Thread against the thread "When i can not make you love me" (42)
a44dreamer: I think men are taught they need to do the running and when a woman runs after a man it is often looked upon as desperate or needy.
I'm sure that by doing small thoughtful things for this man he would begin to notice and think about you as a caring person. Obviously if its been stated he is not attracted, your the wrong age etc etc you can't hold a gun at his head an make him declare love for you. (well you could but it wouldn't be a nice way to go about things)
I'm sure that by doing small thoughtful things for this man he would begin to notice and think about you as a caring person. Obviously if its been stated he is not attracted, your the wrong age etc etc you can't hold a gun at his head an make him declare love for you. (well you could but it wouldn't be a nice way to go about things)
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Lilly32: I will say it simple as I say, damn might be sound primitive but...
Men like a dogs, till you run they will chase after you once you stop...Finish yourself
Men like a dogs, till you run they will chase after you once you stop...Finish yourself
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teddy bears-- to know him is to love him or her.
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How many times have we seen this scenario:
A guy loves a woman, and is always there for her anytime she needs something, but she hardly notices him. Then one day, one of her girlfriends says, "Who has been there for you whenever you needed ot? Who's the one who gave you that great gift on your birthday? Who's the one who's paid the most attention to you? He's been there all along, and you haven't even noticed." This kind of scenario happens all the time.
Of course, the trick is that there is a fine line between pursuing someone and not allowing ourselves to be used.
A guy loves a woman, and is always there for her anytime she needs something, but she hardly notices him. Then one day, one of her girlfriends says, "Who has been there for you whenever you needed ot? Who's the one who gave you that great gift on your birthday? Who's the one who's paid the most attention to you? He's been there all along, and you haven't even noticed." This kind of scenario happens all the time.
Of course, the trick is that there is a fine line between pursuing someone and not allowing ourselves to be used.
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I was talking to a friend once and she said something I later thought a lot about. I'm paraphrasing her words:
'If someone thought you're not worth enough for him to be your boyfriend in the beginning and you try and try and do everything you can to have him and patiently wait for him and in the end you get him - what exactly do you get? You get a man who couldn't find anything better than you in the meantime, so he decided to do with the second-best not to be alone'.
After thinking about this, I completely lost motivation to wait for someone or to put too much effort in making someone mine.
Isn't it better to be with someone who thinks you have worth from the very beginning? 
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HuggerMan4U: How many times have we seen this scenario:
A guy loves a woman, and is always there for her anytime she needs something, but she hardly notices him. Then one day, one of her girlfriends says, "Who has been there for you whenever you needed ot? Who's the one who gave you that great gift on your birthday? Who's the one who's paid the most attention to you? He's been there all along, and you haven't even noticed." This kind of scenario happens all the time.
Of course, the trick is that there is a fine line between pursuing someone and not allowing ourselves to be used.
A guy loves a woman, and is always there for her anytime she needs something, but she hardly notices him. Then one day, one of her girlfriends says, "Who has been there for you whenever you needed ot? Who's the one who gave you that great gift on your birthday? Who's the one who's paid the most attention to you? He's been there all along, and you haven't even noticed." This kind of scenario happens all the time.
Of course, the trick is that there is a fine line between pursuing someone and not allowing ourselves to be used.
Have never seen this scenario.
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Aeterna: I was talking to a friend once and she said something I later thought a lot about. I'm paraphrasing her words:
'If someone thought you're not worth enough for him to be your boyfriend in the beginning and you try and try and do everything you can to have him and patiently wait for him and in the end you get him - what exactly do you get? You get a man who couldn't find anything better than you in the meantime, so he decided to do with the second-best not to be alone'.
After thinking about this, I completely lost motivation to wait for someone or to put too much effort in making someone mine. Isn't it better to be with someone who thinks you have worth from the very beginning?
'If someone thought you're not worth enough for him to be your boyfriend in the beginning and you try and try and do everything you can to have him and patiently wait for him and in the end you get him - what exactly do you get? You get a man who couldn't find anything better than you in the meantime, so he decided to do with the second-best not to be alone'.
After thinking about this, I completely lost motivation to wait for someone or to put too much effort in making someone mine. Isn't it better to be with someone who thinks you have worth from the very beginning?
Aeterna, I agree. If a man doesn't treat you like he likes you,
move on. Trying to make someone love you I think is impossible.
If a guy liked me and was trying to do this, I would say good-bye.
It would feel uncomfortable.
If you are with a person and you both like each other, it's easy to start to fall in love.
But even so, you need to get to know them to determine if you are a real good match.
Sometimes, when 2 people are attracted to each other, your mind is in a fog. When you can stop and see things clearly and decide everything seems good, then go for it.
The Dobe
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I think that the majority of men (above a certain age) gets emotionally locked up.
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In response to: Instead of being passive and giving it up with the already grey-haired saying "you can't force someone to love you", why not try something new? Collect all the advices from all over the world (this is just the place I am talking about - all over the world) from all the different people, "how to make you love me".
I have no idea, just asking.
I have no idea, just asking.
You have to get past the physical side of unattraction so that a man can fall in love with the persons character, outlook and philosophy if you make this the focus of attention it is possible for you to force the man to love you for the way you look.
