Bad stepmothers. (36)
morgan5: I had 4 stepchildren most of the time it was great with no problems, but one of them was difficult and would manipulate and deliberately try to cause friction between me and her Father.
Its difficult when it comes to discipline and I found he would take her side, so in effect she felt she had got one over one me and would continue.
We are only getting one side of the story and I believe its far more complex.
Its difficult when it comes to discipline and I found he would take her side, so in effect she felt she had got one over one me and would continue.
We are only getting one side of the story and I believe its far more complex.
In this case my son was 4 years old and didn't manipulate anything.
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I raised my three and his three (6) and while it was never completely easy, it was well worth it! Although, my ex and I are no longer together, there is no loss of love between my adult children (Step or mine - Hell! There are are ALL mine).
I suffered through horrific step-parents and when it came to making a blended family with my ex, the first thing we did was counseling. Sometimes, in order to make a clear start, you have to start with counseling. The kids made us a family...warts and all.
I suffered through horrific step-parents and when it came to making a blended family with my ex, the first thing we did was counseling. Sometimes, in order to make a clear start, you have to start with counseling. The kids made us a family...warts and all.
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jovisst: I don't understand! In my two last relationships both my women in the beginning claimed to love children. But in reallity they only love their own and friends children not mine! Why is that?
In my last relationship my wife made hugh scandals if I tried to spend time with my son from previous relationship. Basically she made it clear I had to chose between her or him!
I guess the fairytale is true about the evil stepmother.
What is your experience?
In my last relationship my wife made hugh scandals if I tried to spend time with my son from previous relationship. Basically she made it clear I had to chose between her or him!
I guess the fairytale is true about the evil stepmother.
What is your experience?
Im a so called step mother.
My sons father has a 17 yr old son who is a complete sweetheart.
I would honestly like to believe he would come to me if in trouble. And that to me is all i need to know.....
Anyone who makes you choose?? is not worth spending a second with.xxx
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more then 5 years ago, my ex fiancee throw my little girl, to the swimming pool coz she was crying when her boat float to the middle of the pool...he throw her like a garbage trash throw to the junk yard...so hard...make her hardly to realize where she was and breath....Meanwhile, his 2 kids, daughter and son, love me very well, as i threat them like my own.
so, i think not only women can be a bad step mother...but man, can be so evil too...
and i end up the relationship, coz he have an affair behind my back. he caused his kids a sadness till now...as they get bad step (younger then me 7 years) mother....
so, i think not only women can be a bad step mother...but man, can be so evil too...
and i end up the relationship, coz he have an affair behind my back. he caused his kids a sadness till now...as they get bad step (younger then me 7 years) mother....
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stareyes: more then 5 years ago, my ex fiancee throw my little girl, to the swimming pool coz she was crying when her boat float to the middle of the pool...he throw her like a garbage trash throw to the junk yard...so hard...make her hardly to realize where she was and breath....Meanwhile, his 2 kids, daughter and son, love me very well, as i threat them like my own. so, i think not only women can be a bad step mother...but man, can be so evil too...
and i end up the relationship, coz he have an affair behind my back. he caused his kids a sadness till now...as they get bad step (younger then me 7 years) mother....
and i end up the relationship, coz he have an affair behind my back. he caused his kids a sadness till now...as they get bad step (younger then me 7 years) mother....
I hope you had him arrested for doing that!
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No. i didn't do any harm on him. I look on his children eyes, then mine. so i try to forgot. but i didn't forgive him. i kept the relation after we talk about it the night after. he seek apology too. hard for me to give. so its just from my mouth. not forgive n forget in my heart. but Lord know. when he finally had an affair...then i step away. his kids was sock too...but that life. i gave all things he gave me, as he demanded it from me to given back.
I hate him...to what he did to my daughter...but i never want to revenge nor i want to arrest him...let the "others" do to him. I believe 100% in Karma.
I hate him...to what he did to my daughter...but i never want to revenge nor i want to arrest him...let the "others" do to him. I believe 100% in Karma.
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stareyes: No. i didn't do any harm on him. I look on his children eyes, then mine. so i try to forgot. but i didn't forgive him. i kept the relation after we talk about it the night after. he seek apology too. hard for me to give. so its just from my mouth. not forgive n forget in my heart. but Lord know. when he finally had an affair...then i step away. his kids was sock too...but that life. i gave all things he gave me, as he demanded it from me to given back.
I hate him...to what he did to my daughter...but i never want to revenge nor i want to arrest him...let the "others" do to him. I believe 100% in Karma.
I hate him...to what he did to my daughter...but i never want to revenge nor i want to arrest him...let the "others" do to him. I believe 100% in Karma.
