Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to
report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
My sister's daughter #3 passed away on the day daughter #2 had her birthday. On the anniversary, she and husband of the time took her children (and later daughter #4) to the cemetry to remember her. Daughter #2 hates her birthday.
There are many ways of dealing with grief. I go into a shell and do not want to talk about. I just want to be left alone with my grief.
On saying that, I did once go and see a councillor regularly over several months. Talking it to someone not personally involved did, after time, make it easier for me to open up about my feelings. And I found it did help in many ways.
My only advice is they should go and see a professional. I have given this same advice to many people dealing with grief of different kinds. Some have gotten back to me and thanked me for at least pointing them in a direction. Others I have not heard from again or not willing to discuss it. There is a stygma about "seeking professional advice."
And I am not a good one to listen to my own advice.