I am sure everybody wants it drama-free.
...assuming that you know what others want and that they know what you want...
Hard to give a feedback with no concrete examples of what you actually consider to be drama.
Could it be just a get-to-know-each-other phase?
...assuming that you know what others want and that they know what you want...
Hard to give a feedback with no concrete examples of what you actually consider to be drama.
Could it be just a get-to-know-each-other phase?
Yes Laura, I believe most of us want drama free too but know very little when it comes to achieving it on a conscious level...
The dramas I speak of go like this:
Any type of intimidation, interrogation, aloofness or poor me interactions and do you play them too and get caught up by them??... I'm good at not getting caught up in them but don't find many who r prepared to not use them... does this make it clearer
for some more feedback? which is very appreciated BTW 
...And is it wise to accept these dramas as just a get-to-know-each-other phase type of excuse or is that just setting the tone for things to come?... I have experienced it in the past by taking these dramas lightly in the first place...
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mariespoodles: Am I missing something when I say "what's up with no drama?"...
Doesn't life offer enough drama for us to face and deal with, without creating it between two people...
It seems people get bored if all is steady, pleasant and cruising ... Would love to just get on with getting to know someone without the put downs, in your face, distant attitude and pity parties that come with these dramatic behaviours... I'm so not into the mood swings etc.., that come with this BS... I am very serious about keeping this kind of BS out of my life and if they happen, I'm quick to express my opinion on the matter and proceed to the next exit
Am I in the minority or majority when it comes to my level of zero tolerance on this or am I better to have some tolerance... Just to be clear, I most certainly have no regrets with past decisions and will say I was more tolerant back then... I did however allow this type of BS in my life with negative results.
I don't expect the unrealistic perfect... I'm not saying life itself should be drama free... I am saying however, that it would be better not to have these ego driven, man made ones happening.
I do want a man that can leave this form of drama at the door though and give trust and respect a chance... I love excitement and inspiration... huge difference as I see it...
... I would like some feedback... is it too much to ask from a man???... please enlighten me...
Oh and for those who think I'm only referring to men, I'm sure this would be present in reverse as well, so feel free to respond to both genders.
Doesn't life offer enough drama for us to face and deal with, without creating it between two people...
It seems people get bored if all is steady, pleasant and cruising ... Would love to just get on with getting to know someone without the put downs, in your face, distant attitude and pity parties that come with these dramatic behaviours... I'm so not into the mood swings etc.., that come with this BS... I am very serious about keeping this kind of BS out of my life and if they happen, I'm quick to express my opinion on the matter and proceed to the next exit
Am I in the minority or majority when it comes to my level of zero tolerance on this or am I better to have some tolerance... Just to be clear, I most certainly have no regrets with past decisions and will say I was more tolerant back then... I did however allow this type of BS in my life with negative results.
I don't expect the unrealistic perfect... I'm not saying life itself should be drama free... I am saying however, that it would be better not to have these ego driven, man made ones happening.
I do want a man that can leave this form of drama at the door though and give trust and respect a chance... I love excitement and inspiration... huge difference as I see it...
... I would like some feedback... is it too much to ask from a man???... please enlighten me...
Oh and for those who think I'm only referring to men, I'm sure this would be present in reverse as well, so feel free to respond to both genders.
All you need is a regular gue... and a life supply of sedatives ...TA-DA....problem solved ...
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Englishman55: I think the dramas created by humans are normally ego driven and I think it's safe to say that all humans have an ego of some sort/degree.
It is often said that you must first love yourself before you can love another, so surely, to love yourself has to be ego driven.
I guess what you are saying is that you do not like those people with a large ego and I would agree with you on that.
Is that then not part of the whole courtship ritual........
To find someone with a compatible ego one of similar stature to our own
It is often said that you must first love yourself before you can love another, so surely, to love yourself has to be ego driven.
I guess what you are saying is that you do not like those people with a large ego and I would agree with you on that.
Is that then not part of the whole courtship ritual........
To find someone with a compatible ego one of similar stature to our own
really hard to comment on this.....its just too much area...
people with shock or trauma in their recent past will need some slack and understanding....
on the other hand....a lot of the crap that some people expect lovers to put up with is ludicrous...
i guess i can not wrap my mind around the parameters
could you explain a little ??
