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felixis99: I'm sure the gents are appreciative
I wear what the occasion calls for ....wait...I really never go on dates so I guess I don;t wear anything oopsdid I just say that? lol
I wear what the occasion calls for ....wait...I really never go on dates so I guess I don;t wear anything oopsdid I just say that? lol
Yes, dress for the occasion. I haven't gotten any complaints yet.
Go out & have fun felixis.
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KNenagh: Welcome to the world of internet dating. You meet more weirdos & loosers than in RL. I think meeting someone in RL, preferably through friends, the best option.
Anything weird, just hike it out of the door asap.
Anything weird, just hike it out of the door asap.
Thought about your verdict for a few moments and disagree. I see no real differences between ‘internet dating’ and RL because it is very rare for anyone of any gender to take any time past the introductory 3 seconds, to actually be inclined to get to know someone else.Perhaps the over-riding reason is that it somehow diminishes from their own egos…after all, we inhabit a disposable world made of disposable others...
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Kattte: Thought about your verdict for a few moments and disagree. I see no real differences between ‘internet dating’ and RL because it is very rare for anyone of any gender to take any time past the introductory 3 seconds, to actually be inclined to get to know someone else.Perhaps the over-riding reason is that it somehow diminishes from their own egos…after all, we inhabit a disposable world made of disposable others...
Well, I disagree with you there.
Socially awkward people or plain weirdos are usually not out and about on the weekend chatting someone up in social situations. If you have friends and a life and looking for a relationship (not a hook-up), I think RL is the way better alternative.About the disposable thing - that's exactly the reason why I don't like internet dating, I actually like to get to know someone and care about the person.
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Dovetail921: The last date that I had was about a week ago. I really don't want to go into a ton of detail, but I do want to make a point.
The short version of it is that I met him for dinner and drinks and as I am walking in, I'm thinking, wow, he's cuter in person than his photos. I get to the table, introduce myself, he asks for the menu and then turns to me and says, I quote "this is the first time I've been on a date and wasn't already buzzed when I got there."
Oh crap....
After which he proceeds to get blasted, incompetent stupid blasted.
He's walking me back to the city bus station and he realizes that he left his phone at the restraunt. We turn around to retrive it and I arrive at the bus station 10 minutes after the last bus home has left. I am now stranded in one of the worst areas of Lansing in the middle of the night with a drunken child in a mans body.
I spent the rest of the night babysitting the guy until he passed out, fielding attempts to get me to sleep with him.
Needless to say there was not another contact.
Now on to the point. Throughout the night I realized one thing. The guy is, in my opinion, very attractive, and deep down, if he GREW UP, wasn't an alcoholic and didn't spend his 30's throwing his life away and acting like an uncontrolled teen, we could have actually hit it off pretty well. I could see the MAN underneath the bull crap and I would have definitely have liked to get to know the grown up. Unfortunately, due to his poor choices in life, that is definitely not going to happen. Please please please, males, note. You could be missing something that could be great by making poor choices with your life.
In a few years, if he gets control of his life and grows up and becomes a man instead of a child in a man's body, and I find myself single, sure he can call me. As it stands right now, I'd rather he didn't contact me at all.
Deal Breaker
The short version of it is that I met him for dinner and drinks and as I am walking in, I'm thinking, wow, he's cuter in person than his photos. I get to the table, introduce myself, he asks for the menu and then turns to me and says, I quote "this is the first time I've been on a date and wasn't already buzzed when I got there."
Oh crap....
After which he proceeds to get blasted, incompetent stupid blasted.
He's walking me back to the city bus station and he realizes that he left his phone at the restraunt. We turn around to retrive it and I arrive at the bus station 10 minutes after the last bus home has left. I am now stranded in one of the worst areas of Lansing in the middle of the night with a drunken child in a mans body.
I spent the rest of the night babysitting the guy until he passed out, fielding attempts to get me to sleep with him.
Needless to say there was not another contact.
Now on to the point. Throughout the night I realized one thing. The guy is, in my opinion, very attractive, and deep down, if he GREW UP, wasn't an alcoholic and didn't spend his 30's throwing his life away and acting like an uncontrolled teen, we could have actually hit it off pretty well. I could see the MAN underneath the bull crap and I would have definitely have liked to get to know the grown up. Unfortunately, due to his poor choices in life, that is definitely not going to happen. Please please please, males, note. You could be missing something that could be great by making poor choices with your life.
