Trying to be strong (42)
what is the reason he dropped the relationship????noone just quits like that...
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marss: what is the reason he dropped the relationship????noone just quits like that...
Well that is what I dont understand...we were happy with each other, we had a future together planned then one day he breaks it off with me because he feels that I need someone that makes me happy? I guess the reason is he dropped it cause he changed his mind on marriage and children and he didnt want to waste my time by being with me? That is what I gather is the reason as it really doesnt make sense!..
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you did something or he met someone else noone just give that up for a small reason miss...
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cuddles83: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
One day at a time. Time is the greatest healer.
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cuddles83: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
...unless one hears boths side,s of a story....it,s very hard to judge why......!!!!!!!!...just an honest opinion........I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
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In response to: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
Whatever his reasons, he did not want to continue towards marriage and a future with you but he clearly did not want to hurt your feelings and wanted to remain friends. He has respect for you and obviously did not want to hurt you. Your feelings for him mean that you feel confused and very sad. You are doing the right thing by aiming to move on and meet someone who wants the same things as you. It is very difficult to put on a brave face and look to the future. I admire your strength of character and hope you soon find happiness
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In response to: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
I like the answer above mine, and I would just add that he cannot have his cake & eat it too. You really can't remain friends - not sure he was a particularly good friend to start with. The best way to move on is to cut off all contact except what is absolutely necessary, and if he asks why tell him that is the decision you have made. If you continue seeing him on a friendship basis you delay and extend the amount of time you need to heal.
There may be a time in the future - a year , 2 ,5 yrs from now when you have rebuilt your life when you guys can hang out as friends, but IMO not now. Three years is a long time to suddenly decide your goals have changed - I also suspect there is more he is not telling you.
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cuddles83: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
Were you pushing the marriage and children issue?
Is that what you want?
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i recall my ex was pregnant b4 we married...i remember thinking how the hell will i share my wife?did not matter it was with my own child...i found a way to share her with 3 tho...some women are better off with out children becoz face it some of them are lousy mothers...i think things hid destroy a relationship...my present relationship tells me everything...not all b4 have...
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marss: you did something or he met someone else noone just give that up for a small reason miss...
No...We both were very honest with each other and there was no cheating...
He just told me that he doesnt want to be in a relationship full stop with no-one ever...
The marriage and children were wanted by both of us and we were not pushing each other into anything that we were not ready...
It was like he woke up one day and decided that he wants to be single for the rest of his life.
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felixis99:
There may be a time in the future - a year , 2 ,5 yrs from now when you have rebuilt your life when you guys can hang out as friends, but IMO not now. Three years is a long time to suddenly decide your goals have changed - I also suspect there is more he is not telling you.
There may be a time in the future - a year , 2 ,5 yrs from now when you have rebuilt your life when you guys can hang out as friends, but IMO not now. Three years is a long time to suddenly decide your goals have changed - I also suspect there is more he is not telling you.
He did come back from visiting his father and his father made it clear that he doesnt like me...He thinks I am not good enough for his son and he disapproves on the relationship...
My family thinks that his dad might of said something and that might be a factor on the breakup...
I have done nothing wrong to the father but still he judges me..
But my ex wont tell me if he said anything only that our wants in the relationship have changed and I am better off with someone new.
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Simply that man wasn't your
You will back on your feet with time,"Time is a healer" in matters of love.
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cuddles83: He did come back from visiting his father and his father made it clear that he doesnt like me...He thinks I am not good enough for his son and he disapproves on the relationship...
My family thinks that his dad might of said something and that might be a factor on the breakup...
I have done nothing wrong to the father but still he judges me..
But my ex wont tell me if he said anything only that our wants in the relationship have changed and I am better off with someone new.
My family thinks that his dad might of said something and that might be a factor on the breakup...
I have done nothing wrong to the father but still he judges me..
But my ex wont tell me if he said anything only that our wants in the relationship have changed and I am better off with someone new.
He must have a very strong relationship with his father if he is prepared to end a relationship because of his influence
A sudden change in someone like that is often brought about by an outside influence such as an affair .. it's easier for that person to extricate themselves from a relationship by saying you are too good for them than by being honest and saying they are seeing someone else.
I feel it's either that or, given what you said about him wanting to be alone etc, he may be suffering from depression.
Either way, not easy for you, and you must be hurting badly
Hope you find some distraction from your sadness on here and that you will make some new friends to help put a smile back on your face
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cuddles83: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
So sorry to hear your story ,Dont be Upset and Let him Go if he doesnt want to be wth you and try to be Happy Life has so many other ways to go isntead of being upset due to one reason I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
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chris27292729: Define REAL in Men and Women,on a site like CS.
Hmm I thought that was a very negative post from Kittt
I've met lots of real men and women off this site .. and I mean MET, not just emailed, chatted etc.
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cuddles83: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
cuddles83: Hello...
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?
Hello young lady .Big hug for you
Some men are unable to commit unfortunately,and if this is how he feels,better to end a relationship before you marry and have children than after.
There are also some things in a person's past that affect how they behave in the future. Maybe he had a bad childhood, or witnessed a family split. Only he knows why he feels this way.
Your future is in your hands,no-one else's, and remaining friends will be very difficult for you if you still love him,and also very selfish of him to even consider it.
Stay strong and move on.
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Lots of us on this site are REAL
All CSiers cannot be dropped,with the strock of a pen,in a boiling pot .-
All CSiers cannot be dropped,with the strock of a pen,in a boiling pot .- serene56: Hmm I thought that was a very negative post from Kittt
I've met lots of real men and women off this site .. and I mean MET, not just emailed, chatted etc.
I've met lots of real men and women off this site .. and I mean MET, not just emailed, chatted etc.
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bestbefore:
Your future is in your hands,no-one else's, and remaining friends will be very difficult for you if you still love him,and also very selfish of him to even consider it.
Stay strong and move on.
Your future is in your hands,no-one else's, and remaining friends will be very difficult for you if you still love him,and also very selfish of him to even consider it.
Stay strong and move on.
Yep totally agree there...My future is in my hands and I do need to stay strong and move on...Yes atm I am finding being "friends only" very hard as I still love him but he made it clear that he doesnt want a relationship with anyone ever again...I think depression plays a factor here too...As money stress didnt help at all..
But he has made his decision and I need to accept it and move on..
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I resently got out of a 3 year relationship with a person that I loved dearly...Everything was going well...
We were serious on getting married and having children..Until one day he tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. He feels that doesnt deserve me and I deserve to be happy with someone else..He doesnt want marriage ever with anyone and never wants children..
I just dont understand we both wanted a future together and then Boom everything changes, I dont understand what changed?...
I felt like my world ended when he said it was over..He wants to stay best friends though...
I just finding it hard now, I love him still but he made it clear that he doesnt want me or anyone in his life ever..He wants to be alone forever..
I feel very confused and uncomfortable, it has almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, I dont like being friends only, I am willing to save the relationship but he has completely given up on love..He doesnt want to talk about the breakup anymore, nothing..
So I joined connectingsingles to make friends or meet someone special And try and move from my ex but How can I move on when I find it too hard to let go?