Narrow Minded vs Personal Preference? (69)
not harsh.have to say that religious intollerence is one of my biggest pet hates,were ya surprised when she brought it up?
maddog just seems u have a preference for people who are open to other religions or belief systems..
i could be friends with someone of a diff belief system..but partner no.
i could be friends with someone of a diff belief system..but partner no.
MADDOG69: So I was talking to a wan over the weekend just gone. Things were going grand. During the course of the banter she asked me what religion I was. Without answering, I said 'Does it matter??'. She said 'It does'. With some annoyance I said I was Catholic (as was she). And then I went on to ask her what if I said I was some other religion, as in Anglican, or Methodist or whatever?? I can't remember the words she used, but I'm pretty sure she indicated it would be a deal breaker. Anyway, I didn't like that.
So... my question is, is this a reasonable preference to have regarding the religion one was born into? Make note that no such questions were asked regarding actual Maas attendance, or whether I even really believed in the Roman Catholic God. I gathered, it was more to do with the general background I was from.
Is it right that I judge her harshly on this? Is it right to assume that they'll be narrow minded problems on a whole other range of issues down the line? If she ticked every other box, is this a deal breaker? Especially in this country with it's not so rosey past with Sectarianism, her attitude did not sit well with me at all.
I think I know the answers already. Just pisses me off...
So... my question is, is this a reasonable preference to have regarding the religion one was born into? Make note that no such questions were asked regarding actual Maas attendance, or whether I even really believed in the Roman Catholic God. I gathered, it was more to do with the general background I was from.
Is it right that I judge her harshly on this? Is it right to assume that they'll be narrow minded problems on a whole other range of issues down the line? If she ticked every other box, is this a deal breaker? Especially in this country with it's not so rosey past with Sectarianism, her attitude did not sit well with me at all.
I think I know the answers already. Just pisses me off...
Depends where she is from I suppose. Weather we like it or
MADDOG69: So I was talking to a wan over the weekend just gone. Things were going grand. During the course of the banter she asked me what religion I was. Without answering, I said 'Does it matter??'. She said 'It does'. With some annoyance I said I was Catholic (as was she). And then I went on to ask her what if I said I was some other religion, as in Anglican, or Methodist or whatever?? I can't remember the words she used, but I'm pretty sure she indicated it would be a deal breaker. Anyway, I didn't like that.
So... my question is, is this a reasonable preference to have regarding the religion one was born into? Make note that no such questions were asked regarding actual Maas attendance, or whether I even really believed in the Roman Catholic God. I gathered, it was more to do with the general background I was from.
Is it right that I judge her harshly on this? Is it right to assume that they'll be narrow minded problems on a whole other range of issues down the line? If she ticked every other box, is this a deal breaker? Especially in this country with it's not so rosey past with Sectarianism, her attitude did not sit well with me at all.
I think I know the answers already. Just pisses me off...
not there are areas on this island where your life would and could be made hell for dating a different religion. So maybe she was thinking to herself there is no point in starting anything with someone unless they are her religion.So... my question is, is this a reasonable preference to have regarding the religion one was born into? Make note that no such questions were asked regarding actual Maas attendance, or whether I even really believed in the Roman Catholic God. I gathered, it was more to do with the general background I was from.
Is it right that I judge her harshly on this? Is it right to assume that they'll be narrow minded problems on a whole other range of issues down the line? If she ticked every other box, is this a deal breaker? Especially in this country with it's not so rosey past with Sectarianism, her attitude did not sit well with me at all.
I think I know the answers already. Just pisses me off...
Or maybe she is looking to get married and have babies and she wants a big church wedding to to rear her kids as good catholics? I dont know. I would find it weird but there are some people out there that religion is still very important to.
Is it any less shallow than being with someone because of their looks?, Job,? Bank Balance?
fifitheminx: maddog just seems u have a preference for people who are open to other religions or belief systems..
i could be friends with someone of a diff belief system..but partner no.
i could be friends with someone of a diff belief system..but partner no.
Ah right so he'd have to be into mediums and horoscopes and stuff?
sofarsogood74: Depends where she is from I suppose. Weather we like it or not there are areas on this island where your life would and could be made hell for dating a different religion. So maybe she was thinking to herself there is no point in starting anything with someone unless they are her religion.
Or maybe she is looking to get married and have babies and she wants a big church wedding to to rear her kids as good catholics? I dont know. I would find it weird but there are some people out there that religion is still very important to.
Is it any less shallow than being with someone because of their looks?, Job,? Bank Balance?
