Well I'm not sure but I wanna ask HELP!!! (17)
Dont ask us, see a solicitor and get proper legal advice. I played fair, he didnt but now i can sleep at night with a clear concience. Its a good feeling. 50%50. Good luck 
ok, enough is enough, you might like to change your plans, like in decide your going to spend the rest of your life in the joint family home...your heading for the family court whether you see it or not, i think you are, try and step back from the hurt and detach yourself from the pain and anger or you'll loose the plot...
You need to move on, its hard but that is what you really need to do, don't give a stuff what she thinks, she's gone mate, so stop using the kids by getting them to pass on your thoughts, if your kids want be with you they will say so from there own side, (don't hold your breath) in relation to the house keep your thoughts to your self. You will both be needing to attend counselling, if you cant reach an agreement lawyers charge $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Clearly she is hurting, she has her side of whatever went bye, so stop blame or feeling sorry and take the bull by the horn and play your cards carefully
You need to move on, its hard but that is what you really need to do, don't give a stuff what she thinks, she's gone mate, so stop using the kids by getting them to pass on your thoughts, if your kids want be with you they will say so from there own side, (don't hold your breath) in relation to the house keep your thoughts to your self. You will both be needing to attend counselling, if you cant reach an agreement lawyers charge $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Clearly she is hurting, she has her side of whatever went bye, so stop blame or feeling sorry and take the bull by the horn and play your cards carefully
robplum: ok, enough is enough, you might like to change your plans, like in decide your going to spend the rest of your life in the joint family home...your heading for the family court whether you see it or not, i think you are, try and step back from the hurt and detach yourself from the pain and anger or you'll loose the plot...
You need to move on, its hard but that is what you really need to do, don't give a stuff what she thinks, she's gone mate, so stop using the kids by getting them to pass on your thoughts, if your kids want be with you they will say so from there own side, (don't hold your breath) in relation to the house keep your thoughts to your self. You will both be needing to attend counselling, if you cant reach an agreement lawyers charge $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Clearly she is hurting, she has her side of whatever went bye, so stop blame or feeling sorry and take the bull by the horn and play your cards carefully
If adults cant talk in a logical, calm manner a legal representative is worth every cent but shop around. Keep the kids out of it.You need to move on, its hard but that is what you really need to do, don't give a stuff what she thinks, she's gone mate, so stop using the kids by getting them to pass on your thoughts, if your kids want be with you they will say so from there own side, (don't hold your breath) in relation to the house keep your thoughts to your self. You will both be needing to attend counselling, if you cant reach an agreement lawyers charge $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Clearly she is hurting, she has her side of whatever went bye, so stop blame or feeling sorry and take the bull by the horn and play your cards carefully
See a solicitor. 
Do we look like divorce lawyers ? Marriage councilors?
Obviously things are extreamly RAW go seek legal advise and work out something that suits you both.But while things are soo bitter ide advise agaist involing another person,its not fair to anyone
Good luck
Obviously things are extreamly RAW go seek legal advise and work out something that suits you both.But while things are soo bitter ide advise agaist involing another person,its not fair to anyone
Good luck
bjsss: See a solicitor.
I have a lawyer been using her for advice .
Really end of the day we need to move .this place isnt worth fixing up .i just want to sell it to a developer and move on .To many problems to list here .
What my ex wants except her wish for me to be a renter I have no idea.
Lawyer is not costing me anything at this stage .
I just dont want to be forced into anything.
Really end of the day we need to move .this place isnt worth fixing up .i just want to sell it to a developer and move on .To many problems to list here .
What my ex wants except her wish for me to be a renter I have no idea.
Lawyer is not costing me anything at this stage .
I just dont want to be forced into anything.
see a solicitor i did not and got burnt
kizzy27: Do we look like divorce lawyers ? Marriage councilors?
Obviously things are extreamly RAW go seek legal advise and work out something that suits you both.But while things are soo bitter ide advise agaist involing another person,its not fair to anyone
Good luck
Obviously things are extreamly RAW go seek legal advise and work out something that suits you both.But while things are soo bitter ide advise agaist involing another person,its not fair to anyone
Good luck
Be grown up and don't involve your children in your battlestarnsnz: Be grown up and don't involve your children in your battles
Yes there does come a time when you take care of your of yourself, get a solicitor and get it done and dusted do what we all do ,get on with life.
hellosailor: Yes there does come a time when you take care of your of yourself, get a solicitor and get it done and dusted do what we all do ,get on with life.
