The real cost of mistakes... (43)
shell1964: so true! If you repeat them then you should be wondering why..and we should all learn from our mistakes! Well some of us..
Hoping your hot water tank issues are temporary
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Ccincy: I've make several mistakes during my lifetime and have learned from them.
But there are some people who never learn from them.They tend to just continue to make them over and over again.
Oh well you cant help everyone.But there are some people who never learn from them.They tend to just continue to make them over and over again.
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chatonlyman2: You asked
It was a statement, not a question.
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chatonlyman2: Oh well you cant help everyone.
Hi chat obviously.
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Ccincy: Hi chat obviously.
I wish the best for you CC ------ This thread is Archived ------
goodtimespr: I'm not gonna get into details, but right now i'm pissed off with myself because of an stupid mistake i made...
It's not only that i got into trouble, but first of all cost me money, it was TOTALLY unnecesary and made me angry with myself!!!...
I'm struggling with the "forgive-forget and get going" part...
It's not only that i got into trouble, but first of all cost me money, it was TOTALLY unnecesary and made me angry with myself!!!...
I'm struggling with the "forgive-forget and get going" part...
Don't be too bummed out, even though you can't afford the loss, thank goodness you have your health and your freedom, your mistake apparently didn't land you in jail (I hope).
I would try to look at is this way, the money can and will be replaced, your bills will be there tomorrow and you will land on your feet, as you always do.
Good luck and cheer up!
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chatonlyman2: I wish the best for you CC
Thank You chat.
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Goodnight Everyone. I work in the morning
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secretagent09: You are so right Jono. Nine years ago I made a huge mistake and you and Ambrose did your best to help me accept it at the time. I put my big girl pants on and tried to let it go but that didn't work.....nothing works to let it go because it involves money that I wish I had today.
All my life I've been an extremely generous person. This mistake has changed that so I can say.....I learned my lesson.
All my life I've been an extremely generous person. This mistake has changed that so I can say.....I learned my lesson.
hiya Mfor sure....some lessons are harder than others...
for me...i have a challenging time not letting one lesson flow into the other...through misdirection...
i had the experience many years ago of being taken for $17,000 (at a time when that was all and more than i had). and to this day...it effects me sometimes.
but ya know M..... we have a choice about being our history, or being our present. and the way i look at it on a good day..is just cuz one person lied and cheated me...it doesn't mean everyone in my life will. i believe for the most part, that folks are pretty decent.
so take baby steps...
now in fairness, i need to add..i've had someone in my life that is very supportive in helping me to change how i view some things.
change your perception...change your reality.
so when i look back at the $17,000...would i like to have it now? sure!...but truth is that while it would make things easier, i'm ok without it...i have everything i need.
and i guess they needed it more than me,
it doesn't take away that i did a nice thing by giving it to them.
yanno......?
merry christmas M
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jono7: hiya M
for sure....some lessons are harder than others...
for me...i have a challenging time not letting one lesson flow into the other...through misdirection...
i had the experience many years ago of being taken for $17,000 (at a time when that was all and more than i had). and to this day...it effects me sometimes.
but ya know M..... we have a choice about being our history, or being our present. and the way i look at it on a good day..is just cuz one person lied and cheated me...it doesn't mean everyone in my life will. i believe for the most part, that folks are pretty decent.
so take baby steps...
now in fairness, i need to add..i've had someone in my life that is very supportive in helping me to change how i view some things.
change your perception...change your reality.
so when i look back at the $17,000...would i like to have it now? sure!...but truth is that while it would make things easier, i'm ok without it...i have everything i need.
and i guess they needed it more than me,
it doesn't take away that i did a nice thing by giving it to them.
yanno......?
merry christmas M
for sure....some lessons are harder than others...
for me...i have a challenging time not letting one lesson flow into the other...through misdirection...
i had the experience many years ago of being taken for $17,000 (at a time when that was all and more than i had). and to this day...it effects me sometimes.
but ya know M..... we have a choice about being our history, or being our present. and the way i look at it on a good day..is just cuz one person lied and cheated me...it doesn't mean everyone in my life will. i believe for the most part, that folks are pretty decent.
so take baby steps...
now in fairness, i need to add..i've had someone in my life that is very supportive in helping me to change how i view some things.
change your perception...change your reality.
so when i look back at the $17,000...would i like to have it now? sure!...but truth is that while it would make things easier, i'm ok without it...i have everything i need.
and i guess they needed it more than me,
it doesn't take away that i did a nice thing by giving it to them.
yanno......?
merry christmas M
Not to discredit your $17,000 but he took me for $60,000. I don't have everything I need in life and that money would make the difference.
But like you said in so many words
life goes on.I'll still be good to people who need a little help or a handout because it's my nature to make somebody's life better a little better.
Nice to hear from you J.
Merry Christmas
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In response to: I'm not gonna get into details, but right now i'm pissed off with myself because of an stupid mistake i made...
It's not only that i got into trouble, but first of all cost me money, it was TOTALLY unnecesary and made me angry with myself!!!...
