I Don't Know What to Do ( Archived) (31)

I have to say in my opinion life does not come with guarantees. So if you feel you have to play it safe then go buy a nice comfy chair because you are destined to live your life in front of your computer screen and if that is not the life you want then you have to be ready to take chances alot will not work out but is living through the ones that do not work out worth not giving yourself the one chance that could make you happier than you ever imagined?????? just my view on life

so true, web cam. See him in real and see his expressions!
but like some forums people say.... even in the real world you take a gammble everytime you give your heart away

my guess is when in doubt - don't
let mind and heart work together, however any doubt - oh ya second quess it

let us know what happens plz

Yes, hopes are not the same thing as expectations.

Hopes may be happily realised, or painfully dashed, but expectations can be very limiting.

Maybe a scammer stringing you along for awhile. You are right to be very cautious and you most certainly do not deserve to be treated in the way he may have treated the other woman. The fact that he's being rather secretive than upfront with you is a redflag right from the start. You are right to ask him what it was about the other woman that he didn't like. He should give you some idea of what it was. Who knows, he might have the same type of traits of the guys that you don't like. It is not impossible that this guy is a player and strings women along emotionally and then dumps them. He may even be the type to say he's coming out and then give excuse after excuse why he can't come out and dissappoint you. That's playing you emotionally if he does that.
It is your business to know what the general issue was and find out how he reacted to it. That will give you an idea of what to expect from him in his behavior overall. You may decide you want to end it before it goes any further if his reaction was contrary to how you would want someone to treat you. You should feel comfortable going into a relationship. I think we all have an extra intuition and some people are more "in tune" with it than others. Sounds like your mind is telling you that something isn't right. I have found that when I listen to my intuition, I have always come out right. It's a protective mechanism I believe. Anyone who says that it isn't your business to get the answer you asked from this guy is wrong. JMHO here!!

Both of you are going to fast. He was talking to you and other women at the same time...That tells you enough even if he was sincere about it..
Phone, emails etc etc and you can't figure him out.....
Why don't you think first of friendship to start a relationship...you hardly know this guy.
It is not that you have to do it forever but at least assure yourself he is the person you can trust and it is your instinct to decide what is next. Red flags are easy to detect.
Don't make this one another one on your list of failures...
Wish you the best!

Thanks, LILLYLADY. It seems to me that you are the only one who understood the whole problem. It is not the matter of whether I am going to meet him or not. I may and I may not, it doesn't matter at all. But, what is the reason that the man is not sencere when asked about something and we both agreed to be opened and frank to each other. And if he really doesn't know why he didn't like that woman, how is it possible? I can always say why I like or disklike somebody. I am not an unconscious being, I very well know why things happen between two people. Those who have reached their mature age and haven't understood things about emotions are still immature and, probably, will always stay so.