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Shell225: Life is not a business, business is business. The thing is, that when the chips are down, when it all falls in a heap, you generally cant rely on other people, partners or otherwise to be there.. you can only rely on yourself to get you through, any support from elsewhere is a gift.
I can only draw on my own experience of people. I had a person in my life, I had a person who I thought would be there, they werent, they left. Why? because I lot of people cant deal with certain things (whether its scars, or illness, or someone needing them in the most basic way), and thats okay because we are all different.
The be all and end all of my existance, my feelings of self worth are not tied into being partnered. Far from it, my feelings of selfworth, success, joy and happiness come from within me.
Guess what, having a partner does not give you a signed sealed assurance that they will be there ... there are no signed sealed assurances.
I can only draw on my own experience of people. I had a person in my life, I had a person who I thought would be there, they werent, they left. Why? because I lot of people cant deal with certain things (whether its scars, or illness, or someone needing them in the most basic way), and thats okay because we are all different.
The be all and end all of my existance, my feelings of self worth are not tied into being partnered. Far from it, my feelings of selfworth, success, joy and happiness come from within me.
Guess what, having a partner does not give you a signed sealed assurance that they will be there ... there are no signed sealed assurances.
I'll drink to that Shell.
Well said!
Happy birthday for tomorrow... you get to 48 2 weeks before me.
daggyone: being on your own at that age means you need to be fit and have your wits about you as there will be no one around to pick you up or call for an ambulance if you fall.
Daggy 58 isn't that old people are still working and are still very fit right into their 60'& 70's these days it's just a number I am 61 and very fit for my age stil working and most young people cannot keep up with me at work the girl that works for me at the moment is 26 and she's a good worker but at the end of the day she has aches and pains
Usually they don't last long in my kind of work. As for old age that comes when you are dying Daggy 43 is still young when I was 43 I would have thought yeah 58 and over was old too. As one ages your body changes but your mind stays forever young so it is up to us to use it & take very good care of ourselves our mind as well as our body so we all live a very productive and full life no matter what age and no matter what age we are we can still start a relationship too & we can still fall in love all over again
"Livin Life N Lovin It" Whohoo! 
Shell225: Life is not a business, business is business. The thing is, that when the chips are down, when it all falls in a heap, you generally cant rely on other people, partners or otherwise to be there.. you can only rely on yourself to get you through, any support from elsewhere is a gift.
I can only draw on my own experience of people. I had a person in my life, I had a person who I thought would be there, they werent, they left. Why? because I lot of people cant deal with certain things (whether its scars, or illness, or someone needing them in the most basic way), and thats okay because we are all different.
The be all and end all of my existance, my feelings of self worth are not tied into being partnered. Far from it, my feelings of selfworth, success, joy and happiness come from within me.
Guess what, having a partner does not give you a signed sealed assurance that they will be there ... there are no signed sealed assurances.
Sounds like you're in the position you want to be, wonders what you're doing on a singles siteI can only draw on my own experience of people. I had a person in my life, I had a person who I thought would be there, they werent, they left. Why? because I lot of people cant deal with certain things (whether its scars, or illness, or someone needing them in the most basic way), and thats okay because we are all different.
The be all and end all of my existance, my feelings of self worth are not tied into being partnered. Far from it, my feelings of selfworth, success, joy and happiness come from within me.
Guess what, having a partner does not give you a signed sealed assurance that they will be there ... there are no signed sealed assurances.
Shell225: Life is not a business, business is business. The thing is, that when the chips are down, when it all falls in a heap, you generally cant rely on other people, partners or otherwise to be there.. you can only rely on yourself to get you through, any support from elsewhere is a gift.
I can only draw on my own experience of people. I had a person in my life, I had a person who I thought would be there, they werent, they left. Why? because I lot of people cant deal with certain things (whether its scars, or illness, or someone needing them in the most basic way), and thats okay because we are all different.
The be all and end all of my existance, my feelings of self worth are not tied into being partnered. Far from it, my feelings of selfworth, success, joy and happiness come from within me.
Guess what, having a partner does not give you a signed sealed assurance that they will be there ... there are no signed sealed assurances.
I can only draw on my own experience of people. I had a person in my life, I had a person who I thought would be there, they werent, they left. Why? because I lot of people cant deal with certain things (whether its scars, or illness, or someone needing them in the most basic way), and thats okay because we are all different.
The be all and end all of my existance, my feelings of self worth are not tied into being partnered. Far from it, my feelings of selfworth, success, joy and happiness come from within me.
