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Sep 14, 2012 3:29 PM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
Greetings, conversing

after two years net dating experience I have lot of questions...

And seems my knowledge about the human behaviour is very little... blues

Would you share with me your thougths why is lie popular?confused
(scammers I already know, what about who seems real...?)
I feel I'm lost in the mist of lie...

I am interested in what think people in defferent age and culture.

Thanks for everybody who answers! hug
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Sep 14, 2012 4:18 PM CST About lies
BB_snickers
BB_snickersBB_snickersNarnia, Ontario Canada56 Threads 3,755 Posts
Adventurous4: Greetings,

after two years net dating experience I have lot of questions...

And seems my knowledge about the human behaviour is very little...

Would you share with me your thougths why is lie popular?
(scammers I already know, what about who seems real...?)
I feel I'm lost in the mist of lie...

I am interested in what think people in defferent age and culture.

Thanks for everybody who answers!


You are where you are. You can't be lost, unless you .... lie ... to yourself. uh oh



banana
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Sep 15, 2012 2:32 AM CST About lies
Scubadiva
ScubadivaScubadivaNew Jersey, USA106 Threads 11 Polls 2,689 Posts
Adventurous4: Greetings,

after two years net dating experience I have lot of questions...

And seems my knowledge about the human behaviour is very little...

Would you share with me your thougths why is lie popular?
(scammers I already know, what about who seems real...?)
I feel I'm lost in the mist of lie...

I am interested in what think people in defferent age and culture.

Thanks for everybody who answers!


The quick and dirty answer is that people are selfish.

A lie is 99% of the time self-serving in some form or another. Could be that someone wants something from you, or they don't want to feel bad or they don't want other people to be angry at them... one way or another, the motivation to lie is self interest.

Lying has nothing to do with age or culture or religion. There are situations where a lie can prevent a disaster or great harm, but that happens so seldom that we don't really need to worry about it. Many people use that as an excuse to lie and that makes matters even worse because then the lie becomes deceit.
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Sep 15, 2012 2:45 AM CST About lies
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
Adventurous4: Greetings,

after two years net dating experience I have lot of questions...

And seems my knowledge about the human behaviour is very little...

Would you share with me your thougths why is lie popular?
(scammers I already know, what about who seems real...?)
I feel I'm lost in the mist of lie...



Interest or defense mechanism

Adventurous4:

I am interested in what think people in defferent age and culture.

Thanks for everybody who answers!


It is often connected to age (experience and conscience)
Culture ( mostly the surrounding we come from)
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Sep 16, 2012 3:04 AM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
Thank, you for your answer!

Yes, I think that is the beginning if I lie myself...
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Sep 16, 2012 3:12 AM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
Scubadiva: The quick and dirty answer is that people are selfish.

A lie is 99% of the time self-serving in some form or another. Could be that someone wants something from you, or they don't want to feel bad or they don't want other people to be angry at them... one way or another, the motivation to lie is self interest.

Lying has nothing to do with age or culture or religion. There are situations where a lie can prevent a disaster or great harm, but that happens so seldom that we don't really need to worry about it. Many people use that as an excuse to lie and that makes matters even worse because then the lie becomes deceit.


Thank you for your answer!

Yes, selfish behaviour...
and drived by fear...

Personal experience...
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Sep 16, 2012 3:20 AM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
Boban1: Interest or defense mechanism
It is often connected to age (experience and conscience)
Culture ( mostly the surrounding we come from)


Thank you for your answer!

I used to protect myself with lies, due to it brought every time negative results...
How crazy thing!! Brr!

High time to change!
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Sep 16, 2012 12:08 PM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
In response to: Greetings,

after two years net dating experience I have lot of questions...

And seems my knowledge about the human behaviour is very little...

Would you share with me your thougths why is lie popular?
(scammers I already know, what about who seems real...?)
I feel I'm lost in the mist of lie...

I am interested in what think people in defferent age and culture.

Thanks for everybody who answers!




I've received a book recommendation connected to my topic!wow

It's title is :'People of the lie the hope for healing human evil'
The author is M. Scott Peck who published it in 1988.

Surely will read it! peace
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Sep 19, 2012 2:54 PM CST About lies
ninamil
ninamilninamilGoiania, Goias Brazil31 Threads 1 Polls 696 Posts
Everyone makes their choice, and for lack of choice we sometimes choose to believe. We are deceived because we allow it and is also a difficult relationship dating net, because we do not have the possibility to look into the eyes of someone else, only way to know if the other is telling the truth

hug
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Sep 19, 2012 3:50 PM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
ninamil: Everyone makes their choice, and for lack of choice we sometimes choose to believe. We are deceived because we allow it and is also a difficult relationship dating net, because we do not have the possibility to look into the eyes of someone else, only way to know if the other is telling the truth


Thank you for your answer!hug

I agree with you. A personal meeting give much more information...
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Sep 22, 2012 3:52 AM CST About lies
cloud747
cloud747cloud747winnipeg, Manitoba Canada130 Threads 27 Polls 2,947 Posts
when a girl shows a green light then turn around..that's a kinda lying too
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Sep 22, 2012 3:21 PM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
cloud747: when a girl shows a green light then turn around..that's a kinda lying too



Thank you for your answer!

comfort
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Sep 23, 2012 12:15 PM CST About lies
SeaLilly
SeaLillySeaLillyPrešov, Presov Slovakia5 Threads 39 Posts
My advice is,be always sincere and honest.Liers don´t like it.They don´t like hear truth.thumbs up
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Sep 24, 2012 1:35 PM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
SeaLilly: My advice is,be always sincere and honest.Liers don´t like it.They don´t like hear truth.



Thank you for your answer!hug

I agree with you!peace
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Oct 3, 2012 4:27 PM CST About lies
Adventurous4
Adventurous4Adventurous4Pest, Central Hungary Hungary1 Threads 9 Posts
I have just finished reading the book what I mentioned earlier M.Scott Peck: People of the Lie wow thumbs up

I could not imagine that (The Road Less Traveled in '78) he will ever come out with such a theme...
I would put on a must read list for everybody!

I've got a another suggested one Rudiger Dahlke: What is Making our World Sick...According to the recommendation what I have seen yesterday it is also very exciting and hopefully will help me to get a clearer 'picture'...

doh Did somebody meet any of these books?
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Oct 3, 2012 4:37 PM CST About lies
Happygolucky4u
Happygolucky4uHappygolucky4uTreasure Coast, Florida USA25 Threads 4 Polls 6,241 Posts
Adventurous4: I have just finished reading the book what I mentioned earlier M.Scott Peck: People of the Lie

I could not imagine that (The Road Less Traveled in '78) he will ever come out with such a theme...
I would put on a must read list for everybody!

I've got a another suggested one Rudiger Dahlke: What is Making our World Sick...According to the recommendation what I have seen yesterday it is also very exciting and hopefully will help me to get a clearer 'picture'...

Did somebody meet any of these books?
Hi I was just fixing to sign off and wanted to post on here real quick first. The title of the thread caught my attention. I have had a bad experiance here recently with someone lying to me. Or misrepresenting them selfs. Guess it depends on who you ask on which we will call it. blues I have read the road less traveled. I also have read other scott pecks books though right now I cannot remember the titles. He is a very good writer. I enjoyed the books. Hope you enjoyed it also. wave
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