Getting ready to date a separated man ... (157)
I'm not divorced. I felt it was more important to have a home and a bed to sleep on.Those pieces of paper,are not cheap.
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bodleing: I won't even bother trying to decipher that one.
It just means that I have gone down the road of dating the separated and newly divorced man many times.I've been there,done that and have the tee shirt.My personal experiences,just like everyones personal experiences,influences how they will behave,or judge how to proceed,in the future when encountering the same situation.
Others may of dated separated or newly divorced men and had wonderful experiences,but for me not so much.Others may be so incline and go down that road happily,but for me not so much.
How others live their lives is up to them.It's of no consequence to me which is why I told the op to go on the date even though he already told her upfront he wants nothing serious.Who knows it may turn out wonderful.
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greenlampshade: I'm not divorced. I felt it was more important to have a home and a bed to sleep on.Those pieces of paper,are not cheap.
Quite right.
You know why divorces are not cheap?
Because there worth every dime.
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Well. It's like a car lease. Really easy (cheap) to get into but difficult (expensive) to get out of. The difference being with marriage the bigger price is that of starting over again when you thought you never would have to such a thing.
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dog are loyal, and not asking too much. sometime guard us. but sometime our man put us on fire and dangerous situation.
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maryrachelle: It just means that I have gone down the road of dating the separated and newly divorced man many times.I've been there,done that and have the tee shirt.My personal experiences,just like everyones personal experiences,influences how they will behave,or judge how to proceed,in the future when encountering the same situation.Others may of dated separated or newly divorced men and had wonderful experiences,but for me not so much.Others may be so incline and go down that road happily,but for me not so much.How others live their lives is up to them.It's of no consequence to me which is why I told the op to go on the date even though he already told her upfront he wants nothing serious.Who knows it may turn out wonderful.
Still has no relevance to what you stated...
"legally they are still married and not even being divorced yet,and they still have not fully gotten over the demise of their marriage."
I still say that is a sweeping generalisation.
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doberman3: We had been chatting on another site. He had been doing everything perfect, calling me when he said he would. It felt great.
We had interesting conversation. He was working on getting his divorce.
He had said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I agreed.
He needed time to sell his house, keep the divorce on track, etc.
Then I get a note, that he thinks he could not have the same zest for my dog as I did. He said he likes kids better but he does like dogs.
Then he was afraid, he wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
I was more upset about the problem with my dog. I also said, kids were not a problem. Not sure what kids had to do with anything since his kids were grown up. I also wasn't looking for a serious relationship unless it turned into one.
I like my Dobe more than him. I would not trade anything in the world for him greeting me at the door, etc.
Oh, well, win some and lose some. I think he had just lost interest.
I feel better without him.
I said that I guess we weren't having a date Saturday, ha.
The Doberman
We had interesting conversation. He was working on getting his divorce.
He had said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I agreed.
He needed time to sell his house, keep the divorce on track, etc.
Then I get a note, that he thinks he could not have the same zest for my dog as I did. He said he likes kids better but he does like dogs.
Then he was afraid, he wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
I was more upset about the problem with my dog. I also said, kids were not a problem. Not sure what kids had to do with anything since his kids were grown up. I also wasn't looking for a serious relationship unless it turned into one.
I like my Dobe more than him. I would not trade anything in the world for him greeting me at the door, etc.
Oh, well, win some and lose some. I think he had just lost interest.
I feel better without him.
I said that I guess we weren't having a date Saturday, ha.
The Doberman
Seems his not the one honey , but if a Man can not except your pets /kids or lifestyle then not to worry - there are men out there that will !
Good luck
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He could simply be scared of some types of dogs? Has he asked any questions relating to its temperament?
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Boban1: and they taste better ...
Well .. I prefer the smell and the taste of a man...
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Actractorguy: Not sure one is actually required to win a contest. I hear women can go just as far and sometimes farther.
Should I ever meet a woman who can point and shoot then I would look at her in awe and amazement.
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Dobe, you are worth far more than he will ever realize and his loss.
The only advice I can give from my personal experience, make him prove he is indeed seperated. I have a funny feeling he might not have been. I have dated seperated guys that were indeed seperated and although it didn't last too long, we had fun
And it's true, I have a friend that has been seperated for many years, for financial reasons
The only advice I can give from my personal experience, make him prove he is indeed seperated. I have a funny feeling he might not have been. I have dated seperated guys that were indeed seperated and although it didn't last too long, we had fun
And it's true, I have a friend that has been seperated for many years, for financial reasons
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Actractorguy: I don't know about that. I would not make assumptions about every separated person all lumped into one. It should be based on how the person is and how long they have been separated. Some are separated and have been mentally separated for up to years before taking the final steps to leaving the partner. Would you say in that instance the person is just getting over the breakup.
Really is too much to decipher to just outright disregard someone based on their previous relationship end the final ending.
Really is too much to decipher to just outright disregard someone based on their previous relationship end the final ending.
And for some, once the "Till death do us part" bit has gone pear-shaped, marriage vows become null and void.
If someone has lost faith in the concept of marriage and marriage is meaningless, so is divorce.
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al i know is it took me 3 yrs to get me on track again after i an my ex hubby split,i had to get used to bein on my own for awile,and the early flings i had , i wos on the rebound,so i wudnt realy be interested in datin a man who's newly separated,i know lots people who are very happy together second time round,things take time to heal an men an women just want datin an sum wud like 2 try again for serious relatonship.al depends on individual an wot suits one,
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jac379: And for some, once the "Till death do us part" bit has gone pear-shaped, marriage vows become null and void.
If someone has lost faith in the concept of marriage and marriage is meaningless, so is divorce.
If someone has lost faith in the concept of marriage and marriage is meaningless, so is divorce.
Why do you need a rubber stamp and a piece of paper to be together. Surely two people can decide this for themselves
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tomcatwarne: Why do you need a rubber stamp and a piece of paper to be together. Surely two people can decide this for themselves
Sorry? I don't get what you mean, Tom.
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jac379: Sorry? I don't get what you mean, Tom.
Ok, what I am saying is, I would be happy to live with someone I love, a piece of paper doesn't make it any more profound or real. We can declare the fact we are together, to the community, without the trouble of this. I realise some women may not find this comment attractive, but I think it's a valid point of view.
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And for some, once the "Till death do us part" bit has gone pear-shaped, marriage vows become null and void.
If someone has lost faith in the concept of marriage and marriage is meaningless, so is divorce.[/quote]
Exactly!!!!
A divorce to me would indeed be meaningless.
Perhaps if they were giving them away I might take one, otherwise I stay happily separated.
If someone has lost faith in the concept of marriage and marriage is meaningless, so is divorce.[/quote]
Exactly!!!!
A divorce to me would indeed be meaningless.
Perhaps if they were giving them away I might take one, otherwise I stay happily separated.
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bodleing: And for some, once the "Till death do us part" bit has gone pear-shaped, marriage vows become null and void.
If someone has lost faith in the concept of marriage and marriage is meaningless, so is divorce.
Exactly!!!!
A divorce to me would indeed be meaningless.
Perhaps if they were giving them away I might take one, otherwise I stay happily separated.
If someone has lost faith in the concept of marriage and marriage is meaningless, so is divorce.
Exactly!!!!
A divorce to me would indeed be meaningless.
Perhaps if they were giving them away I might take one, otherwise I stay happily separated.
Quoting Jac there...don't know why that did not show.
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Love me, love my dog....
And its non-negotiable! Simples.....
And its non-negotiable! Simples.....
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I won't even bother trying to decipher that one.