Guess what, having a partner does not give you a signed sealed assurance that they will be there ... there are no signed sealed assurances.
well said ShellIf I am single still this time next year I plan on being happy with the person that I am, not having to be someone or something else that others expect me to be. I dont have to have a man in my life to be happy, I want to be happy to have a man in my life. Meaning I dont and will not rely on a single person to make me happy, only I can do that for me.
in reality Life cannot be planned as it has a habit of throwing curveballs at you, whether it be someone you meet that turns your world upside down, or a health problem or accident that makes you question your mortality, we never know what is around the corner.
curly28: Daggy 58 isn't that old people are still working and are still very fit right into their 60'& 70's these days it's just a number I am 61 and very fit for my age stil working and most young people cannot keep up with me at work the girl that works for me at the moment is 26 and she's a good worker but at the end of the day she has aches and pains Usually they don't last long in my kind of work. As for old age that comes when you are dying
Daggy 43 is still young when I was 43 I would have thought yeah 58 and over was old too. As one ages your body changes but your mind stays forever young so it is up to us to use it & take very good care of ourselves our mind as well as our body so we all live a very productive and full life no matter what age and no matter what age we are we can still start a relationship too & we can still fall in love all over again "Livin Life N Lovin It" Whohoo!
Of course, you're a woman, men die younger so 58yo is like close to the grave to me as I know a lot of people who have died soon after making 60yoDaggy 43 is still young when I was 43 I would have thought yeah 58 and over was old too. As one ages your body changes but your mind stays forever young so it is up to us to use it & take very good care of ourselves our mind as well as our body so we all live a very productive and full life no matter what age and no matter what age we are we can still start a relationship too & we can still fall in love all over again "Livin Life N Lovin It" Whohoo!
i dont have a back up plan ,im just happy to go with the flow now.ive moved around alot and ive been on the datins scene a while now,i was like u when i first come on had to meet someone, put way to much energy into it and got more more disulusioned the longer it went on,the more people u date and it fails for one reason or the other ,u get frustrated as hell,but at the end of day i realised no one else is in charge of making you happy except you,i thought id done the wrong thing coming up here for along time, and have only really just settled in the last few months,the dating sites now to me are more a social out let,will i meet someone i dont know ? do i care anymore not really,im happy for probably the first time in my life,would i like someone to share it with yeh of course ,but it will happen when it happens ... i wish u luck daggy, i hope it works out for you, u chose the path of a business proposition to get what u wanted will it turn out to be "love" cos thats the one thing that seems to be over looked in all this, maybe it will answer the age long question... does money by happiness ? suppose time will tell
daggyone: Of course, you're a woman, men die younger so 58yo is like close to the grave to me as I know a lot of people who have died soon after making 60yo
OMG! daggy what are we gunna do with you
let me see 58-43 
That means you only have 15 maybe years left in ya! that's not a long haul daggy. 100 years ago the average person was lucky to live to the ripe old age of 50 these days add another 20/30 & plus some more years on to the people of today. I am the youngest of my family of 7 sibblings all healthy and leading full and productive lives My oldest sister 71 she and her hubby 76 ae sailing around Australia they both could easily get away with looking in their early 60's they have always led a full and productive lifestyle.
Another Sis she and hubby travel round Australia playing veteran golf retired , doesn't mean coming to a screeching halt this is an example of life after work and another sis of mine is married to a farmer many thousands of acres of land they work & run cattle.
Sure some people do die young usually to things like cancer / heart attacks that will always be around us until they find a cure but the big majority go on to live a great life styles
Life of Brian "Always look on the bright side of Life" 
Positive thinking daggyohnuts1: i dont have a back up plan ,im just happy to go with the flow now.ive moved around alot and ive been on the datins scene a while now,i was like u when i first come on had to meet someone, put way to much energy into it and got more more disulusioned the longer it went on,the more people u date and it fails for one reason or the other ,u get frustrated as hell,but at the end of day i realised no one else is in charge of making you happy except you,i thought id done the wrong thing coming up here for along time, and have only really just settled in the last few months,the dating sites now to me are more a social out let,will i meet someone i dont know ? do i care anymore not really,im happy for probably the first time in my life,would i like someone to share it with yeh of course ,but it will happen when it happens ... i wish u luck daggy, i hope it works out for you, u chose the path of a business proposition to get what u wanted will it turn out to be "love" cos thats the one thing that seems to be over looked in all this, maybe it will answer the age long question... does money by happiness ? suppose time will tell
What is love?Isn't it a business relationship to overlook each others indifferences to make a union?
curly28: OMG! daggy what are we gunna do with you let me see 58-43 That means you only have 15 maybe years left in ya! that's not a long haul daggy. 100 years ago the average person was lucky to live to the ripe old age of 50 these days add another 20/30 & plus some more years on to the people of today.
I am the youngest of my family of 7 sibblings all healthy and leading full and productive lives My oldest sister 71 she and her hubby 76 ae sailing around Australia they both could easily get away with looking in their early 60's they have always led a full and productive lifestyle.
Another Sis she and hubby travel round Australia playing veteran golf retired , doesn't mean coming to a screeching halt this is an example of life after work and another sis of mine is married to a farmer many thousands of acres of land they work & run cattle.
Sure some people do die young usually to things like cancer / heart attacks that will always be around us until they find a cure but the big majority go on to live a great life styles
Life of Brian "Always look on the bright side of Life" Positive thinking daggy
So you're saying I've got 20 years left instead of 15. I am the youngest of my family of 7 sibblings all healthy and leading full and productive lives My oldest sister 71 she and her hubby 76 ae sailing around Australia they both could easily get away with looking in their early 60's they have always led a full and productive lifestyle.