Thats what I am trying to do .Work friend just told me not to agree with or sign anything or she will come over and bash me !!! lmao
I will just listen to what Im told .any thing needs to be signed I'll head to my lawyer
tarnsnz: Be grown up and don't involve your children in your battles
Yep had no intentions of using them .thats 1 thing I cant understand she left them and doesnt want them with her.Yes she has moved way on with her life .
But i just keep trying to keep things normal while miss 19 nags and nags and nags and nags and nags and nags me about moving .i did set her straight one day but didnt do any good .
sorry but I disagree with everyone else here.. your children are not children.. they are adults and if they are going to be involved in where they live then they should be involved in the discussions.. they need to see what is being said by both parents so they dont get misinformation and lies... if they are present at any meeting you have with her then things might not get as nasty etc
as for selling and buying etc then yeah... seek advice from lawyers and property valuers etc.. if she is still being difficult then take it to court and let a judge decide
and no.. do not let her control and manipulate you into living where she wants you to live.. its your life and it is going to continue without her.. so live where you will be happy
as for selling and buying etc then yeah... seek advice from lawyers and property valuers etc.. if she is still being difficult then take it to court and let a judge decide
and no.. do not let her control and manipulate you into living where she wants you to live.. its your life and it is going to continue without her.. so live where you will be happy
jimbob47: Ok so my Ex hasn't been talking to me(no idea if It is or isnt my fault) just through our adult kids .
She did answer some of my txts when I told her we needed to talk about selling this house.And that I wished to move out of this area.
Now a couple of weeks ago.I had a really bad Saturday one thing that happened my Sim died .They managed to save it but I decided to jump on a plan .And u guessed it this sim was out of a phone my ex and kids gave me in happier times.And it was in her name so I needed a new sim and lost her number .
I asked our youngest to TXT her mum .I wanted to talk to her about her signing a form so I could access my half of the equity (it took me ages to work my courage up to contacting a mortage broker ) .But she txt our youngest back with no .She wont talk to me until my next RDO .Which is now tomorrow.
She has told the kids stuff like we have to rent and she will give a large part or her part to us to buy furniture and to use a s rent.
Now I might be a wee bit dumb but theres no way I am totally stupid .I for 1 don't believe what I have been told by the kids(bits of information have been told me over the last couple of weeks) .How can I trust this woman who walked out on me .And what little money we had saved up and the kids money she went through it all .With no signs of remorse .
If we go to some real estate place (I have no idea who what why or how at this stage but the kids say we are).I can not be forced to accept any deal or anything can I .I can take any documents to my lawyer surely.
Sorry to ask for advice but I really dont have any friends .Co workers I have confided in have told me not to sign anything and not trust her.
All I want is to leave this place with my fair share.She has left me with adult kids either who are still at school or recently lost their job.They still trust her I've told them nicely that they cant .But I saw our joint account with just a cheque in it .She can no longer touch my earnings .But i feel she is still trying to control what I do where I live.
Damn I feel stupid !!
She did answer some of my txts when I told her we needed to talk about selling this house.And that I wished to move out of this area.
Now a couple of weeks ago.I had a really bad Saturday one thing that happened my Sim died .They managed to save it but I decided to jump on a plan .And u guessed it this sim was out of a phone my ex and kids gave me in happier times.And it was in her name so I needed a new sim and lost her number .
I asked our youngest to TXT her mum .I wanted to talk to her about her signing a form so I could access my half of the equity (it took me ages to work my courage up to contacting a mortage broker ) .But she txt our youngest back with no .She wont talk to me until my next RDO .Which is now tomorrow.
She has told the kids stuff like we have to rent and she will give a large part or her part to us to buy furniture and to use a s rent.
Now I might be a wee bit dumb but theres no way I am totally stupid .I for 1 don't believe what I have been told by the kids(bits of information have been told me over the last couple of weeks) .How can I trust this woman who walked out on me .And what little money we had saved up and the kids money she went through it all .With no signs of remorse .
If we go to some real estate place (I have no idea who what why or how at this stage but the kids say we are).I can not be forced to accept any deal or anything can I .I can take any documents to my lawyer surely.
Sorry to ask for advice but I really dont have any friends .Co workers I have confided in have told me not to sign anything and not trust her.
All I want is to leave this place with my fair share.She has left me with adult kids either who are still at school or recently lost their job.They still trust her I've told them nicely that they cant .But I saw our joint account with just a cheque in it .She can no longer touch my earnings .But i feel she is still trying to control what I do where I live.
