IT'S OVER. (43)
Kristia49toowoomba, Queensland Australia31 Threads 2,039 PostsBoban1: Does it really matter ??? Was I cheated on, or was I cheating on them, who took whom for a ride ,was there really love or something else ...as your headline goes...It`s over.
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jono7: i'm so glad you posted. and i hope you come back and see this. i would like to know your thoughts.
but here's my question for you, and where i am confused...
"even love of a partner can die if it is not returned"
because when i love someone, and i have (just not a partner), my love for them is independent of what they give me back. i can love them up close, or from a distance, or never see them again...but i still love them.
for me...love is about how i feel, what i give...it has never been about what someone can give me, or as you have said, return to me.
if you see this, could you please explain your first post a bit more. thank you
but here's my question for you, and where i am confused...
"even love of a partner can die if it is not returned"
because when i love someone, and i have (just not a partner), my love for them is independent of what they give me back. i can love them up close, or from a distance, or never see them again...but i still love them.
for me...love is about how i feel, what i give...it has never been about what someone can give me, or as you have said, return to me.
if you see this, could you please explain your first post a bit more. thank you
I agree with both of you. I did love my ex...madly...for a very long time. But after many years of terrible behavior, he did kill anything I had felt for him before and now I feel nothing but relief that he is no longer in my life. But I don't regret it...I have four wonderful boys as a result and I wouldn't trade one second of their lives to avoid all of the unpleasantness.
But there are people in my life that I love no matter what they return. Why is it different? I cannot say, except perhaps that it was the love plus the commitment that he betrayed. It wasn't that he didn't return my love...it's that he tromped all over it, damaging it beyond repair.
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
Dont wish I never met my ex, because if I never him I would'nt have my two wonderful children.
But I know now that I didn't love him. No hard feelings towards him though. We move on. Hopefully we will both find happiness.
I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.
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Hi Niko. Some loves are for a season, others a lifetime. Some people grow together, others grow apart. It is interesting to observe that process of being human, of experiencing different situations which affect our relationships with others, seeing what we are really made of, and seeing changes and transformations within ourselves as a result of past experiences. In the end when the dust has settled, what we choose to take from the past has to do with what sort of people we are deep down.
Your mirror reflects beauty if I may say so myself.
Your mirror reflects beauty if I may say so myself.
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Tovarasha: Hi Niko. Some loves are for a season, others a lifetime. Some people grow together, others grow apart. It is interesting to observe that process of being human, of experiencing different situations which affect our relationships with others, seeing what we are really made of, and seeing changes and transformations within ourselves as a result of past experiences. In the end when the dust has settled, what we choose to take from the past has to do with what sort of people we are deep down.
Your mirror reflects beauty if I may say so myself.
Your mirror reflects beauty if I may say so myself.
Thank You T it is one of my Favorite quotes (forgot by who) "Love is Reflected in Love"
I know that the mirror needs to get cleaned sometimes to reflect light at it's best! ;-}
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Hey Bettis. Knowing you and talking to you I know how sincere and how much your heart went into your marriages. It takes a strong man to show the respect you have for your exes.
I have never been married but did fall very much in love. I will not go into detail about what happened but it has had a major impact on my life to this day. I have let her go long ago but the pain I feel is still very ripe today. To answer your question, I do wish I never met her. I can't go back and change it but I have tried to move forward. Apparently I have failed.
I have never been married but did fall very much in love. I will not go into detail about what happened but it has had a major impact on my life to this day. I have let her go long ago but the pain I feel is still very ripe today. To answer your question, I do wish I never met her. I can't go back and change it but I have tried to move forward. Apparently I have failed.
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mbcasey: Hey Bettis. Knowing you and talking to you I know how sincere and how much your heart went into your marriages. It takes a strong man to show the respect you have for your exes.
I have never been married but did fall very much in love. I will not go into detail about what happened but it has had a major impact on my life to this day. I have let her go long ago but the pain I feel is still very ripe today. To answer your question, I do wish I never met her. I can't go back and change it but I have tried to move forward. Apparently I have failed.
I have never been married but did fall very much in love. I will not go into detail about what happened but it has had a major impact on my life to this day. I have let her go long ago but the pain I feel is still very ripe today. To answer your question, I do wish I never met her. I can't go back and change it but I have tried to move forward. Apparently I have failed.