In a few years, if he gets control of his life and grows up and becomes a man instead of a child in a man's body, and I find myself single, sure he can call me. As it stands right now, I'd rather he didn't contact me at all.
Deal Breaker
Just wanted to say how well written that was, you should be a writer.
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Dovetail921: The last date that I had was about a week ago. I really don't want to go into a ton of detail, but I do want to make a point.
The short version of it is that I met him for dinner and drinks and as I am walking in, I'm thinking, wow, he's cuter in person than his photos. I get to the table, introduce myself, he asks for the menu and then turns to me and says, I quote "this is the first time I've been on a date and wasn't already buzzed when I got there."
Oh crap....
After which he proceeds to get blasted, incompetent stupid blasted.
He's walking me back to the city bus station and he realizes that he left his phone at the restraunt. We turn around to retrive it and I arrive at the bus station 10 minutes after the last bus home has left. I am now stranded in one of the worst areas of Lansing in the middle of the night with a drunken child in a mans body.
I spent the rest of the night babysitting the guy until he passed out, fielding attempts to get me to sleep with him.
Needless to say there was not another contact.
Now on to the point. Throughout the night I realized one thing. The guy is, in my opinion, very attractive, and deep down, if he GREW UP, wasn't an alcoholic and didn't spend his 30's throwing his life away and acting like an uncontrolled teen, we could have actually hit it off pretty well. I could see the MAN underneath the bull crap and I would have definitely have liked to get to know the grown up. Unfortunately, due to his poor choices in life, that is definitely not going to happen. Please please please, males, note. You could be missing something that could be great by making poor choices with your life.
In a few years, if he gets control of his life and grows up and becomes a man instead of a child in a man's body, and I find myself single, sure he can call me. As it stands right now, I'd rather he didn't contact me at all.
Deal Breaker
The short version of it is that I met him for dinner and drinks and as I am walking in, I'm thinking, wow, he's cuter in person than his photos. I get to the table, introduce myself, he asks for the menu and then turns to me and says, I quote "this is the first time I've been on a date and wasn't already buzzed when I got there."
Oh crap....
After which he proceeds to get blasted, incompetent stupid blasted.
He's walking me back to the city bus station and he realizes that he left his phone at the restraunt. We turn around to retrive it and I arrive at the bus station 10 minutes after the last bus home has left. I am now stranded in one of the worst areas of Lansing in the middle of the night with a drunken child in a mans body.
I spent the rest of the night babysitting the guy until he passed out, fielding attempts to get me to sleep with him.
Needless to say there was not another contact.
Now on to the point. Throughout the night I realized one thing. The guy is, in my opinion, very attractive, and deep down, if he GREW UP, wasn't an alcoholic and didn't spend his 30's throwing his life away and acting like an uncontrolled teen, we could have actually hit it off pretty well. I could see the MAN underneath the bull crap and I would have definitely have liked to get to know the grown up. Unfortunately, due to his poor choices in life, that is definitely not going to happen. Please please please, males, note. You could be missing something that could be great by making poor choices with your life.
In a few years, if he gets control of his life and grows up and becomes a man instead of a child in a man's body, and I find myself single, sure he can call me. As it stands right now, I'd rather he didn't contact me at all.
Deal Breaker
Maybe your date is a career student at Michigan State University in Lansing. Michigan State does have the national reputation for party party party hardy.
Looking forward to this weekends rivalry football game between University of Michigan and Michigan state in Lansing. Go Blue!
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Hey, sorry for that. Guy behaved like jerk.
Maybe it's you who is so great and he just wanted to relax :)))
But hey - i actually was about to dump my boyfriend when he on the goodbye party got completly drunk, vomited, etc. I got him home and was trying to hydratate him somehow thinking what I have to pack and how much will cost me the last minute airplane to my homecountry. At some point my drunk boyfriend said: "K... You are taking care of me... You are so good to me... Will you marry me?" And next day apologied for being such a jerk.
Did ignore this question that time. Said "yes" to the second sober one. The completly drunk situation never repeated and I find him one of the most responsible guys I met. Pretty good ex to have. Maybe I should give him a link here ;)
Sometimes it's worth to give it a second chance.
Other times its "run Katiko, run" ;)
But I do completly agree that there is no way to change someone if he/she doesnt want. But if you make the person to want to change it can work out pretty well in a limited number of "changes desired". My ex-husband stopped cigarets, learn to drink alcohol with limits, learned to dance, sail, use cookbooks, is learning currently new language...
And he is proud about his new skills :)))
Its doable. It takes time, requires patience. But once one think its in his/her best interest it can happen pretty fast and be fun for both.