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Aeterna: I was talking to a friend once and she said something I later thought a lot about. I'm paraphrasing her words:
'If someone thought you're not worth enough for him to be your boyfriend in the beginning and you try and try and do everything you can to have him and patiently wait for him and in the end you get him - what exactly do you get? You get a man who couldn't find anything better than you in the meantime, so he decided to do with the second-best not to be alone'.
After thinking about this, I completely lost motivation to wait for someone or to put too much effort in making someone mine. Isn't it better to be with someone who thinks you have worth from the very beginning?
'If someone thought you're not worth enough for him to be your boyfriend in the beginning and you try and try and do everything you can to have him and patiently wait for him and in the end you get him - what exactly do you get? You get a man who couldn't find anything better than you in the meantime, so he decided to do with the second-best not to be alone'.
After thinking about this, I completely lost motivation to wait for someone or to put too much effort in making someone mine. Isn't it better to be with someone who thinks you have worth from the very beginning?
as I began to read this thread, this is ^ exactly the type of response that was formulating in my mind. Something similar happened to me once actually, and after 5 yrs I ended it because I couldn't get out of my head that he was not into me right away - I did feel like his "default setting"
I decided I wanted more than that and ended it. So I guess u can try to make someone love you but I don;t think it works for the best - I think it's better if the mutual attraction is fairly immediate
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felixis99: as I began to read this thread, this is ^ exactly the type of response that was formulating in my mind. Something similar happened to me once actually, and after 5 yrs I ended it because I couldn't get out of my head that he was not into me right away - I did feel like his "default setting"
I decided I wanted more than that and ended it. So I guess u can try to make someone love you but I don;t think it works for the best - I think it's better if the mutual attraction is fairly immediate
I decided I wanted more than that and ended it. So I guess u can try to make someone love you but I don;t think it works for the best - I think it's better if the mutual attraction is fairly immediate
It has been said that the arranged marriages of Indian and other cultures have been successful in the couple "growing" a love for each other.
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feelinglost: It has been said that the arranged marriages of Indian and other cultures have been successful in the couple "growing" a love for each other.
perhaps a more platonic kind of appreciation...like how I love a family member maybe... but I doubt it's really love. How would they know....it's not their way
and how much tiptoeing in the dark ensues????
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Lilly32: I will say it simple as I say, damn might be sound primitive but...
Men like a dogs, till you run they will chase after you once you stop...Finish yourself
Men like a dogs, till you run they will chase after you once you stop...Finish yourself
i agree. Men and dogs are alike.. They both have suspicious about Postmen
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serene56: Sometimes you hear about married couples where the guy pursued the woman who wasn't remotely interested in the first instance.
He kept on, asking her out on dates, buying her flowers and pretty little things, and eventually she gave in, went out with him, and discovered that he was just what she wanted all along.
Did he make her fall in love with him
Would like to think so
He kept on, asking her out on dates, buying her flowers and pretty little things, and eventually she gave in, went out with him, and discovered that he was just what she wanted all along.
Did he make her fall in love with him
Would like to think so
So he romanced her?
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vyoleta: I think that the majority of men (above a certain age) gets emotionally locked up.
You need to find their soft spot.
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RDM59: My girlfriend thinks that I'm a stalker.
Well, she's not exactly my girlfriend yet.
Well, she's not exactly my girlfriend yet.
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Lilly32: I will say it simple as I say, damn might be sound primitive but...
Men like a dogs, till you run they will chase after you once you stop...Finish yourself
Men like a dogs, till you run they will chase after you once you stop...Finish yourself
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a44dreamer: I think men are taught they need to do the running and when a woman runs after a man it is often looked upon as desperate or needy.
I'm sure that by doing small thoughtful things for this man he would begin to notice and think about you as a caring person. Obviously if its been stated he is not attracted, your the wrong age etc etc you can't hold a gun at his head an make him declare love for you. (well you could but it wouldn't be a nice way to go about things)
I'm sure that by doing small thoughtful things for this man he would begin to notice and think about you as a caring person. Obviously if its been stated he is not attracted, your the wrong age etc etc you can't hold a gun at his head an make him declare love for you. (well you could but it wouldn't be a nice way to go about things)
No two people ever love the same, methinks. Hopefully one lights the spark and the other embraces and nurtures it. There are also women who chases men who are not attracted to them.
Women call it stalking or been used. Men, well they just have fun, as long as they don't think they are been taking for patsies.
Love.......
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doberman3: Aeterna, I agree. If a man doesn't treat you like he likes you,
move on. Trying to make someone love you I think is impossible.
If a guy liked me and was trying to do this, I would say good-bye.
It would feel uncomfortable.
If you are with a person and you both like each other, it's easy to start to fall in love.
But even so, you need to get to know them to determine if you are a real good match.
Sometimes, when 2 people are attracted to each other, your mind is in a fog. When you can stop and see things clearly and decide everything seems good, then go for it.
The Dobe
move on. Trying to make someone love you I think is impossible.
If a guy liked me and was trying to do this, I would say good-bye.
It would feel uncomfortable.
If you are with a person and you both like each other, it's easy to start to fall in love.
But even so, you need to get to know them to determine if you are a real good match.
Sometimes, when 2 people are attracted to each other, your mind is in a fog. When you can stop and see things clearly and decide everything seems good, then go for it.
The Dobe
The chance that two persons will love the same at the same time is like winning the lottery or been struck by lightning.
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