Is love scary? (75)
DagostoKnoxville, Tennessee USA74 Threads 15 Polls 3,076 PostsIs love scary? I've sometimes thought hope and fear are the same thing: the more you hope something will happen, the more you fear it won't. Conversely, the more you fear something might occur, the more you hope it won't. Either way, love's a potent force. It can roll right over you like a freight train, it can wash you out to sea like a rip tide with not a dolphin in sight to help. I think love can be kinda scary, sometimes. But it's also pretty cool. What do y'all think?
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Dagosto: Is love scary? I've sometimes thought hope and fear are the same thing: the more you hope something will happen, the more you fear it won't. Conversely, the more you fear something might occur, the more you hope it won't. Either way, love's a potent force. It can roll right over you like a freight train, it can wash you out to sea like a rip tide with not a dolphin in sight to help. I think love can be kinda scary, sometimes. But it's also pretty cool. What do y'all think?
If it is scary then one shouldn't be in it.
Of course there is anxiety; maybe fear of rejection, or cheating, or not wanting the same things, or being a waste of time or not knowing someone, but love and fear for me are not in the same ballpark.
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There is always risk in love and hurt is inevitable. Nobody is perfect therefore a person will be disappointed at some time or another, but that's the deal with love. To know the highs, the lows will come also.
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mjames: If it is scary then one shouldn't be in it.
Of course there is anxiety; maybe fear of rejection, or cheating, or not wanting the same things, or being a waste of time or not knowing someone, but love and fear for me are not in the same ballpark.
Of course there is anxiety; maybe fear of rejection, or cheating, or not wanting the same things, or being a waste of time or not knowing someone, but love and fear for me are not in the same ballpark.
I agree mjames about those associated fears. Those are things to worry about it. I do think though that love itself can be scary, and that's not necessarily bad. I think there may be an element of fear to any sort of thrill.
As for being in it or not...we don't always get the choice beforehand, do we?
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I suppose it can be Dagosto. The whole dating process can be scary for a lot of people. Especially the fear of rejection from asking someone out. Some people find the first date a little nerve wrecking too. I dunno if I would consider it scary though.
Another all important fear is of cause "commitment". I myself, have never been frightened of commitment. It's a good thing ;) I think it's something to embrace.
So yeah...otherwise the only other fear we might experience is the kind created from our own emotions and anticipation to succeed in a relationship with someone.
Another all important fear is of cause "commitment". I myself, have never been frightened of commitment. It's a good thing ;) I think it's something to embrace.
So yeah...otherwise the only other fear we might experience is the kind created from our own emotions and anticipation to succeed in a relationship with someone.
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femjkw: There is always risk in love and hurt is inevitable. Nobody is perfect therefore a person will be disappointed at some time or another, but that's the deal with love. To know the highs, the lows will come also.
Yes. Rather like a roller-coaster in a way. There'd be no thrill if it merely went about on a level track.
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ridinsoloOMG: So yeah...otherwise the only other fear we might experience is the kind created from our own emotions and anticipation to succeed in a relationship with someone.
Ah yes! That's what I was referring to with that rubbish about the hope/fear parallel.
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Dagosto: Is love scary? I've sometimes thought hope and fear are the same thing: the more you hope something will happen, the more you fear it won't. Conversely, the more you fear something might occur, the more you hope it won't. Either way, love's a potent force. It can roll right over you like a freight train, it can wash you out to sea like a rip tide with not a dolphin in sight to help. I think love can be kinda scary, sometimes. But it's also pretty cool. What do y'all think?
I believe that there are only two feelings/emotions, Love and fear. All the other feelings stem from one of them. At any time each of us can chose to come from a space of love or fear. Love certainly comes from your heart and the fear is in your head. (Fantasy Expectations Appearing Real).
We're all made up of love, love is all around us and it's the stuff that makes the world go round - it's pure energie. Unfortunately most aren't aware of this, searching for love in all the wrong places while it's inside of each of us. Some don't even realize that they're coming from 'need' and not from love.
True love - can't be scary, it comes without expectations and no strings attached - unconditional love. JMPO and F
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Dagosto: Ah yes! That's what I was referring to with that rubbish about the hope/fear parallel.
Sometimes that's the worst kind of fear - i.e. the kind you create (or amplify) and thus put on to yourself.
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Dagosto: Is love scary? I've sometimes thought hope and fear are the same thing: the more you hope something will happen, the more you fear it won't. Conversely, the more you fear something might occur, the more you hope it won't. Either way, love's a potent force. It can roll right over you like a freight train, it can wash you out to sea like a rip tide with not a dolphin in sight to help. I think love can be kinda scary, sometimes. But it's also pretty cool. What do y'all think?