Maybe it's you who is so great and he just wanted to relax :)))
But hey - i actually was about to dump my boyfriend when he on the goodbye party got completly drunk, vomited, etc. I got him home and was trying to hydratate him somehow thinking what I have to pack and how much will cost me the last minute airplane to my homecountry. At some point my drunk boyfriend said: "K... You are taking care of me... You are so good to me... Will you marry me?" And next day apologied for being such a jerk.
Did ignore this question that time. Said "yes" to the second sober one. The completly drunk situation never repeated and I find him one of the most responsible guys I met. Pretty good ex to have. Maybe I should give him a link here ;)
Sometimes it's worth to give it a second chance.
Other times its "run Katiko, run" ;)
But I do completly agree that there is no way to change someone if he/she doesnt want. But if you make the person to want to change it can work out pretty well in a limited number of "changes desired". My ex-husband stopped cigarets, learn to drink alcohol with limits, learned to dance, sail, use cookbooks, is learning currently new language...
And he is proud about his new skills :)))
Its doable. It takes time, requires patience. But once one think its in his/her best interest it can happen pretty fast and be fun for both.
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Dovetail921: The last date that I had was about a week ago. I really don't want to go into a ton of detail, but I do want to make a point.
The short version of it is that I met him for dinner and drinks and as I am walking in, I'm thinking, wow, he's cuter in person than his photos. I get to the table, introduce myself, he asks for the menu and then turns to me and says, I quote "this is the first time I've been on a date and wasn't already buzzed when I got there."
Oh crap....
After which he proceeds to get blasted, incompetent stupid blasted.
He's walking me back to the city bus station and he realizes that he left his phone at the restraunt. We turn around to retrive it and I arrive at the bus station 10 minutes after the last bus home has left. I am now stranded in one of the worst areas of Lansing in the middle of the night with a drunken child in a mans body.
I spent the rest of the night babysitting the guy until he passed out, fielding attempts to get me to sleep with him.
Needless to say there was not another contact.
Now on to the point. Throughout the night I realized one thing. The guy is, in my opinion, very attractive, and deep down, if he GREW UP, wasn't an alcoholic and didn't spend his 30's throwing his life away and acting like an uncontrolled teen, we could have actually hit it off pretty well. I could see the MAN underneath the bull crap and I would have definitely have liked to get to know the grown up. Unfortunately, due to his poor choices in life, that is definitely not going to happen. Please please please, males, note. You could be missing something that could be great by making poor choices with your life.
In a few years, if he gets control of his life and grows up and becomes a man instead of a child in a man's body, and I find myself single, sure he can call me. As it stands right now, I'd rather he didn't contact me at all.
Deal Breaker
The short version of it is that I met him for dinner and drinks and as I am walking in, I'm thinking, wow, he's cuter in person than his photos. I get to the table, introduce myself, he asks for the menu and then turns to me and says, I quote "this is the first time I've been on a date and wasn't already buzzed when I got there."
Oh crap....
After which he proceeds to get blasted, incompetent stupid blasted.
He's walking me back to the city bus station and he realizes that he left his phone at the restraunt. We turn around to retrive it and I arrive at the bus station 10 minutes after the last bus home has left. I am now stranded in one of the worst areas of Lansing in the middle of the night with a drunken child in a mans body.
I spent the rest of the night babysitting the guy until he passed out, fielding attempts to get me to sleep with him.
Needless to say there was not another contact.
Now on to the point. Throughout the night I realized one thing. The guy is, in my opinion, very attractive, and deep down, if he GREW UP, wasn't an alcoholic and didn't spend his 30's throwing his life away and acting like an uncontrolled teen, we could have actually hit it off pretty well. I could see the MAN underneath the bull crap and I would have definitely have liked to get to know the grown up. Unfortunately, due to his poor choices in life, that is definitely not going to happen. Please please please, males, note. You could be missing something that could be great by making poor choices with your life.
In a few years, if he gets control of his life and grows up and becomes a man instead of a child in a man's body, and I find myself single, sure he can call me. As it stands right now, I'd rather he didn't contact me at all.
Deal Breaker
Did he drink one beer and become plastered or did he try to drink out the bar? I once had a girlfriend that I had to carry home after she had half a bottle of beer!
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Join a group or organisation, build up a circle of people to socialise with (male & females) where you have things in common & similar interests. Make friends, go out & have fun - thats the way to meet someone compatible & I find it easier if you get time to know someone.