jem1964Foothills of Dandenongs, Victoria Australia2,441 posts
daggyone: Oh crap, we haven't evn done the act together yet, but you guys seem to think it's like a full blown relationship too.
Daggy I would say give her a time or day that suits you when you dont have the kids or work.
If she cant accept that, well maybe then you need to think about where it is going to go and how much you will accept.
I was chatting to a fella the other night, at 11pm he expected me to go out and meet him and got quite stroppy when I refused. Then the next time we chatted I got told that "no partner of his" was going to ride a motorbike. I hadnt even met him and he was making plans for the future.
BTW I am no longer chatting to him, as if you cant accept me the way I am I am not going to hang around and put up with someone trying to change me.
Well, daggyone...since you've shared this...Not sure what you mean in this case as to her getting all emotional. Perhaps she's been led to believe she might be of some importance, no matter how minor, in your life. When you hae your children with you, it's understandable that you spend time with them and not take off with them to see her....but I do think that it's still important if she means anything to you at all, to maintain some kind of communication with her during this time. You haven't told us whether you do, so maybe she might not hear from you for days...that tells a lady loud and clear that you're 'NOT THAT INTO HER'.
Not sure if she is on CS, but if she is, she would be horrified, mortified, upset etc...at reading what you wrote. Talk to her about this, and most of all, be honest with yourself as well as her.
daggyoneOPWonthaggi, Victoria Australia1,963 posts
I just think anything worthwhile you should be prepared to wait for, no point rushing these things and yes I do have regular phone/net contact, she just has to wait til I'm ready for the next meet up, that's all. How hard is that to do?
daggyone: I just think anything worthwhile you should be prepared to wait for, no point rushing these things and yes I do have regular phone/net contact, she just has to wait til I'm ready for the next meet up, that's all. How hard is that to do?
daggyone: oh, or pressured into something before taking a considered approach to the live long decision
Yeah some people throw themselves into these things without a second thought - how often do you see people move in together after a couple of months eek
daggyoneOPWonthaggi, Victoria Australia1,963 posts
serene56: Yeah some people throw themselves into these things without a second thought - how often do you see people move in together after a couple of months eek
and then go through the property settlement BS 6 months down the track
serene56: Yeah some people throw themselves into these things without a second thought - how often do you see people move in together after a couple of months eek
This exemplifies a point I was going to make (thankyou Serene xx), it takes all types, different strokes for different folks etc So when you ask what is it with some people, there's your answer. Sure everyone who posts on these forums is duly prepared to be the perfect partner but some people have more to learn than others . . .
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