Another Sis she and hubby travel round Australia playing veteran golf retired , doesn't mean coming to a screeching halt this is an example of life after work and another sis of mine is married to a farmer many thousands of acres of land they work & run cattle.
Sure some people do die young usually to things like cancer / heart attacks that will always be around us until they find a cure but the big majority go on to live a great life styles
Life of Brian "Always look on the bright side of Life" Positive thinking daggy
Might as well sit around and wait for a potential partner to knock on my door then seeing I've got that long to wait?
daggyone: What is love?
Isn't it a business relationship to overlook each others indifferences to make a union?
its different things to different people i guess,heres my question to you if it doesnt work out will u do the same thing again, a back up plan to ur back up plan so to speak ?Isn't it a business relationship to overlook each others indifferences to make a union?
ohnuts1: its different things to different people i guess,heres my question to you if it doesnt work out will u do the same thing again, a back up plan to ur back up plan so to speak ?
It's probably the easy way out of the dating game so to speak. But I believe I done my time in the hard way and why 
with no end result down the barrel.So yes, I'd get over the separation quicker, settle quicker, put my profile out there, if there's no interest, go down this road again.
That's my back plan for this back up plan so yes, i do have one.
daggyone: It's probably the easy way out of the dating game so to speak. But I believe I done my time in the hard way and why with no end result down the barrel.
So yes, I'd get over the separation quicker, settle quicker, put my profile out there, if there's no interest, go down this road again.
That's my back plan for this back up plan so yes, i do have one.
what about the lady in question? what happens with her does she get to stay here or does she have to be sent home ? whats her back up plan and safety net. seems like its a life that gets played with jmoSo yes, I'd get over the separation quicker, settle quicker, put my profile out there, if there's no interest, go down this road again.
That's my back plan for this back up plan so yes, i do have one.
ohnuts1: what about the lady in question? what happens with her does she get to stay here or does she have to be sent home ? whats her back up plan and safety net. seems like its a life that gets played with jmo
Well it's her life to play with; she's willing to take the gamble. For all she knows she might get someone who's like: "Woman, this beer isn't cold! What have I told you about beer? It has to be cold!!"
Obscuritan: Well it's her life to play with; she's willing to take the gamble. For all she knows she might get someone who's like: "Woman, this beer isn't cold! What have I told you about beer? It has to be cold!!"
im not having ago at daggy im curious thats all ,we all no theres no guarantees in life.. it just seems a cold way of getting what u want ,i mean lets face it these people live in very poor conditions and are desperate to get away from these places, as we would be our selves like the boat people etc..who risk there lives to get here.so surely there gonna do everything in there means to stay here, be that live with someone and put up with someone they dont particulary like or care for,and im not saying that the lady wont like daggy in anyway before people jump down my throatohnuts1: what about the lady in question? what happens with her does she get to stay here or does she have to be sent home ? whats her back up plan and safety net. seems like its a life that gets played with jmo
seems we're both taking a step into uncharted territory? It's a step we're both willing to take in the hope for love everlasting.daggyone: seems we're both taking a step into uncharted territory? It's a step we're both willing to take in the hope for love everlasting.
fair enough.. i wish you all the best does this mean we wont be seeing u any more on here seeing ur doing the relationship thing now???ohnuts1: fair enough.. i wish you all the best does this mean we wont be seeing u any more on here seeing ur doing the relationship thing now???
probably, will be too busy soon in the shop to scratch myself let alone taking up teaching Aussie lingo and romancing along the sun swept Bass Coast surf beaches
daggyone: while I have been building up the relationship on skype with my bride to be, I met someone on here from Thailand too, she speaks better English and is sweet, but we didn't click. I think there are a lot of guys and gals who do end up doing this out of desperation just giving up the dating scene if you could call it one. ie: clique over 30's clubs where the new meat is checked out by the regulars, rolled over and spat out, etc, etc...
I believe when you have had some time on your own(to do as you please) meet someone, i really sussed them out, any little thing that irritated me i'd watch for. i think we get too choosy but there are reasons why, and that to get into the same pradicament as with our original partner.
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ie: if you want to have a partner to share your life, you need to plan for it and enact a back up plan if those plans fail
Life is not a business, business is business. The thing is, that when the chips are down, when it all falls in a heap, you generally cant rely on other people, partners or otherwise to be there.. you can only rely on yourself to get you through, any support from elsewhere is a gift.
I can only draw on my own experience of people. I had a person in my life, I had a person who I thought would be there, they werent, they left. Why? because I lot of people cant deal with certain things (whether its scars, or illness, or someone needing them in the most basic way), and thats okay because we are all different.
The be all and end all of my existance, my feelings of self worth are not tied into being partnered. Far from it, my feelings of selfworth, success, joy and happiness come from within me.
Guess what, having a partner does not give you a signed sealed assurance that they will be there ... there are no signed sealed assurances.