ChristinDew: A man sent email and started fun conversations, and finally made a woman fall for him. Then suddenly, pop up and said "I am not ready, it's too fast". Why a man bother to start something if he felt not ready for the consequences?
This is my sore point, this one. It happened to me somewhere else, no a dating site, it was on my own chat forum, now gone. I fell deeply in love with a woman totally unexpected, changed my life, my attitude, changed everything from darkness to bright sunshine, after 25 years of being on my own, by my choice.
Proposing was my next step, when we met. Only two hours after the most wonderful conversation via e-mail and Skype, I received an e-mail pulling the rug right out from under my feet, "I'm Sorry" was the title, and the reason for it, was that she entered into the relationship for the wrong reasons.
Not much consolation for any one on the receiving end of this sort of behaviour, on line communication is excellent, but heavens, it can bring you down so quickly.
Nov 24, 2013 7:36 PM CST Don't start what you can't finish
sweetsmile1philippines, Metro Manila Philippines1 Posts
sweetsmile1philippines, Metro Manila Philippines1 posts
I FINISHED WITH BAD EXPERIENCES LIKE OTHERS
Dont trust Nazzareno schembri from Qrendi Malta, he treat woman nice at first with a dinner at the mamas at imsida malta , to have someone to go out with , then used other women to get rid off you, this man wild and play a game with women heart, don't be hurt from this man like my all friends on CS did. he have a false, profile as Zaren12, that he never opened it, but using it to hurt his x woman that is not him but it is.
all his games start as friend and very nice but finished with depression, and bad excperience.
He believes that lie and secrets keeps relationship strong don't go into his boots.
ChristinDew: A man sent email and started fun conversations, and finally made a woman fall for him. Then suddenly, pop up and said "I am not ready, it's too fast". Why a man bother to start something if he felt not ready for the consequences?
sweetsmile1: I FINISHED WITH BAD EXPERIENCES LIKE OTHERS
Dont trust Nazzareno schembri from Qrendi Malta, he treat woman nice at first with a dinner at the mamas at imsida malta , to have someone to go out with , then used other women to get rid off you, this man wild and play a game with women heart, don't be hurt from this man like my all friends on CS did. he have a false, profile as Zaren12, that he never opened it, but using it to hurt his x woman that is not him but it is.
all his games start as friend and very nice but finished with depression, and bad excperience.
He believes that lie and secrets keeps relationship strong don't go into his boots.
Thanks for the tip but you may be in violation like Jim from Austrailia for this.
ChristinDew: It was damn true D. I think it was just so cruel. Make a woman fall without any intention to love her
He just wanted to see if he could have her ? Some men get off on doing this and many women also. They do this just to boost their already fragile ego's. These are losers and sad people in my opinion.
Glatlol: I would think it might have to do with the fact that the woman "fell for him" by mail, IMO thats a warning flag and I would run like the wind to.
Some Asian women and Filipona's are using these sites to find husbands to not only support them but also their entire extended families and without even meeting the guy. lol Run for the hills. Run for your life. pmsl
Prapiroon: Some Asian women and Filipona's are using these sites to find husbands to not only support them but also their entire extended families and without even meeting the guy. lol Run for the hills. Run for your life. pmsl
there's no crystal ball for getting into relationships. i think letting you know, "i am not ready, it's too fast" is some really good information, and much better than just not hearing from him again.
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
jono7: there's no crystal ball for getting into relationships. i think letting you know, "i am not ready, it's too fast" is some really good information, and much better than just not hearing from him again.
I get the impression that not being ready, or people wanting a different pace are not uncommon, especially in the medium of the internet.
I don't think its uncommon for people to sign up to an internet dating site as part of a process towards being ready for a relationship. It's maybe a way of exploring thoughts and feelings about relationships.
People do start what they can finish, they maybe just don't want to finish now, or a particular person who isn't the right one for them.
jac379: I get the impression that not being ready, or people wanting a different pace are not uncommon, especially in the medium of the internet.
I don't think its uncommon for people to sign up to an internet dating site as part of a process towards being ready for a relationship. It's maybe a way of exploring thoughts and feelings about relationships.
People do start what they can finish, they maybe just don't want to finish now, or a particular person who isn't the right one for them.
Or believing they are ready and then the sudden realization that they have something not worked out within themselves, and need to focus on that first? At any rate,it's better to find out sooner than later!
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
michael63ca: Or believing they are ready and then the sudden realization that they have something not worked out within themselves, and need to focus on that first? At any rate,it's better to find out sooner than later!
Yes, and perhaps more likely that my suggestion.
It happens, its not personal.
But then neither is rejection of any sort really, I suppose.
Your quite right they are of course.lol But their culture perhaps is a little different. They have very strong family ties and when they go to work abroad it is to send money home to their families. They are beautiful and they have many fine qualities but western guys do not always know what they are getting into when they enter into a relationship with a Filipina so this is why I mentioned them separately.
Prapiroon: Your quite right they are of course.lol But their culture perhaps is a little different. They have very strong family ties and when they go to work abroad it is to send money home to their families. They are beautiful and they have many fine qualities but western guys do not always know what they are getting into when they enter into a relationship with a Filipina so this is why I mentioned them separately.
i think it is very admirable to support ones family and adults who are grown up enough to enter a relationship should know the pro's and cons about it, its not like international dating started a month ago
Kaybee50: Is it possible you and he have different intentions right now?
Perhaps he wants "light and flirty" right now.
And this is the "dance" that we all navigate through this maze of dating, seeking. We all aren't at the same place at the same time, a "fit" is a rare thing to find, and our hearts suffer when the other doesn't reciprocate. But we hurt, learn, get up, and try again. It will happen again and again, and we will grow wiser and more self-aware in the process, and then, maybe one day, you will see that all of the men before were stepping stones to the One that has been searching for you as much as you've been searching for him.
I could not have said it better....!!!
Christin, was this Guy close-by..?, did you skype or chat face to face with him..??
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Playing games with your head. What a loser!