How long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? (18)
cm114411: Guys,
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
Never. I still grieve the loss of my father from 1975. Granted, the waves of grief come less often, but they do come, and many times, most unexpectedly.
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Kaybee50: Never. I still grieve the loss of my father from 1975. Granted, the waves of grief come less often, but they do come, and many times, most unexpectedly.
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3 maybe 4 JD and cokes
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Rumple4skin: 3 maybe 4 JD and cokes
Scratch that I misread the question. I go with what Kay said.
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You learn to live with loss and accept it as part of life but as human beings we feel and experience everything, good or bad. We all have 'Miss You Nights.'
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You never get over the loss.I still think about my parents,my older sister and my older brother.
It's especially hard for me during the holidays.But I spend time thinking about the happay times I had with each one.
It's especially hard for me during the holidays.But I spend time thinking about the happay times I had with each one.
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Ccincy: You never get over the loss.I still think about my parents,my older sister and my older brother.
It's especially hard for me during the holidays.But I spend time thinking about the happay times I had with each one.
It's especially hard for me during the holidays.But I spend time thinking about the happay times I had with each one.
See...now this is one of those times that it has crept up unexpectedly. You reminded me CC of a dream I had a couple of years ago. I have rarely dreamt of my father (thankfully), but one night I did. I turned around and he was standing there smiling at me, and I just flew at him and wrapped myself around him, and I was crying so much, I couldn't even say anything to him. And he told me I would be ok and he had to let me go and help others now, and I begged him not to let me go, but he did, and I woke up, and I could not function for 2 days....
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That is quite a dream Kaybee. I do believe that those that we loved that have passed do come back for some reason to complete a journey that they have not finished in their lifetime here. Maybe your father did not get to give yhou that last comfort that he wanted to when he was alive and finally got the chance to do it. Perhaps you may have thought it was a dream and it really wasn't. How blessed you are for having had that last hug with your dad in such a comforting way.
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The average grief period is 2yrs. However keep in mind you will always have the memories/feelings. It's when it consumes your life and your quality of life suffers that you consider seeking support of some sort. My son passed 3 yrs ago and some days it feels as if it just happened. It's a moment in time, I shed tears and continue to keep it moving. The answer is you may never get over it, but you must deal with it.
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Kaybee50: See...now this is one of those times that it has crept up unexpectedly. You reminded me CC of a dream I had a couple of years ago. I have rarely dreamt of my father (thankfully), but one night I did. I turned around and he was standing there smiling at me, and I just flew at him and wrapped myself around him, and I was crying so much, I couldn't even say anything to him. And he told me I would be ok and he had to let me go and help others now, and I begged him not to let me go, but he did, and I woke up, and I could not function for 2 days....
I had a dream about my father too Kay.The Native Americans refer to those kinds of dreams as being visions.
My father's ancestry were Native American.Anyway,I remember in my dream he had on this full Indian headdress like a chief would've worn during a dedication or ceremony.It was so real it was like he was really there talking to me.The next day I recieved some mail from my sis-in-law and when I opened the letter there was black and white photo of him wearing that exact headdress kneeling beside me and I was standing in front of a totem pole inside of a real Chippewa Indian Cemetery.Come to find out my son had had the exact same dream about his grandfather and when I showed him that picture he told me that that was the very same man wearing the exact same headdress.He said the man told him to always be good and he went away.
It struck me kind of funny that two people could have the same dream about the same person.
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I havent had to deal with that yet, lucky maybe, I assume it is like any other loss in that the length of time varies from person to person.
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The simple answer is ...Never.
My partner died from mesothelioma several years ago and my best friend from a heart valve defect.
You never 'get over it', you just adjust to life without them and the pain of the loss is more often replaced with the wonderful memories you shared.
Yes, I still shed a tear over both of them, however, I am so glad to have shared so much of my life with them and see that as a blessing. I DO know that neither of them would want me to just sit and mope. I am alive and owe it to them to make the most of it.
All the best to you.
My partner died from mesothelioma several years ago and my best friend from a heart valve defect.
You never 'get over it', you just adjust to life without them and the pain of the loss is more often replaced with the wonderful memories you shared.
Yes, I still shed a tear over both of them, however, I am so glad to have shared so much of my life with them and see that as a blessing. I DO know that neither of them would want me to just sit and mope. I am alive and owe it to them to make the most of it.
All the best to you.
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cm114411: Guys,
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
I lost my dad, 16yrs ago and I've gotten over him. I lost my best friend almost the same way with my dad and I still can't get over her. I don't know but I think it all depends. I see her in my dreams and feel her presence when I think or talk about her. I don't feel that way about my dad.
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cm114411: Guys,
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
it depends in how the felling was strong for the loved one..
and of course up to u too
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I think thats a different time frame for all of us.Someone told me one time you divide this number from this number and thats the number of months you grieve.What? Coming from experience and a darkness I couldnt get myself out of,I say it took alot of crying,understanding that they arent here anymore but a revelation that hopefully I might be able to see them one day in heaven.You got to heal and Crying is a part of healing.Crying is a releasing of the hurts,the pain we carry.Some people believe crying is only for a weak person,I say NOT! Our bodies sweat and its removing the toxins so whats the difference in crying and releasing the hurts so it can be filled back up with the good memories from the ones we lost no matter if they left the earth or our life.
cm114411: Guys,
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?
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It would be never but life has to continue and there is always good memory that make you keep to remember
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Just wondering how long does it take to get over the loss of a loved one? 1 year, 5 years 10 years or a life time?