Should the man pay on the second date. (66)
modermencork, Cork Ireland66 Threads 1,108 PostsGood to hear your views.
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modermen: Good to hear your views.
Until two people decide that they want to pursue a relationship, I think they should split the bill. Occassionally he or she will want to treat and pay the whole bill but I don't think there should be any expectations. Even after there is a committment, I see no reason why they shouldn't go half on the bill. Back in the era that I'm from the man paid for everything all the time. It was just the way it was. He was expected to be the provider even in a dating situation. Times have changed in everything that is associated with dating. One thing though, if you want her to go half on the bill you need to tell her ahead of time so there aren't any surprises.
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montemonte: Until two people decide that they want to pursue a relationship, I think they should split the bill. Occassionally he or she will want to treat and pay the whole bill but I don't think there should be any expectations. Even after there is a committment, I see no reason why they shouldn't go half on the bill. Back in the era that I'm from the man paid for everything all the time. It was just the way it was. He was expected to be the provider even in a dating situation. Times have changed in everything that is associated with dating. One thing though, if you want her to go half on the bill you need to tell her ahead of time so there aren't any surprises.
yeahhhhhh fair play to you a woman who has moved with the modern times,thanks.------ This thread is Archived ------
modermen: Good to hear your views.
Nothing is a "should" in a relationship as seen by anyone outside of it...
People should decide what they wanna do between them, irrespective of what anyone else is doing ...
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montemonte: Until two people decide that they want to pursue a relationship, I think they should split the bill. Occassionally he or she will want to treat and pay the whole bill but I don't think there should be any expectations. Even after there is a committment, I see no reason why they shouldn't go half on the bill. Back in the era that I'm from the man paid for everything all the time. It was just the way it was. He was expected to be the provider even in a dating situation. Times have changed in everything that is associated with dating. One thing though, if you want her to go half on the bill you need to tell her ahead of time so there aren't any surprises.
Montemonte has made my point eloquently enough, Tks M------ This thread is Archived ------
modermen: Good to hear your views.
I don't think the man should be expected to pay all on ANY date. It's an antiquated idea.
50/50 always.
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70Libra: I don't think the man should be expected to pay all on ANY date. It's an antiquated idea.
50/50 always.
50/50 always.
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70Libra: I don't think the man should be expected to pay all on ANY date. It's an antiquated idea.
50/50 always.
50/50 always.
The woman paying half of the bill keeps things even so he can't expect a reward for buying her dinner.------ This thread is Archived ------
montemonte: The woman paying half of the bill keeps things even so he can't expect a reward for buying her dinner.
If a woman is unemployed through no fault of her own and I liked her and think shes worth it well I think that would be different I wouldent mind paying until she can get a job.------ This thread is Archived ------
modermen: If a woman is unemployed through no fault of her own and I liked her and think shes worth it well I think that would be different I wouldent mind paying until she can get a job.
I wouldn't go on a date if i couldn't pay my own way! def 50/50
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modermen: If a woman is unemployed through no fault of her own and I liked her and think shes worth it well I think that would be different I wouldent mind paying until she can get a job.
You would do that because you are a gentleman and you like her. A woman in that position would appreciate your generosity.....I know I would.
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martini100: I wouldn't go on a date if i couldn't pay my own way! def 50/50
Same as.
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martini100: I wouldn't go on a date if i couldn't pay my own way! def 50/50
Even when I go on a date just to meet him the first time for coffee I still insist on paying half of the bill and half of the tip. Only once did an Italian man get very mad when I offered $20 towards the bill for lunch. He was really mad and said, leave it for the tip.....and that's what I did. That waitress was probably hoping we come back...
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modermen: No need to worry about dating me because I wouldent date you if you were the last woman on earth,If you read my last comment I stated I would date a girl if she was out of work until she could get a job.
such a defensive and hostile reply goodness
date whom you please, by all means
usually when people are out of work dating is not a primary concern anyway - looking for work is...
I have never had a man ask me to pay regardless of which one of us has the better job
people on this site are the only ones I ever see obsess about it------ This thread is Archived ------
felixis99: such a defensive and hostile reply goodness
date whom you please, by all means
usually when people are out of work dating is not a primary concern anyway - looking for work is...
I have never had a man ask me to pay regardless of which one of us has the better job people on this site are the only ones I ever see obsess about it
So why don,t you start paying your way then and be a lady.date whom you please, by all means
usually when people are out of work dating is not a primary concern anyway - looking for work is...
I have never had a man ask me to pay regardless of which one of us has the better job people on this site are the only ones I ever see obsess about it
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modermen: So why don,t you start paying your way then and be a lady.
Hey, modern..., do you guys in Dublin still carry a club around when you ask a woman out!
Jest kidding, man.
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galrads: Hey, modern..., do you guys in Dublin still carry a club around when you ask a woman out!
Jest kidding, man.
Ha ha I know its just that some women havent moved with the times and find real equality hard to deal with,some of them only want the nice bits.Jest kidding, man.
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modermen: So why don,t you start paying your way then and be a lady.
I honestly don't think you'd recognize a "lady" if she dropped in your lap.
if a man asks me out I would expect him to be picking up the tab - never been a problem - as I said I would hesitate to date a man with your attitude as I doubt it would work - not that you are a bad person but becaus our styles are so different.
my question (and it's rhetorical) is why can;t you be a gentleman and accept that people have different styles and preferences and do not have to mirror yours? There is nothing wrong with my preference nor is there anything wrong with men who prefer to pick up the tab, as I mentioned earlier (for those who can read) there are things that can be learned about a man by how he handles paying for the date. That is important to me.
BTW, I did recently date a man who paid for dinner and then became hostile when I ended things early. Another example is your hostility on here toward women in general. Glad to learn these things early on so not to get involved.
no decent man expects a woman to pay for a date unless she is specifically treating for some reason
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DaveD20: I wouldn't agree with all Moderman's views but on halving the cost of a date he is spot on.
I see no problem with that but I do see a problem with it being "expected"
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