It may sound presumptuous but I can feel your pain as though it is mine.
If I can absorb any of the hurt to make you feel better today I am.
Always thinking the best of you Ken,,,by the way,,so did My "ex" and she was correct in that. take care my friend.
;-}
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
To be honest; no I did not really love my ex-boyfriends and yes I wish I had never met them but not because of the hurt; its because of the waste of time that I put in the relationship when I could have done better things with my time.
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
I just don't live on yellow pictures. Good memories just puts a smile on my face.
I loved and will be able to love again.
Every morning is a sunshine for me to live fully.
My ex-husband and I get along because of our kids and they are grown up.
No heart feelings of the past cause you have to let go.......
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If "LOVE" was the deciding factor regarding years together ...than love was and is never over ...unless of course you never understood the meaning of love ...in which case ...ok ..it's over !
I love ...that will never change ...!
I love the thought of love ... will always change ...!
I love ...that will never change ...!
I love the thought of love ... will always change ...!
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I didn't see or hear from my ex for 13 years or so. Then one day, oddly enough, I ran in to her at the resort where I was working here on the island. We went to dinner and we exchanged contact information. We have remained friends since then, exchanging letters once in a blue moon, and now we are even much closer.
We have made amends.
I know that I was madly in love with this lady. I am pretty sure that the feelings that she has are much different, but friends are good.
I hope all you folks are doing okay !!
We have made amends.
I know that I was madly in love with this lady. I am pretty sure that the feelings that she has are much different, but friends are good.
I hope all you folks are doing okay !!
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givenup61: If "LOVE" was the deciding factor regarding years together ...than love was and is never over ...unless of course you never understood the meaning of love ...in which case ...ok ..it's over !
I love ...that will never change ...!
I love the thought of love ... will always change ...!
I love ...that will never change ...!
I love the thought of love ... will always change ...!
Roy Orbison ....It's over ...check youtube !!!
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
Yes i still love me but my X wife i don't know, i never felt anything for her. I thought it was love but in reality it was just marrage. Now i know what i want and what love is."Nikogas"
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
i wish i never met him. he didn't love me and was just using me the whole time, even put me in harms way. he wanted the downstairs neighbor to beat me up so he could have her sent to jail!! i wasted time with this fool. guess it makes me a fool too then, huh?
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gigi47: i wish i never met him. he didn't love me and was just using me the whole time, even put me in harms way. he wanted the downstairs neighbor to beat me up so he could have her sent to jail!! i wasted time with this fool. guess it makes me a fool too then, huh?
Well, I have played the "fool" and it is not very fun, but I guess the best I can say is to not let anymore time be taken by those that made you feel it... I have to be careful too, the mind is tricky, wants to trust. And I don't want to stop trusting either so, maybe somewhere in between, I hope you don't get caught up in it again.
Have a good day.
Nikogas
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
I personally don't regret the 18 years spent with my ex wife. If not for her I would not have my two daughters. But watch out all you engaged guys out there. No matter how long you have spent with a person or how well you think you know them, you really don't know them. They can turn on you in a moments time. Just be sure you are absolutely with the right person before you make any long term or lifetime commitments."Nikogas"
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
Interesting thread Niko and I think that once the dust settles its easier to get a clearer picture of ourselves and our own emotions.
I feel that in one relationship I still in fact love even after all these years, but sometimes I wonder if I am allowing myself to simply love that person in my memories. Not having contact now doesn't mean that I don't think of them - sometimes its just confusing.
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Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
It took me so many years to get over the pain of loosing the 2 people that I really loved. My husband just loved his mother and brothers and sisters more and after 10 years moved back to his mothers house. For a long time I hoped we could get back together well never happened. The other one well he was my soul mate and the closest thing to perfection I ever me. I left to come to Spain cried on the airport for me not to leave, but I had to do it for a new life for me and my kids. He got as far as the UK to get us back together and Died last year. Sometimes things just never work the way they should."Nikogas"
I love and care about them both.I never stoped and never will.
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Sister28: " With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happpened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you growing, you get to choose " - Wayne Dyer
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