SHould i contact my ex (24)
Tomcats2Norwich, Norfolk, England UK81 Threads 9 Polls 2,249 PostsI recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants rto get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
Personally, I think they are an ex for a reason, otherwise you would still be together. Whatever the cause of your split up may still be valid today so you could find yourselves in the same position if you re-kindle your relationship.I always think it's better to look forward rather than back.
Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants rto get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
I think there is no harm meeting up for a drink just to catch-up with things. You have both grown since then and your characters may be more in tune than they were just before your break-up. You split amicably and she wants to initiate contact. Only meet up if you are ready and willing to acknowledge that the relationship may progress, and are you ready for a relationship - although that may be a stupid question to ask. Do you want a relationship or are you happy staying single.
Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants rto get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
If you split amicably, it doesn't sound like you had a toxic, or destructive relationship. That given, is it possible to explore your options together equally as amicably?
You may find that the reasons for your split are no longer an issue 15 years on, you may find that they still stand and you both just need to get a little more closure regarding the warmth you still feel for each other, you may regain a good friend, even if you are still not suited as partners.
If you do both get back in contact, have your eyes wide open and communicate maturely. Most relationships start with a certain aspect of convenience and opportunity, maybe this is no different.
As long as you meet up again with your eyes wide open, 'rose tinted specs', ' the grass is always greener' etc.
You'll never, never know, if you never, never go ........
Best of luck
You'll never, never know, if you never, never go ........
Best of luck
Hiya TC
If you and your ex broke up amicably, there is no reason why you shouldn't meet up.
If you and your ex broke up amicably, there is no reason why you shouldn't meet up.
I agree .. meet up for a drink, have a chat and see how you both feel.
All the best TC
All the best TC
If a door closes behind you, lock it & leave it that way. It's shut for good reason. 
Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants rto get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
up to you bud 
oppurtunity ?who knows .im sitting on the fence .it coulg go this way there again it could go that way ,now was it the red wire or the blue wire ?
leisure07: up to you bud oppurtunity ?who knows .im sitting on the fence .it coulg go this way there again it could go that way ,now was it the red wire or the blue wire ?
still dont know what to do probably will as i was wondering how she is recentleyTomcats2: I was fond of her
Hi TC
While I myself would never go back, with your words above I would say there is no harm in doing so. However, these words also give me concern as it makes me wonder why you broke up to begin with and was she ever as fond of you, as much as you are of her??
Also, people can change a lot in that time, so she may not be the same person you met originally.. she may be even better, just like you are!!
Good luck, whatever happens..
Tomcats2: still dont know what to do probably will as i was wondering how she is recentley
On one hand you both decided to end the relationship, it was a joint decision as you said. On the other hand, you mentioned it's been 15 years and you have both grown and changed in that time. So, if you don't meet up, you might regret it.
TC, go for it.
Think Richard Burton & Elizabeth Taylor T C. They got married to each other twice 
darren9030: Think Richard Burton & Elizabeth Taylor T C. They got married to each other twice
And divorced twice
Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants rto get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
Thankyou for the posts to my thread it was both helpful and informative. I took the 
could not find a bull! by the horns and sat down and wrote the lady a letter this morning and just got back from posting it. so will have to see what happens again thanks for the advice.
could not find a bull! by the horns and sat down and wrote the lady a letter this morning and just got back from posting it. so will have to see what happens again thanks for the advice.Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants rto get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
sure grab a coffee - 15 years is a long time, both have changed, plus the anger and animosity may have gone under the bridge.... I would just to see if they are the same person you once knew... but as one threader said you're Ex is your Ex.
Hi TC well you have nothing to loose!
Meet up and you never know rekindle the flame.
Maybe yes and maybe no.
Good luck to you hun, and if you loved her once
you can love her again.
Meet up and you never know rekindle the flame.
Maybe yes and maybe no.
Good luck to you hun, and if you loved her once
you can love her again.
Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants rto get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
I for one look forward to hearing how it goes TC! Gl!Tomcats2: Thankyou for the posts to my thread it was both helpful and informative. I took the could not find a bull! by the horns and sat down and wrote the lady a letter this morning and just got back from posting it. so will have to see what happens again thanks for the advice.
Oops meant to quote this one.. SOrry. Let us know the results TC 
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