pain and agony (134)
NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: Mindfful.
It is not your fault, and you should not accept the pain.
It is not your fault, and you should not accept the pain.
i can not not accept the pain that has happened to me just as when i was severely physically injured i could not not accept that pain
but i love you
ive now had a note saying if it were true i couldnt share it in an open forum
from someone i have never seen before
i guess they dont know ive been here since the forum started
while i wouldnt go so far as to say its my 'home' or anything goofy like that but i will say that after 23 years of this
odyssey i have learned when it comes up i have to release some steam in any way available or risk catastrophe
not articulated well but there it is
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nanners2863: For once I am without words. I can't even begin to understand the depths of despair you must feel. My positive thoughts are for you today!
dammit nannersonce again i went to dash off a note to you and was reminded i am blocked due to gender or location or age or some such
anyway thanks so much
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mindfful: dammit nanners
once again i went to dash off a note to you and was reminded i am blocked due to gender or location or age or some such anyway thanks so much
Crap..really..will fix that right away girl!once again i went to dash off a note to you and was reminded i am blocked due to gender or location or age or some such anyway thanks so much
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i cant wait to fall asleep
i know it will have receeded back into the depths tomorrow
i know it will have receeded back into the depths tomorrow
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aHA
the sharing has begun to backfire as it inevitably does 
such is life i spose but i cant keep pain like this in 24/7/365
i just got a note saying my whining is a disgusting representation of women everywhere or some such nonsense
the sharing has begun to backfire as it inevitably does
such is life i spose but i cant keep pain like this in 24/7/365
i just got a note saying my whining is a disgusting representation of women everywhere or some such nonsense
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mindfful: aHA
the sharing has begun to backfire as it inevitably does
such is life i spose but i cant keep pain like this in 24/7/365i just got a note saying my whining is a disgusting representation of women everywhere or some such nonsense
the sharing has begun to backfire as it inevitably does
such is life i spose but i cant keep pain like this in 24/7/365i just got a note saying my whining is a disgusting representation of women everywhere or some such nonsense
People should not talk unless they have walked in your shoes.
Sorry for your pain, wish I could make all your problems go away, but since I cannot, will have to just give you my shoulder to cry on.
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kitty01: People should not talk unless they have walked in your shoes.
Sorry for your pain, wish I could make all your problems go away, but since I cannot, will have to just give you my shoulder to cry on.
how perfect thanks kittySorry for your pain, wish I could make all your problems go away, but since I cannot, will have to just give you my shoulder to cry on.
its been a coons age since ive seen you girl!
thanks
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mindfful: well thats a thread title to bring em in droves i just need to say that i am in incredible pain today
to the point i am detached from it after feeling it for about an hour
you know that weird detachment? your head keeps rolling it around but your guts churning seems a million miles away?
its regarding a daughter that was kidnapped many years ago
i found her 14 yrs later but today as an adult her way of coping is to not- she doesnt allow me in her life
sometimes it feels like im dying and sometimes i wish i had never found her and now i have tears so i guess im ok againthanks CS
Thanks for sharing,it must be hard to share with her not letting you into her life, always stay open, she may change her view.And either way, knowing you gave her life will always be in your heart, no one can take that away.The pain is a Mothers love.Feel better.to the point i am detached from it after feeling it for about an hour
you know that weird detachment? your head keeps rolling it around but your guts churning seems a million miles away?
its regarding a daughter that was kidnapped many years ago
i found her 14 yrs later but today as an adult her way of coping is to not- she doesnt allow me in her life
sometimes it feels like im dying and sometimes i wish i had never found her and now i have tears so i guess im ok againthanks CS
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mastic55: Thanks for sharing,it must be hard to share with her not letting you into her life, always stay open, she may change her view.And either way, knowing you gave her life will always be in your heart, no one can take that away.The pain is a Mothers love.Feel better.
you have always been so soft heartedi really appreciate you so much
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mindfful: well thats a thread title to bring em in droves i just need to say that i am in incredible pain today
to the point i am detached from it after feeling it for about an hour
you know that weird detachment? your head keeps rolling it around but your guts churning seems a million miles away?
its regarding a daughter that was kidnapped many years ago
i found her 14 yrs later but today as an adult her way of coping is to not- she doesnt allow me in her life
sometimes it feels like im dying and sometimes i wish i had never found her and now i have tears so i guess im ok againthanks CS
does she blame you for anuthing or she is just cold?to the point i am detached from it after feeling it for about an hour
you know that weird detachment? your head keeps rolling it around but your guts churning seems a million miles away?
