Elderly/sick parents (99)
Sunny143christchurch, Canterbury New Zealand112 Threads 20 Polls 1,093 Poststruheart1941: .....In some countries.....your,ll see 3 generations living in the same house....that's great. not being pushed into a old peoples home to be forgotten/out of sight......
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rebel2: I dont disagree,and people must do what they feel right.
If i was seriously ill,i wouldnt want my family,who i never see and dont have contact with,suddenly appearing to nurse me or watch me die.
I envy those that have such a bond,it must be nice.
If i was seriously ill,i wouldnt want my family,who i never see and dont have contact with,suddenly appearing to nurse me or watch me die.
I envy those that have such a bond,it must be nice.
Let's hope it doesn't come to that.
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GUZMAN1: A day will come to ask if we have the right to have someone taking care of us.
Each to his own I say, cultures are different etc.
Me personly would hate it if my kids had to care for me. I have made provision for myself now, for when I need help. If things got too bad well their is always the ultimate by my own hand.
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Redex: Each to his own I say, cultures are different etc.
Me personly would hate it if my kids had to care for me. I have made provision for myself now, for when I need help. If things got too bad well their is always the ultimate by my own hand.
Me personly would hate it if my kids had to care for me. I have made provision for myself now, for when I need help. If things got too bad well their is always the ultimate by my own hand.
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Redex: Each to his own I say, cultures are different etc.
Me personly would hate it if my kids had to care for me. I have made provision for myself now, for when I need help. If things got too bad well their is always the ultimate by my own hand.
Me personly would hate it if my kids had to care for me. I have made provision for myself now, for when I need help. If things got too bad well their is always the ultimate by my own hand.
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I agree with Reb and Redex. Make your own provisions for your future.Not everyone HAS family.
Some people are incapable of caring for elderly parents, albeit due to their own commitments, or the depth of care and input needed to sustain a parent at home.
It's no easy task and there are no easy solutions,but one shouldn't feel the burden of guilt if unable to cope.
Whatever people think of the UK there is support out there ,financial and otherwise,if you take the trouble to look for it.j.m.o.
Some people are incapable of caring for elderly parents, albeit due to their own commitments, or the depth of care and input needed to sustain a parent at home.
It's no easy task and there are no easy solutions,but one shouldn't feel the burden of guilt if unable to cope.
Whatever people think of the UK there is support out there ,financial and otherwise,if you take the trouble to look for it.j.m.o.
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Glitch101: I agree with Reb and Redex. Make your own provisions for your future.Not everyone HAS family.
Some people are incapable of caring for elderly parents, albeit due to their own commitments, or the depth of care and input needed to sustain a parent at home.
It's no easy task and there are no easy solutions,but one shouldn't feel the burden of guilt if unable to cope.
Whatever people think of the UK there is support out there ,financial and otherwise,if you take the trouble to look for it.j.m.o.
Some people are incapable of caring for elderly parents, albeit due to their own commitments, or the depth of care and input needed to sustain a parent at home.
It's no easy task and there are no easy solutions,but one shouldn't feel the burden of guilt if unable to cope.
Whatever people think of the UK there is support out there ,financial and otherwise,if you take the trouble to look for it.j.m.o.
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Glitch101: I agree with Reb and Redex. Make your own provisions for your future.Not everyone HAS family.
Some people are incapable of caring for elderly parents, albeit due to their own commitments, or the depth of care and input needed to sustain a parent at home.
It's no easy task and there are no easy solutions,but one shouldn't feel the burden of guilt if unable to cope.
Whatever people think of the UK there is support out there ,financial and otherwise,if you take the trouble to look for it.j.m.o.
Some people are incapable of caring for elderly parents, albeit due to their own commitments, or the depth of care and input needed to sustain a parent at home.
It's no easy task and there are no easy solutions,but one shouldn't feel the burden of guilt if unable to cope.
Whatever people think of the UK there is support out there ,financial and otherwise,if you take the trouble to look for it.j.m.o.
Then I would put my commitments aside, surely family wouldbe more important than our busy obligations, assuming of course
there is still family contact.
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online today!rebel2: Excuse me for a moment...i am just going outside to shoot myself.The thought of that frightens me!
...have you a shovel I could use.......????????
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pedalguy59: Then I would put my commitments aside, surely family would
be more important than our busy obligations, assuming of course
there is still family contact.
be more important than our busy obligations, assuming of course
there is still family contact.
I agree. I would put my life on hold to care for them.
It's true not everyone has family so I must say that people who do caregiving as a profession, mostly have huge hearts.
I also agree that people without family should look into whatever financial aid/resources they can and/or make provisions before they actually need the help.
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pedalguy59: Then I would put my commitments aside, surely family would
be more important than our busy obligations, assuming of course
there is still family contact.
be more important than our busy obligations, assuming of course
there is still family contact.
It's not always possible to do the right thing for an elderly parent. If they live with you then it may be that you can support them at home.If they don't, and you have children especially young ones ,it's nigh on impossible to combine the two.
I would prefer to have a pleasant social visit from Family than have to be embarrassed by a male member of my family having to provide for my personal needs.
It's called having some dignity ,which some elderly people would prefer to keep.
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online today!Glitch101: It's not always possible to do the right thing for an elderly parent. If they live with you then it may be that you can support them at home.If they don't, and you have children especially young ones ,it's nigh on impossible to combine the two.
I would prefer to have a pleasant social visit from Family than have to be embarrassed by a male member of my family having to provide for my personal needs.
It's called having some dignity ,which some elderly people would prefer to keep.
...my mother had care worker morning/night...to wash and put to bed.I would prefer to have a pleasant social visit from Family than have to be embarrassed by a male member of my family having to provide for my personal needs.
It's called having some dignity ,which some elderly people would prefer to keep.
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I have a wonderful relationship with my parents so it wouldn't be a moral obligation for me, it would be because I want to
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truheart1941: ...my mother had care worker morning/night...to wash and put to bed.
Exactly my point.
When necessity forces the hand,there are ways and means to give support at home,without pushing all the burden on to family members.
Making family obliged to care for their parents is neither good for either party as it can sometimes cause resentment,especially if their is more than one member in the family and only one has to take the responsibility.
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unlaoised: I have a wonderful relationship with my parents so it wouldn't be a moral obligation for me, it would be because I want to
I agree, so we will change the words moral obligation to......the right thing to do, assuming we still like our parents.
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I agree, 'moral obligation' was probably not a good choice of words.
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online today!Glitch101: Exactly my point.
When necessity forces the hand,there are ways and means to give support at home,without pushing all the burden on to family members.
Making family obliged to care for their parents is neither good for either party as it can sometimes cause resentment,especially if their is more than one member in the family and only one has to take the responsibility.
hi....my brother died when I was 14.....so it was only me....the only thing was I didn't have a social...life..to speak of.......the years pass at my age kinda redundant........When necessity forces the hand,there are ways and means to give support at home,without pushing all the burden on to family members.
Making family obliged to care for their parents is neither good for either party as it can sometimes cause resentment,especially if their is more than one member in the family and only one has to take the responsibility.
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pedalguy59: I agree, so we will change the words moral obligation to......
the right thing to do, assuming we still like our parents.
the right thing to do, assuming we still like our parents.
even the "right thing to do" suggests obligation to me. I want to be there for them...simply because i love them.
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unlaoised: even the "right thing to do" suggests obligation to me. I want to be there for them...simply because i love them.
The right thing to do is different than being compelled todo something is it not?
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pedalguy59: The right thing to do is different than being compelled to
do something is it not?
do something is it not?
slightly different yes but it still has a hint of being something one should do as opposed to what one wants to do
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