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Boban1: All you need is a regular gue... and a life supply of sedatives ...TA-DA....problem solved ...
meant guy....
not to self
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Englishman55: I think the dramas created by humans are normally ego driven and I think it's safe to say that all humans have an ego of some sort/degree.
It is often said that you must first love yourself before you can love another, so surely, to love yourself has to be ego driven.
I guess what you are saying is that you do not like those people with a large ego and I would agree with you on that.
Is that then not part of the whole courtship ritual........
To find someone with a compatible ego one of similar stature to our own
It is often said that you must first love yourself before you can love another, so surely, to love yourself has to be ego driven.
I guess what you are saying is that you do not like those people with a large ego and I would agree with you on that.
Is that then not part of the whole courtship ritual........
To find someone with a compatible ego one of similar stature to our own
Now there's an interesting thought... Is loving yourself ego driven Englishman??... I don't use intimidation or any of the other ego driven dramas I mentioned in my previous posts to love myself and hope you don't either
... now that you have brought it to my attention, maybe there is a positive and negative ego... hmmm!! The ego I speak of though is profoundly negative and doesn't take long to show through 
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mariespoodles: Now there's an interesting thought... Is loving yourself ego driven Englishman??... I don't use intimidation or any of the other ego driven dramas I mentioned in my previous posts to love myself and hope you don't either ... now that you have brought it to my attention, maybe there is a positive and negative ego... hmmm!! The ego I speak of though is profoundly negative and doesn't take long to show through
I would say ones self confidence is part of an ego.
Having had my self confidence knocked in the past by my ex, it takes a while to build that confidence back up.
To what level of confidence you want is entirely upto each individual, but I have met some very confident people in the past, who I have admired, but others have called egotistical.
There is both a positive and negative to an ego..... it's how we control our egos that will affect others in either a positive or negative way.
I would class Intimidation as a negative trait of a very negative ego.
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Boban1: All you need is a regular gue... and a life supply of sedatives ...TA-DA....problem solved ...
Don't believe I'll take you up on ur advice any time soon Boban
... sounds like you might need to stop the drinking before you can learn to type hahaha or are those sedatives kickin' in 
not to self was it? 
and yeah... maybe you have something there when you say I need a regular gue as I've not conversed with one of those and might just be a refreshing thing to do thanks for the giggle
Boban1: meant guy....
not to self
learn to type and stop drinking
not to self
learn to type and stop drinking
Don't believe I'll take you up on ur advice any time soon Boban
... sounds like you might need to stop the drinking before you can learn to type hahaha or are those sedatives kickin' in not to self was it? and yeah... maybe you have something there when you say I need a regular gue as I've not conversed with one of those and might just be a refreshing thing to do thanks for the giggle ------ This thread is Archived ------
I am like you I want drama free. I know life is going to have ups and downs. I am talking about the real drama. I just want to enjoy the years I have left. If I can find someone else to enjoy it with fine. If I can't then I guess I will be alone I just have always had a low tolerance level for drama.
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Englishman55: I would say ones self confidence is part of an ego.
Having had my self confidence knocked in the past by my ex, it takes a while to build that confidence back up.
To what level of confidence you want is entirely upto each individual, but I have met some very confident people in the past, who I have admired, but others have called egotistical.
There is both a positive and negative to an ego..... it's how we control our egos that will affect others in either a positive or negative way.
I would class Intimidation as a negative trait of a very negative ego.
Having had my self confidence knocked in the past by my ex, it takes a while to build that confidence back up.
To what level of confidence you want is entirely upto each individual, but I have met some very confident people in the past, who I have admired, but others have called egotistical.
There is both a positive and negative to an ego..... it's how we control our egos that will affect others in either a positive or negative way.
I would class Intimidation as a negative trait of a very negative ego.
Ok... I agree the ego is within all of us... without it we wouldn't have an identity and it's definitely present in self confidence... if one uses the ego in a non intimidating, interrogating, non aloof and poor me way then that would be someone I would want to know intimately and is exactly what I would call a healthy ego orientated person. I know a person who fits that description... ME!!
hahaha was that egotistical of me to say out loud??... 
nah!!! it's just self luv talking...
