Pondering Life (98)
Kristia49: mickyj. Settle petal, you are past that now, just look to your future. We've all had bad relationships, but now it is time to forget the crap and move on. just forget about it. Come to qld and i'll show you how to fish. hahaha.
Kris babe im using soft plastics well for two trips .After getting myself with a fish and a lure in my leg
I'm way over it just thought i was being attacked !!
And the lady said she was sorry so no hard feelings .
Be totally single soon signed the papers last wednesday night
serene56: That's good advice wash
I've found writing thoughts and feelings down in a diary very helpful on a few occasions in my life.
It helps you express yourself and get those words out of your head that otherwise go round and round and round...
Six years ago this June, a man I had been seeing on and off for several months took his own life.
He had told me that he suffered from depression and was taking medication, but of course I never realised that his emotional pain was something that he was ultimately unable to bear.
I was shocked to the core of my being, devastated and totally wrecked over it .. it was probably three or so years until I realised that his death was not the first thing I thought of when I woke in the morning or before I finally went to sleep at night.
There was so much left unsaid, including goodbye, and in my desperation to regain some sense in life, I came upon advice that recommended expressing all those things you would have liked to have said, and remembering and recording all the beautiful times we had, the things we talked about, in a diary.
I did this and it did help me get through that terrible time, then in time, after reading it through when I felt ready, I destroyed it and let it go.
It had done its job.
I've found writing thoughts and feelings down in a diary very helpful on a few occasions in my life.
It helps you express yourself and get those words out of your head that otherwise go round and round and round...
Six years ago this June, a man I had been seeing on and off for several months took his own life.
He had told me that he suffered from depression and was taking medication, but of course I never realised that his emotional pain was something that he was ultimately unable to bear.
I was shocked to the core of my being, devastated and totally wrecked over it .. it was probably three or so years until I realised that his death was not the first thing I thought of when I woke in the morning or before I finally went to sleep at night.
There was so much left unsaid, including goodbye, and in my desperation to regain some sense in life, I came upon advice that recommended expressing all those things you would have liked to have said, and remembering and recording all the beautiful times we had, the things we talked about, in a diary.
I did this and it did help me get through that terrible time, then in time, after reading it through when I felt ready, I destroyed it and let it go.
It had done its job.
Hi serene, i have always kept a diary,It lets you express your feelings, then later down the track you can read it again.
mickyj63: Kris babe im using soft plastics well for two trips .After getting myself with a fish and a lure in my leg
I'm way over it just thought i was being attacked !!
And the lady said she was sorry so no hard feelings .
Be totally single soon signed the papers last wednesday night
I'm way over it just thought i was being attacked !!
And the lady said she was sorry so no hard feelings .
Be totally single soon signed the papers last wednesday night
Well that's great news, then it time for you over again, i wouldn't rush with girly, just find what you want out of life again.
Kristia49: Well that's great news, then it time for you over again, i wouldn't rush with girly, just find what you want out of life again.
yeah ive stopped looking for awhile Kris .I had offers for coffee from a couple of ladies put them off !
Kristia49: Hi serene, i have always kept a diary,It lets you express your feelings, then later down the track you can read it again.
My diary is my poems ....
I had one I wrote many years ago read back to me by a friend over the phone ..
I asked her who wrote it as i was moved by the words .. she told I had written it for her when she was enduring hardship 15 years before ..
I sometimes wish I had kept everything I have ever written ....
So, you suck it up, continue and try to rise above it...well one has no choice does one?
Nothing's changed but if you act happy sometimes happy comes
Is it real
Does it matter
Nothing's changed but if you act happy sometimes happy comes
Is it real
Does it matter Merriweather: Serene, if it helps, grow yourself a beautiful garden, spend time choosing and designing the colors and plants that you adore, and then, you create your own bit of heaven, and you get so much out of it, especially when you have downer days...
hope this helps...
hope this helps...
Been doing that merri and getting lost in my art but the world keeps interfering
serene56: Been doing that merri and getting lost in my art but the world keeps interfering
I just wish you well...
Merriweather: Hun, we are getting together at the meet soon, how about you and I have a chat then....
about these surprising reactions.. I am quite worried because I remember that I lost it for a while.. would only think of today and not tomorrow... I now realise that is not the way to think.