its regarding a daughter that was kidnapped many years ago
i found her 14 yrs later but today as an adult her way of coping is to not- she doesnt allow me in her life
sometimes it feels like im dying and sometimes i wish i had never found her and now i have tears so i guess im ok againthanks CS
you suffered all the years without knowing where she is ,so ,at the moment is seems not that hard at least.
did you visit any therapist to get advice?
it was hooriible to know that
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strict: does she blame you for anuthing or she is just cold?
you suffered all the years without knowing where she is ,so ,at the moment is seems not that hard at least.
did you visit any therapist to get advice?
it was hooriible to know that
hi strictyou suffered all the years without knowing where she is ,so ,at the moment is seems not that hard at least.
did you visit any therapist to get advice?
it was hooriible to know that
some people have said the same here
at least i know she is alive so it is much better
thats not necessarily true
in 14 yrs she was gone i learned to go on, i adjusted
finding her was amazing
seeing her insanity and being rejected due to her injury from it
well i know in my mind its because it bent her but it feels more personal and purposeful to be rejected by her and so more hurtful in a way than it did when i didnt know where she was
im sure this sounds bad and wrong to many people
thats ok with me
they dont know
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oh and yes of course much much therapy at different intervals over the 23 years of it
yet still, today i felt a way i cannot explain and feel i barely survived
yet still, today i felt a way i cannot explain and feel i barely survived
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mindfful: oh and yes of course much much therapy at different intervals over the 23 years of it
yet still, today i felt a way i cannot explain and feel i barely survived
life goes onyet still, today i felt a way i cannot explain and feel i barely survived
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strict: life goes on
indee
it does friend
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that stoopid beer emoticon wasnt sposed to be there
that happens to me here alot
that is so weird
that happens to me here alot
that is so weird
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mindfful: that stoopid beer emoticon wasnt sposed to be there
that happens to me here alot
that is so weird
that happens to me here alot
that is so weird
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I know that type of pain, not the same situation for me, but yes, I can say with all my heart it's one of the blackest places to be.
It took my daughter 19 years to come and talk to me, her precieved pain kept her away that long. Now we have a realtionship I am so proud of. Just always make sure she knows where you are and remember this is her choice and has nothing to do with you.
What ever pain you feel cannot help you or your daughter so feel it and then develope tools to manange it. For example, treat those oncoming feelings as a signal to do something, Maybe meditiae, write in a journal, go for a walk, put on some music and dance or exercise.
Find a local counsolor to help you develope the tools if you can't get a handle on where to start. You don't need to go into all the why's and wherefores with anyone.Look for a cognitve behavorial therpist. They are the best ones to help develope mental tools for coping with stressful situations.
Remember, change cannot occur untill the pain of change is less than the pain of remaning the same, or if you prefer: He who cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and therefore never be able to make any progress
Good luck and great peace on your journey
It took my daughter 19 years to come and talk to me, her precieved pain kept her away that long. Now we have a realtionship I am so proud of. Just always make sure she knows where you are and remember this is her choice and has nothing to do with you.
What ever pain you feel cannot help you or your daughter so feel it and then develope tools to manange it. For example, treat those oncoming feelings as a signal to do something, Maybe meditiae, write in a journal, go for a walk, put on some music and dance or exercise.
Find a local counsolor to help you develope the tools if you can't get a handle on where to start. You don't need to go into all the why's and wherefores with anyone.Look for a cognitve behavorial therpist. They are the best ones to help develope mental tools for coping with stressful situations.
Remember, change cannot occur untill the pain of change is less than the pain of remaning the same, or if you prefer: He who cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and therefore never be able to make any progress
Good luck and great peace on your journey
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now ive received a note from the first mean letter writer regarding this thread which was hours and hours agoshe says she is sorry
should i believe her?
should i start a poll about it?
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mindfful: now ive received a note from the first mean letter writer regarding this thread which was hours and hours agoshe says she is sorry
should i believe her?
should i start a poll about it?
what she wrote in first letter?and why she is sorry now?should i believe her?
should i start a poll about it?
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i just got 2 hate mails for my last post
Ignore the strange people, sending hate to someone in pain is irrational and, well, strange.