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Happygolucky4u: I am like you I want drama free. I know life is going to have ups and downs. I am talking about the real drama. I just want to enjoy the years I have left. If I can find someone else to enjoy it with fine. If I can't then I guess I will be alone I just have always had a low tolerance level for drama.
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Life has good times and bad, and humans are emotional beings. but for the most part I live a very peacful stressfree life. I guess life is what you make it.
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Your original post is far to vague to reply substantively to. Though I have an idea what people *generally* mean when they refer to "drama," one's conception of that clearly varies from person to person. What's "drama" to one is "interesting" or "exciting" to another. Some people consider "drama" to consist of having an actual serious conversation. I met a number of women online who responded negatively to the very notion of having a conversation which might involve some controversy and debate. Perhaps they considered that to be "drama" - I don't know.
I do know that I'm not compatible with any woman who makes "drama-evasion" a central plank of her compatibility stance. Reminds me of those profiles that state: "Not into games." That seems more reflective of individual relationship misadventures - that is, focusing on what went wrong in prior relationships rather than on what makes one happy in a relationship - and I don't think that's a very productive approach when seeking a romantic relationship.
I do know that I'm not compatible with any woman who makes "drama-evasion" a central plank of her compatibility stance. Reminds me of those profiles that state: "Not into games." That seems more reflective of individual relationship misadventures - that is, focusing on what went wrong in prior relationships rather than on what makes one happy in a relationship - and I don't think that's a very productive approach when seeking a romantic relationship.
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Ambrose2007: Your original post is far to vague to reply substantively to. Though I have an idea what people *generally* mean when they refer to "drama," one's conception of that clearly varies from person to person. What's "drama" to one is "interesting" or "exciting" to another. Some people consider "drama" to consist of having an actual serious conversation. I met a number of women online who responded negatively to the very notion of having a conversation which might involve some controversy and debate. Perhaps they considered that to be "drama" - I don't know.
I do know that I'm not compatible with any woman who makes "drama-evasion" a central plank of her compatibility stance. Reminds me of those profiles that state: "Not into games." That seems more reflective of individual relationship misadventures - that is, focusing on what went wrong in prior relationships rather than on what makes one happy in a relationship - and I don't think that's a very productive approach when seeking a romantic relationship.
I do know that I'm not compatible with any woman who makes "drama-evasion" a central plank of her compatibility stance. Reminds me of those profiles that state: "Not into games." That seems more reflective of individual relationship misadventures - that is, focusing on what went wrong in prior relationships rather than on what makes one happy in a relationship - and I don't think that's a very productive approach when seeking a romantic relationship.
Can you say all that in lay mans terms Ambrose please...
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I always had a hard time understanding what people meant when they say "no drama"
If that means a promise that I will not react both emotionally and rationally to a given situation, than I guess I am prone to drama
Also I cannot promise to myself or anyone else that life will be free of difficult situations, so again if that is considered drama, than I am prone to it
If by drama you mean taking your frustration on your partner that wasn't the cause of it, than it's safe to say I am Not prone to drama
If that means a promise that I will not react both emotionally and rationally to a given situation, than I guess I am prone to drama
Also I cannot promise to myself or anyone else that life will be free of difficult situations, so again if that is considered drama, than I am prone to it
If by drama you mean taking your frustration on your partner that wasn't the cause of it, than it's safe to say I am Not prone to drama
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Doesn't life offer enough drama for us to face and deal with, without creating it between two people...
It seems people get bored if all is steady, pleasant and cruising
Am I in the minority or majority when it comes to my level of zero tolerance on this or am I better to have some tolerance... Just to be clear, I most certainly have no regrets with past decisions and will say I was more tolerant back then... I did however allow this type of BS in my life with negative results.
I don't expect the unrealistic perfect... I'm not saying life itself should be drama free... I am saying however, that it would be better not to have these ego driven, man made ones happening.
I do want a man that can leave this form of drama at the door though and give trust and respect a chance... I love excitement and inspiration... huge difference as I see it...
Oh and for those who think I'm only referring to men, I'm sure this would be present in reverse as well, so feel free to respond to both genders.