The only thing that I can add it...
Time is a healer... and if you look at nature, time is slow there too.
In nature, plants grow only when the are meant to... flower only when they are meant to... and none of it just happens coz you order it... so take it slow, and be aware of the subtle changes... life changes for us all the time... even if we think it does not...
about these surprising reactions.. I am quite worried because I remember that I lost it for a while.. would only think of today and not tomorrow... I now realise that is not the way to think.
The only thing that I can add it...
Time is a healer... and if you look at nature, time is slow there too.
In nature, plants grow only when the are meant to... flower only when they are meant to... and none of it just happens coz you order it... so take it slow, and be aware of the subtle changes... life changes for us all the time... even if we think it does not...
That is a great analogy Merri.
wash2u:
I did learn from a Counsellor some very good advice. Write down your feelings about events that happen. Close the book and then look at them on a new day and look to see if what you wrote is reasonable or just your emotions having a rage. And then write how you should really be thinking about it. And part of this is that at times you can see how illogical your thoughts were at that time.
I did learn from a Counsellor some very good advice. Write down your feelings about events that happen. Close the book and then look at them on a new day and look to see if what you wrote is reasonable or just your emotions having a rage. And then write how you should really be thinking about it. And part of this is that at times you can see how illogical your thoughts were at that time.
That is a very good idea, Wash.
wash2u: I have kept mine for the simple reason that when things do get me down, I do go back to what I have written and realise there is always tomorrow and a way forward.
And I do think that women have a better network for being able to verbalise a lot of these thoughts and get decent support. Many men do not want to admit to their mates their feelings in case others just make fun of them. Even if they are going through the same sort of stuff.
And I do think that women have a better network for being able to verbalise a lot of these thoughts and get decent support. Many men do not want to admit to their mates their feelings in case others just make fun of them. Even if they are going through the same sort of stuff.
That is so true although I think society is a getting a little better in allowing men to have emotions now which is good. It is a long slow process in changing the ideals of generation to generation as most people are raised in a similar way to what their parents were raised.
serene56: So, you suck it up, continue and try to rise above it...well one has no choice does one?Nothing's changed but if you act happy sometimes happy comes Is it real Does it matter
I think you attract what you put out too so put your rose coloured glasses on and try to find some beauty out there to appreciate. You sound like you could do with some positive energy. I am going to put out some positive vibes for you.
No, not those sort of vibes, get your mind out of the gutter. 
We all know that you are a beautiful, classy, elegant, intelligent, funny and gorgeous girl..., let her shine.
Just pondering my own life right now . Health again but I wont run away this time .
Going after work for my third check up in 4 weeks
Going after work for my third check up in 4 weeks
mickyj63: Just pondering my own life right now . Health again but I wont run away this time .
Going after work for my third check up in 4 weeks
Going after work for my third check up in 4 weeks
Hope things go well for you micky, here for you
Survival of the fittest and Darwinism is the basic construct of our existence, we are here to live, grow, find a mate, have offspring and pass on our genetics, grow old and then die.
What happens in between is of little long term importance and in the big scheme of things, trivial to say the least!
What happens in between is of little long term importance and in the big scheme of things, trivial to say the least!
curly28: Lov's Ya too and snags is right we are only here for a short time we must try to make the best of the rest of our lives and those around us close to our heart keep on keeping on
Kickin that black dog to the kerb curls
serene56: Kickin that black dog to the kerb curls
On Ya! you go girl
serene56: Hope things go well for you micky, here for you
Cheers Serene I'll find out more tomorrow just the meds aren't really working ! They keep increasing the dosages and the BP keeps going up
Guess that sounds funny
mickyj63: Cheers Serene I'll find out more tomorrow just the meds aren't really working ! They keep increasing the dosages and the BP keeps going up
Guess that sounds funny
Guess that sounds funny
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Kris babe im using soft plastics well for two trips .After getting myself with a fish and a lure in my leg
I'm way over it just thought i was being attacked !!
And the lady said she was sorry so no hard feelings .
Be totally single soon signed the papers last wednesday night