Or maybe she is looking to get married and have babies and she wants a big church wedding to to rear her kids as good catholics? I dont know. I would find it weird but there are some people out there that religion is still very important to.
Is it any less shallow than being with someone because of their looks?, Job,? Bank Balance?
Ah... you're probably right. The annoying thing is she didn't give me any of those reasons.... just said... 'just because' when I quizzed. Maybe the parents are a bit of an influence there somewhere.
MADDOG69: haha. 'wan' .. sort of phonetically rolls of the tongue, I'd probably refer to my closest and dearest females as 'wans' at some point. They'll always be 'wans' I know what your saying, though.
Im glad someone knows what im saying cos i dont most of the time
And returning the conversation back over hundreds of miles of cyber space i can see you mean it as a term of endearment for all
Can i also add for me if i didnt go to mass i know i would be a bit of a weirdo who would go off the handle and listen to them voices in my head to kill people and hurt people
So for me its good ..... I dont like them young american guys in black that go around peoples doors in twos, but after i took some in last month and sharpened my knife sayng death is beautiful i havent had any more coming around
Damn those voices , they seem to be getting louder and its a few days to mass ......might just watch this thread a bit closely and see who needs to meet the Lord on my Priority line
fast_and_furious: so u wouldn't get married in a church?
Nope, not for any woman. Not out of spite you see, but why would I get married 'in the eye of god'?! I'd be getting married in an institution that I have no interest or belief in and I'd be lying to myself and lying to her by pretending.
Green_Sleeves: Nope, not for any woman. Not out of spite you see, but why would I get married 'in the eye of god'?! I'd be getting married in an institution that I have no interest or belief in and I'd be lying to myself and lying to her by pretending.
Where then? Registry office type wedding?fast_and_furious: Where then? Registry office type wedding?
Yes, a cold, sterile official office, in-out in a few minutes, papers stamped everything done and dusted and straight to the pub
Green_Sleeves: Yes, a cold, sterile official office, in-out in a few minutes, papers stamped everything done and dusted and straight to the pub
any wedding I'm at I long for the church part to finish, priest rambling on n on n on lol. Let me get food and then party the night awayMADDOG69: Ah right so he'd have to be into mediums and horoscopes and stuff?
lmao no...
a realist..like myself...
the medium thing is something i lived with..
the horoscope thing is merely an interest..and i like men who have their own thang..
but a religious man wouldnt be for me
MADDOG69: Is it right that I judge her harshly on this? Is it right to assume that they'll be narrow minded problems on a whole other range of issues down the line? ...
She was probably knocking you back because she didn't like your shoes or teeth or something like that but she didn't want to show herself up as shallow so she tried to appear deep and thoughtful
facetowardsfront: And as we know what 'she wants' is of utmost importance. "Begin as you mean to continue", they used to say
If you can't let her be happy for a day then there's something wrong with ye, not everything has to be about getting one over on each other...
mcattack: If you can't let her be happy for a day then there's something wrong with ye, not everything has to be about getting one over on each other...
I'm like you Mc. I am not religious but I will get married in a church if I do tie the knot and I'll do the whole big Irish Hotel wedding thing too. It's great craic and it's tradition.
Most people are not religious now but they still get married in churches, have their kids christined, and they make their communion and confermation. It's more of a tradition now than a religious act.
mcattack: not everything has to be about getting one over on each other...
bout time a man told him that..
(cos the women have been saying it...but he wont actually take on board their opinions)fifitheminx: bout time a man told him that.. (cos the women have been saying it...but he wont actually take on board their opinions)
That's because you women should be seen but not heard!!!!
fifitheminx: bout time a man told him that.. (cos the women have been saying it...but he wont actually take on board their opinions)
actually I think face was joking with that comment :)sofarsogood74: That's because you women should be seen but not heard!!!!
yis dont mind hearing us moan in the bedroom...(or anywhere else that takes yer fancy )
fast_and_furious: actually I think face was joking with that comment :)
Really??? Have you not see the "This is Feminism" thread?
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So... my question is, is this a reasonable preference to have regarding the religion one was born into? Make note that no such questions were asked regarding actual Maas attendance, or whether I even really believed in the Roman Catholic God. I gathered, it was more to do with the general background I was from.
Is it right that I judge her harshly on this? Is it right to assume that they'll be narrow minded problems on a whole other range of issues down the line? If she ticked every other box, is this a deal breaker? Especially in this country with it's not so rosey past with Sectarianism, her attitude did not sit well with me at all.
I think I know the answers already. Just pisses me off...