Damn straight itis....but in the butterflys in yr stomach scarey haha. if yr giong to stress about it too much you wont really get where you want to be
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AngelinBali: I believe that there are only two feelings/emotions, Love and fear. All the other feelings stem from one of them. At any time each of us can chose to come from a space of love or fear. Love certainly comes from your heart and the fear is in your head. (Fantasy Expectations Appearing Real).
We're all made up of love, love is all around us and it's the stuff that makes the world go round - it's pure energie. Unfortunately most aren't aware of this, searching for love in all the wrong places while it's inside of each of us. Some don't even realize that they're coming from 'need' and not from love.
True love - can't be scary, it comes without expectations and no strings attached - unconditional love. JMPO and F
We're all made up of love, love is all around us and it's the stuff that makes the world go round - it's pure energie. Unfortunately most aren't aware of this, searching for love in all the wrong places while it's inside of each of us. Some don't even realize that they're coming from 'need' and not from love.
True love - can't be scary, it comes without expectations and no strings attached - unconditional love. JMPO and F
That's quite a perspective, Angel, and most reassuring. I don't think it helps with the thrill, though. I do believe there is something to the feeling of love that can be scary. Why else do we speak of "falling" in love?
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Can you please not talk about love around here
, your making me nervous 
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Dagosto: Is love scary? I've sometimes thought hope and fear are the same thing: the more you hope something will happen, the more you fear it won't. Conversely, the more you fear something might occur, the more you hope it won't. Either way, love's a potent force. It can roll right over you like a freight train, it can wash you out to sea like a rip tide with not a dolphin in sight to help. I think love can be kinda scary, sometimes. But it's also pretty cool. What do y'all think?
Love can be scary and downright frighting sometimes, but it can also be the most awesome ride your heart can ever go on.
Love is without a doubt, the most powerful and sometimes the most dangerous emotion there is. Love has the ability to spawn all of the other emotions that can be just as intense.
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Love is scary...the fear of vulnerability. We are human, we feel deeply. We all have the need to be wanted and needed. We fear if we fall in love...will "they" feel the same way. And if not "why" "what is wrong with me". But when love is reciprocated, then it is the most wonderful feeling in the world. One is on a high, literally.
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Christmas1: Love is scary...the fear of vulnerability. We are human, we feel deeply. We all have the need to be wanted and needed. We fear if we fall in love...will "they" feel the same way. And if not "why" "what is wrong with me". But when love is reciprocated, then it is the most wonderful feeling in the world. One is on a high, literally.
Yes I think you have nailed it Chris.
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Yes I get what you're saying... When you open your heart to someone you're allowing yourself to feel vulnerable, and underlying all the "I can conquer the world" feelings, is a thread of fear - what if you lose it? When you think about the people you truly love, there is always the fear that they will be taken away from you... even if it may not be expressed. Ask any mother what her greatest fear is - it will be the loss of her child. I guess that's what makes "falling in love" such a roller coaster ride, and why so many people are unable to open themselves up fully - the fear of getting hurt is too great. But that's the paradox... If we don't open ourselves up fully, we won't feel the magnificence of love! I love the feeling of being in love... and look forward to finding it again!!!
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leostartingover: Yes I get what you're saying... When you open your heart to someone you're allowing yourself to feel vulnerable, and underlying all the "I can conquer the world" feelings, is a thread of fear - what if you lose it? When you think about the people you truly love, there is always the fear that they will be taken away from you... even if it may not be expressed. Ask any mother what her greatest fear is - it will be the loss of her child. I guess that's what makes "falling in love" such a roller coaster ride, and why so many people are unable to open themselves up fully - the fear of getting hurt is too great. But that's the paradox... If we don't open ourselves up fully, we won't feel the magnificence of love! I love the feeling of being in love... and look forward to finding it again!!!
I know the song you sing Leo, and it does have a happy & triumphant conclusion. It's worth the waiting.
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jahzah: Can you please not talk about love around here , your making me nervous
Something to be afraid of?
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Dagosto: I know the song you sing Leo, and it does have a happy & triumphant conclusion. It's worth the waiting.
Well, I'm happy for you and whoever your lady is!!!
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leostartingover: Well, I'm happy for you and whoever your lady is!!!
Thank you. It's exciting, and it's thrilling, and it's kinda scary....but in a good way.
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