I Don't Know What to Do (31)
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hi vyoleta, 
i think this kind of situation is sort of typical in online dating, alas..
there is no amount of messages, phone talks and pics that can substitute the face-to-face meeting or garantee a positive effect of it..
the so called "reality check"...when the filter of the other one's immagination is no longer present...
i think this kind of situation is sort of typical in online dating, alas..
there is no amount of messages, phone talks and pics that can substitute the face-to-face meeting or garantee a positive effect of it..
the so called "reality check"...when the filter of the other one's immagination is no longer present...
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lucynad: hi vyoleta,
i think this kind of situation is sort of typical in online dating, alas..
there is no amount of messages, phone talks and pics that can substitute the face-to-face meeting or garantee a positive effect of it..
the so called "reality check"...when the filter of the other one's immagination is no longer present...
Well, I think this may be true in most cases, but not with you and I. I know you will love me when we meet. i think this kind of situation is sort of typical in online dating, alas..
there is no amount of messages, phone talks and pics that can substitute the face-to-face meeting or garantee a positive effect of it..
the so called "reality check"...when the filter of the other one's immagination is no longer present...
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vyoleta: I met this guy online, he was from another country. We exchanged lots of messages, pictures, we talked on the phone and we liked each other very much. But, since I am tired of disappointments and don't want another one on my long list of dating failures, I want to be sure before we meet. There is something strange about him. He told me that he'd met another woman online before. She was not from his country, as well. After the same kind of getting to know her as we had (exchanging lots of messages, pictures, phone conversations...) he went to her place and realised that he didn't like her. I asked why didn't he like her but he couldn't answer.
Now I am thinking to stop our communication giving him some excuse for it, because I am not ready to be treated in the same way by him as he seemed to had done with that other woman.
What is your opinion about it?
Now I am thinking to stop our communication giving him some excuse for it, because I am not ready to be treated in the same way by him as he seemed to had done with that other woman.
What is your opinion about it?
I can understand your wanting to be sure. Wouldn't we all like that? It would save so much time and trouble. Problem is, even in RL, it just doesn't work that way. You have to place your bet before the horses leave the post.
Maybe I'm not getting this straight, but it seems you were particularly concerned that he couldn't say why he didn't like the other gal he met. Natural enough for you to ask, yes, but to be fair...is it really your business? Also, it's possible that rather she did not like him, hmmm?
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Jeeepers: Well, I think this may be true in most cases, but not with you and I. I know you will love me when we meet.
yup...i guess, "when we meet" makes the trick...
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lucynad: yup...i guess, "when we meet" makes the trick...
I just knew it !! 
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hello vyoleta ..go for it,for life is a gamble.you win some you lose some..there's no permanent things in this world even the feelings of one person.today you love him,,tomorrow you feel out of love...in every aspect of life,be ready for acceptance and rejections...goodluck
..go for it,for life is a gamble.you win some you lose some..there's no permanent things in this world even the feelings of one person.today you love him,,tomorrow you feel out of love...in every aspect of life,be ready for acceptance and rejections...goodluck------ This thread is Archived ------
Jeeepers: web cam.
Thanks, Jeepers, I forgot to mention, we did this, too.
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lucynad: hi vyoleta,
i think this kind of situation is sort of typical in online dating, alas..
there is no amount of messages, phone talks and pics that can substitute the face-to-face meeting or garantee a positive effect of it..
the so called "reality check"...when the filter of the other one's immagination is no longer present...
i think this kind of situation is sort of typical in online dating, alas..
there is no amount of messages, phone talks and pics that can substitute the face-to-face meeting or garantee a positive effect of it..
the so called "reality check"...when the filter of the other one's immagination is no longer present...
Thanks, lucynad. I guess you are right. But, still... if you are mature and have so much experience with online dating, you should know what to take and what to drop off before the "reality check"...
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vyoleta: I met this guy online, he was from another country. We exchanged lots of messages, pictures, we talked on the phone and we liked each other very much. But, since I am tired of disappointments and don't want another one on my long list of dating failures, I want to be sure before we meet. There is something strange about him. He told me that he'd met another woman online before. She was not from his country, as well. After the same kind of getting to know her as we had (exchanging lots of messages, pictures, phone conversations...) he went to her place and realised that he didn't like her. I asked why didn't he like her but he couldn't answer.
Now I am thinking to stop our communication giving him some excuse for it, because I am not ready to be treated in the same way by him as he seemed to had done with that other woman.
What is your opinion about it?
Now I am thinking to stop our communication giving him some excuse for it, because I am not ready to be treated in the same way by him as he seemed to had done with that other woman.