Damn I feel stupid !!
How old are the kids?
If the kids are living with you and you are still in the family home, there is no court in the land that can force you to sell the family home!
The courts cant put you on the streets just because you EX left?
Your EX will get nothing and will have to pay support if your kids are still at school?
Talk to a lawyer, the first visit is free, it only cost if legal proceedings start,
don’t be cheep a good lawyer is the best result for you,
Lets just say I had a good lawyer a few times now, they paid for themselves
Blizzard14u: How old are the kids?
If the kids are living with you and you are still in the family home, there is no court in the land that can force you to sell the family home!
The courts cant put you on the streets just because you EX left?
Your EX will get nothing and will have to pay support if your kids are still at school?
Talk to a lawyer, the first visit is free, it only cost if legal proceedings start,
don’t be cheep a good lawyer is the best result for you,
Lets just say I had a good lawyer a few times now, they paid for themselves
Blizz baby, he wants to move. Re read the post sweetheart.If the kids are living with you and you are still in the family home, there is no court in the land that can force you to sell the family home!
The courts cant put you on the streets just because you EX left?
Your EX will get nothing and will have to pay support if your kids are still at school?
Talk to a lawyer, the first visit is free, it only cost if legal proceedings start,
don’t be cheep a good lawyer is the best result for you,
Lets just say I had a good lawyer a few times now, they paid for themselves
blondeozichick: sorry but I disagree with everyone else here.. your children are not children.. they are adults and if they are going to be involved in where they live then they should be involved in the discussions.. they need to see what is being said by both parents so they dont get misinformation and lies... if they are present at any meeting you have with her then things might not get as nasty etc
as for selling and buying etc then yeah... seek advice from lawyers and property valuers etc.. if she is still being difficult then take it to court and let a judge decide
and no.. do not let her control and manipulate you into living where she wants you to live.. its your life and it is going to continue without her.. so live where you will be happy
as for selling and buying etc then yeah... seek advice from lawyers and property valuers etc.. if she is still being difficult then take it to court and let a judge decide
and no.. do not let her control and manipulate you into living where she wants you to live.. its your life and it is going to continue without her.. so live where you will be happy
Well yes well all sat down here today .And I was told we have to rent .Now I don't want to rent but I do have trouble keeping the place in running order .I am not the handy man type this was the wrong place for me to buy 22 yrs ago.
So bit the bullet found a nice looking townhouse online that had an open inspection today at 4.30(I had to run around photocopy drivers licence and groupcert) . That I can afford to rent. Its run by some charity(not housing trust! SA workmans cottages its called) you have to be a low income earner.Which of course I am
she did ask did u have a pay rise lately yeah between 1 and 3 % no worries We weren't the only ones looking but we are now on a list if we dont get this one we will get one within a month.Bedrooms are smaller than eldest and I are used to but not daughter .
Why didnt i look earlier oh well live and learn !
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She did answer some of my txts when I told her we needed to talk about selling this house.And that I wished to move out of this area.
Now a couple of weeks ago.I had a really bad Saturday one thing that happened my Sim died .They managed to save it but I decided to jump on a plan .And u guessed it this sim was out of a phone my ex and kids gave me in happier times.And it was in her name so I needed a new sim and lost her number .
I asked our youngest to TXT her mum .I wanted to talk to her about her signing a form so I could access my half of the equity (it took me ages to work my courage up to contacting a mortage broker ) .But she txt our youngest back with no .She wont talk to me until my next RDO .Which is now tomorrow.
She has told the kids stuff like we have to rent and she will give a large part or her part to us to buy furniture and to use a s rent.
Now I might be a wee bit dumb but theres no way I am totally stupid .I for 1 don't believe what I have been told by the kids(bits of information have been told me over the last couple of weeks) .How can I trust this woman who walked out on me .And what little money we had saved up and the kids money she went through it all .With no signs of remorse .
If we go to some real estate place (I have no idea who what why or how at this stage but the kids say we are).I can not be forced to accept any deal or anything can I .I can take any documents to my lawyer surely.
Sorry to ask for advice but I really dont have any friends .Co workers I have confided in have told me not to sign anything and not trust her.
All I want is to leave this place with my fair share.She has left me with adult kids either who are still at school or recently lost their job.They still trust her I've told them nicely that they cant .But I saw our joint account with just a cheque in it .She can no longer touch my earnings .But i feel she is still trying to control what I do where I live.
Damn I feel stupid !!