That's very noble of you to think of his children when his crime was hurting yours. Don't give somebody like that a second chance, they will only repeat the behavior.
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I was blessed with a wonderful Mother when my father re-married. She treated me wonderful. I think highly of her. I think that she is more of a Mother to me than my own Mother.
My Mother remarried and then it was all about her and my step-father.
The horrid thing is when I was married, he kissed me. I eventually told my Mother and she refused to believe me. My step-father said I was a liar.
Then my Mother tried to bribe me with money to say it was not true.
I told her no, and how dare you bribe your own daughter. That happened this May and I have not heard from them since. My own ex wrote a note to him that he knew I was being honest because I had told him what happened.
I think sometimes, it does not matter if you are family or not.
I think you have to tell the truth, and to hell with your family if they are treating you bad because you are the victim.
I really do not miss the drama. I went out with friends for Thanksgiving and felt so much more calm. My family was not there to take me for granted or say anything to me.
There are books about toxic people. Sometimes it is either them or you.
The Dobe
My Mother remarried and then it was all about her and my step-father.
The horrid thing is when I was married, he kissed me. I eventually told my Mother and she refused to believe me. My step-father said I was a liar.
Then my Mother tried to bribe me with money to say it was not true.
I told her no, and how dare you bribe your own daughter. That happened this May and I have not heard from them since. My own ex wrote a note to him that he knew I was being honest because I had told him what happened.
I think sometimes, it does not matter if you are family or not.
I think you have to tell the truth, and to hell with your family if they are treating you bad because you are the victim.
I really do not miss the drama. I went out with friends for Thanksgiving and felt so much more calm. My family was not there to take me for granted or say anything to me.
There are books about toxic people. Sometimes it is either them or you.
The Dobe
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jovisst: I don't understand! In my two last relationships both my women in the beginning claimed to love children. But in reallity they only love their own and friends children not mine! Why is that?
In my last relationship my wife made hugh scandals if I tried to spend time with my son from previous relationship. Basically she made it clear I had to chose between her or him!
I guess the fairytale is true about the evil stepmother.
What is your experience?
In my last relationship my wife made hugh scandals if I tried to spend time with my son from previous relationship. Basically she made it clear I had to chose between her or him!
I guess the fairytale is true about the evil stepmother.
What is your experience?
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doberman3: I was blessed with a wonderful Mother when my father re-married. She treated me wonderful. I think highly of her. I think that she is more of a Mother to me than my own Mother.
Dobe!!!!!!!
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Yes, most women will smile at us and also at our kids
But that is merely a part of the "Delilah" courtship business
Many women dislike kids that are not their own
Unless they are dating Dirty harry, Rambo or Al Capone
Evil step-mothers is a ole time movie that is well known
What we now need is a revised episode that must be shown!
Potarick
But that is merely a part of the "Delilah" courtship business
Many women dislike kids that are not their own
Unless they are dating Dirty harry, Rambo or Al Capone
Evil step-mothers is a ole time movie that is well known
What we now need is a revised episode that must be shown!
Potarick
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potarick: Yes, most women will smile at us and also at our kids
But that is merely a part of the "Delilah" courtship business
Many women dislike kids that are not their own
Unless they are dating Dirty harry, Rambo or Al Capone
Evil step-mothers is a ole time movie that is well known
What we now need is a revised episode that must be shown!Potarick
And of course this never happens when the woman has children and the man doesn't.But that is merely a part of the "Delilah" courtship business
Many women dislike kids that are not their own
Unless they are dating Dirty harry, Rambo or Al Capone
Evil step-mothers is a ole time movie that is well known
What we now need is a revised episode that must be shown!Potarick
It can happen regardless of gender
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morgan5: And of course this never happens when the woman has children and the man doesn't.
It can happen regardless of gender
It can happen regardless of gender
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I will never let this happen again. That a promised i had since. but that make me worried, as the promised trapped me into a "scariness". and that could be make my self goes to a "comfort zone" single...?...hope not.
anyway, thank for your suggestion.
anyway, thank for your suggestion.
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I will never let this happen again. That a promised i had since. but that make me worried, as the promised trapped me into a "scariness". and that could be make my self goes to a "comfort zone" single...?...hope not.
anyway, thank for your suggestion.
anyway, thank for your suggestion.
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To be sure in my situation I was made to feel like I was a terrible person for not wanting to blend our families and for "hurting him" ... He just could not understand, I DID NOT have an obligation to him...I chose him...but I DID have one to my children....
Bottom line...doesn't matter how much I love you...you will always come second to my children