What is your opinion about it?
absents of chemistry ( Pheromone)...
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Dagosto: I can understand your wanting to be sure. Wouldn't we all like that? It would save so much time and trouble. Problem is, even in RL, it just doesn't work that way. You have to place your bet before the horses leave the post.
Maybe I'm not getting this straight, but it seems you were particularly concerned that he couldn't say why he didn't like the other gal he met. Natural enough for you to ask, yes, but to be fair...is it really your business? Also, it's possible that rather she did not like him, hmmm?
Maybe I'm not getting this straight, but it seems you were particularly concerned that he couldn't say why he didn't like the other gal he met. Natural enough for you to ask, yes, but to be fair...is it really your business? Also, it's possible that rather she did not like him, hmmm?
Yes, Dagosto, you've noticed the point of my dilemma. Our online relation was based on truth, sincerity, openness. He said he had too many disappointments as I had, so in order to avoid any more of it, we promissed each other to be sure if we wanted to meet or not. If she didn't like him, shouldn't he had told me so?
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Boban1: absents of chemistry ( Pheromone)...
I don't believe in it. It is for young people, not for older and wiser. ------ This thread is Archived ------
leni0822: hello vyoleta ..go for it,for life is a gamble.you win some you lose some..there's no permanent things in this world even the feelings of one person.today you love him,,tomorrow you feel out of love...in every aspect of life,be ready for acceptance and rejections...goodluck
Thanks, leni0822.
No more rejections! Enough is enough!
Good luck to you, too.
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Suck it and see 
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vyoleta: I met this guy online, he was from another country. We exchanged lots of messages, pictures, we talked on the phone and we liked each other very much. But, since I am tired of disappointments and don't want another one on my long list of dating failures, I want to be sure before we meet. There is something strange about him. He told me that he'd met another woman online before. She was not from his country, as well. After the same kind of getting to know her as we had (exchanging lots of messages, pictures, phone conversations...) he went to her place and realised that he didn't like her. I asked why didn't he like her but he couldn't answer.
Now I am thinking to stop our communication giving him some excuse for it, because I am not ready to be treated in the same way by him as he seemed to had done with that other woman.
What is your opinion about it?
Face to face is the best for both of you.Picture yourself in a position,that you don't like him,when meeting him,what are you going to do then???You will tell him politely,you are not suited for each other.You did liked some of your dating failures and others you did not,the same applies for him.My advice is meet him,with positive and not the failure attitude.Now I am thinking to stop our communication giving him some excuse for it, because I am not ready to be treated in the same way by him as he seemed to had done with that other woman.
What is your opinion about it?
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I tend to agree that why he did not like the other lady is none of your business
and I would be concerned, if I were him, about you probing and grilling me about it
and whether I'd want to spend my money to travel long distance to visit a busybody
sorry just MHO
and I would be concerned, if I were him, about you probing and grilling me about it
and whether I'd want to spend my money to travel long distance to visit a busybody
sorry just MHO
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felixis99: I tend to agree that why he did not like the other lady is none of your business
and I would be concerned, if I were him, about you probing and grilling me about it
and whether I'd want to spend my money to travel long distance to visit a busybody
sorry just MHO
and I would be concerned, if I were him, about you probing and grilling me about it
and whether I'd want to spend my money to travel long distance to visit a busybody
sorry just MHO
I tend you agree with you Felix (I usually do)....as for cyber connect....the only way to really know is to invest time, money, whatever it takes to ultimately meet a person of interest...Alas, it is one of the drawbacks to online dating...BUT, IMO, the positives far outweigh the negatives....
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vyoleta: I don't believe in it. It is for young people, not for older and wiser.
Actually, I feel that "Chemistry" has nothing to do with age. It is either there or it isn't, no matter how well one "clicks" through emails and phone calls. And sometimes it is indeed difficult to explain "why" that attraction isn't there face-to-face, when it all comes down to chemistry. Older and wiser people still feel that chemistry, or they do not. Otherwise, we'd all be partnered up and not on a dating site. JMHO ------ This thread is Archived ------
vyoleta: Thanks, leni0822.
No more rejections! Enough is enough!
Good luck to you, too.
We cannot force someone to not reject us. And not meeting someone because we've decided we won't tolerate rejection anymore will lead to a very lonely and alone life. No more rejections! Enough is enough!
Good luck to you, too.
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Now I am thinking to stop our communication giving him some excuse for it, because I am not ready to be treated in the same way by him as he seemed to had done with that other woman.
What is your opinion about it?