Why a mother gave up her kids.. (101)
i have heard a few such stories and known 2 families in my life this happened
i dont understand it
so to me its not normal or right
but sadly men do it -
many families are shattered because someone changed their mind
couldnt follow thru
or i guess didnt know how and didnt want to learn
a partnership/family shattered... sadly...it is what is normal
i dont understand it
so to me its not normal or right
but sadly men do it -
many families are shattered because someone changed their mind
couldnt follow thru
or i guess didnt know how and didnt want to learn
a partnership/family shattered... sadly...it is what is normal
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mindfful: i have heard a few such stories and known 2 families in my life this happened
i dont understand it
so to me its not normal or right
but sadly men do it -
many families are shattered because someone changed their mind
couldnt follow thru
or i guess didnt know how and didnt want to learn
a partnership/family shattered... sadly...it is what is normal
i dont understand it
so to me its not normal or right
but sadly men do it -
many families are shattered because someone changed their mind
couldnt follow thru
or i guess didnt know how and didnt want to learn
a partnership/family shattered... sadly...it is what is normal
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mindfful: i have heard a few such stories and known 2 families in my life this happened
i dont understand it
so to me its not normal or right
but sadly men do it -
many families are shattered because someone changed their mind
couldnt follow thru
or i guess didnt know how and didnt want to learn
a partnership/family shattered... sadly...it is what is normal
i dont understand it
so to me its not normal or right
but sadly men do it -
many families are shattered because someone changed their mind
couldnt follow thru
or i guess didnt know how and didnt want to learn
a partnership/family shattered... sadly...it is what is normal
yes..you are right about the guys. gosh..i almost forgot that guys do this terrible things all the times! i guess it is women who almost always take care of their kids against all odds. so when we see a woman doing such a thing, we find it little 'unusual' i guess.
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mnowsa: yes..you are right about the guys. gosh..i almost forgot that guys do this terrible things all the times! i guess it is women who almost always take care of their kids against all odds. so when we see a woman doing such a thing, we find it little 'unusual' i guess.
There are men all over the world, who would kill to be able to be with their kids, however the family court system favours mothers, as being the better carer( which is a load of twaddle). Women are as capable as abandonment of kid as men are.... more often men have it forced upon them by the court system
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A very unusual decision for a woman. In some cultures this would be unnacceptable but in the QWestern culture more and more people are abdicating parental responsibility. I hope the children are'nt damaged in any way. I don't know if it was the right decision, but it is done and dusted. I hope there is not to much suffering later.
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i'm still for the Tiger-motherhood idea. But if everything works out for the better with the Hiroshima-mom, then so be it. 
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plainlyjune: i'm still for the Tiger-motherhood idea. But if everything works out for the better with the Hiroshima-mom, then so be it.
it is just i find it really difficult to believe that a woman is able to do such a 'thing' and be cool/okay with it.
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mnowsa: it is just i find it really difficult to believe that a woman is able to do such a 'thing' and be cool/okay with it.
I guess, here i am holding women to a better and higher standard as far as the issues of children are concerned
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mnowsa: A mother gave up her kids because she wanted to pursue a 'career' abroad and that she didn't 'want' to be a mother anymore.
please read the article/link above and tell us if what she did was disturbing or a normal thing to do for a mother in that kind of 'circumstances'?
please read the article/link above and tell us if what she did was disturbing or a normal thing to do for a mother in that kind of 'circumstances'?
hmmm seems like she changed her mind about being a mother
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About 6 months after my first wife divorced me, I went to get my two boys for the weekend which I did every other week. As we were putting the boys in my car, she handed me a paper and told me not to bring the oldest who was 9 at the time back. The paper was a statement giving me custody and that things would be made legal soon. She gave me custody because she couldn't deal with his being ADHD any longer.
From the time I got custody of him to the time he turned 15, I can count on one hand the number of times she made an effort to see him for a day or weekend. I was still taking my youngest every other weekend during this time giving her a free weekend while I was hardly getting free time for myself.
Once he hit 15, she would take him to the mall and buy him things, clothes, video games or whatever. When he hit 16, she payed for his drivers ed, his drivers license and helped him get his first car despite my feeling he wasn't ready.
My youngest moved out of her house two weeks before his 18th birthday last Sept and is now sharing an apartment with his older brother. He graduates high school this coming June.
Despite there being six years between the two, they are quite close
I have an aunt who has raised two grandsons because her oldest daughter wanted to party doing drugs and such.
My brother and his wife are raising their two grandsons because their youngest daughter is too fricken stupid to get her priorities straight.
From the time I got custody of him to the time he turned 15, I can count on one hand the number of times she made an effort to see him for a day or weekend. I was still taking my youngest every other weekend during this time giving her a free weekend while I was hardly getting free time for myself.
Once he hit 15, she would take him to the mall and buy him things, clothes, video games or whatever. When he hit 16, she payed for his drivers ed, his drivers license and helped him get his first car despite my feeling he wasn't ready.
My youngest moved out of her house two weeks before his 18th birthday last Sept and is now sharing an apartment with his older brother. He graduates high school this coming June.
Despite there being six years between the two, they are quite close
I have an aunt who has raised two grandsons because her oldest daughter wanted to party doing drugs and such.
My brother and his wife are raising their two grandsons because their youngest daughter is too fricken stupid to get her priorities straight.
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mnowsa: I guess, here i am holding women to a better and higher standard as far as the issues of children are concerned
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plainlyjune: try double
well...women are the kinder and more tender gender among the two. And that's why i took the liberty to hold them to a higher/better standard
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mnowsa: A mother gave up her kids because she wanted to pursue a 'career' abroad and that she didn't 'want' to be a mother anymore.
please read the article/link above and tell us if what she did was disturbing or a normal thing to do for a mother in that kind of 'circumstances'?
please read the article/link above and tell us if what she did was disturbing or a normal thing to do for a mother in that kind of 'circumstances'?
Although this would never be an option for myself, I can empathasize with this woman in that she needed to find herself. Honestly, I applaude her for doing things the way she did. I read the entire article & it seems she spent time preparing her kids rather than just up & taking off on them.
As soon as I read this though, my mind flashed back to Susan Smith who drowned her 2 boys in a car in a lake because her new boyfriend didn't want kids.. so really, bravo to this woman for loving her children enough to do the right thing in her case..
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mnowsa: well...women are the kinder and more tender gender among the two. And that's why i took the liberty to hold them to a higher/better standard
don't put women on such a pedestal, there are a lot of women around with hidden agendas.
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tomcatwarne: don't put women on such a pedestal, there are a lot of women around with hidden agendas.
well, since i am getting 'punched' from both men and women, i guess it is fair to conclude that i am fairly close to the 'truth'
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mnowsa: yes jack..you are so right that so many men do this terrible thing without ever being held accoutable for BUT women hardly ever do this kind of thing unlress really really have to. And since, women don't normally do this kind of thing( and i applaud and admire them for that), it just seems little 'unusual'..that's all.
Times are changing, mnowsa.
Deal with it.
Its actually to your advantage to accept this. It means neither men, nor women will be bound by arbitrary rules dictated by their gender. Its about sharing responsibility and freedom of choice.
I've heard it said that we are all equal in the eyes of God. Why can we not bring ourselves to be equal in the eyes of each other?
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is it wrong that i consider women better gender?
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My question is why did she ever have children if they didn't wish to be a mother.That makes no sense.
I would consider women like her selfish.
I would consider women like her selfish.
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mnowsa: is it wrong that i consider women better gender?
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please read the article/link above and tell us if what she did was disturbing or a normal thing to do for a mother in that kind of 'circumstances'?