I'm struggling with the "forgive-forget and get going" part...
It's not only that i got into trouble, but first of all cost me money, it was TOTALLY unnecesary and made me angry with myself!!!...
I'm struggling with the "forgive-forget and get going" part...
Try to let it slide. I often lose more by trying to correct a mistake than the mistake itself actually costs me.
Because I'm an impatient perfectionist who hates, hates, HATES breaking his word I'll go to extraordinary and sometimes ridiculous lengths to complete a task or correct a problem today rather than wait until tomorrow when it would have been a helluva lot simpler to do. I need to learn when to quit rather than keep going at it over and over again until I reach a success that's not even worth it.
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Obstinance_Works: Try to let it slide. I often lose more by trying to correct a mistake than the mistake itself actually costs me.
Because I'm an impatient perfectionist who hates, hates, HATES breaking his word I'll go to extraordinary and sometimes ridiculous lengths to complete a task or correct a problem today rather than wait until tomorrow when it would have been a helluva lot simpler to do. I need to learn when to quit rather than keep going at it over and over again until I reach a success that's not even worth it.
Because I'm an impatient perfectionist who hates, hates, HATES breaking his word I'll go to extraordinary and sometimes ridiculous lengths to complete a task or correct a problem today rather than wait until tomorrow when it would have been a helluva lot simpler to do. I need to learn when to quit rather than keep going at it over and over again until I reach a success that's not even worth it.
Don't beat yourself up too much.
Ease up on the perfectionism.
It can destroy.
We are not perfect.
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Obstinance_Works: Try to let it slide. I often lose more by trying to correct a mistake than the mistake itself actually costs me.
Because I'm an impatient perfectionist who hates, hates, HATES breaking his word I'll go to extraordinary and sometimes ridiculous lengths to complete a task or correct a problem today rather than wait until tomorrow when it would have been a helluva lot simpler to do. I need to learn when to quit rather than keep going at it over and over again until I reach a success that's not even worth it.
Because I'm an impatient perfectionist who hates, hates, HATES breaking his word I'll go to extraordinary and sometimes ridiculous lengths to complete a task or correct a problem today rather than wait until tomorrow when it would have been a helluva lot simpler to do. I need to learn when to quit rather than keep going at it over and over again until I reach a success that's not even worth it.
Don't break your word, then you won't be going through all that drama. I would never break my word because my word is my truth and truth and loyalty is the most important thing to me.
I think what you and I might have in common (imagine that
) is that you want to know "why"....the why of it will drive me crazy when someone is disloyal to me. Rarely do I ever learn why someone does what they do but it's always worth a try. Eventually I'll give up and then I'm stuck with "how did that happen situation" and I never let go.Merry Christmas Rumpy
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BerrySmoothie: Don't beat yourself up too much.
Ease up on the perfectionism.
It can destroy.
We are not perfect.
Ease up on the perfectionism.
It can destroy.
We are not perfect.
I do try to keep that in mind. But the tunnel-vision always comes back following a mistake. If I said I'll do X then X will happen when I said that X would happen even if X costs me blood, sweat, tears and the dwindling remains of my sanity.
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Obstinance_Works: I do try to keep that in mind. But the tunnel-vision always comes back following a mistake. If I said I'll do X then X will happen when I said that X would happen even if X costs me blood, sweat, tears and the dwindling remains of my sanity.
Yes. You made an error.
Learn from it.
Don't dwell on it. Let it go, or you will lose your mind eventually.
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don't be sorry just be careful,
Some people don't like to learn by their mistakes as they hunger after the thrill of it,
Whatever it is,
Some people don't like to learn by their mistakes as they hunger after the thrill of it,
Whatever it is,
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I suppose mistakes are something for our own self to acknowledge ,
Are they really mistakes if we not aware we are making them,
I got married very young ,,could I look on that as a mistake,,,ill look on the positive side it was part of my growth ,,I had two lovely kids .,
If I was to look back on things I called mistakes then life wouldn't present challenges for me and it would stunt my spiritual ,mental growth ,
If I build myself up on this great pedastil and say I won't make mistakes again I'd be fooling myself because I don't choose these so called mistakes that present itself,
Now I could choose something I'm well aware would be a bad decision for me ,
Are they really mistakes if we not aware we are making them,
I got married very young ,,could I look on that as a mistake,,,ill look on the positive side it was part of my growth ,,I had two lovely kids .,
If I was to look back on things I called mistakes then life wouldn't present challenges for me and it would stunt my spiritual ,mental growth ,
If I build myself up on this great pedastil and say I won't make mistakes again I'd be fooling myself because I don't choose these so called mistakes that present itself,
Now I could choose something I'm well aware would be a bad decision for me ,
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peachmelba: I suppose mistakes are something for our own self to acknowledge ,
Are they really mistakes if we not aware we are making them,
I got married very young ,,could I look on that as a mistake,,,ill look on the positive side it was part of my growth ,,I had two lovely kids .,
If I was to look back on things I called mistakes then life wouldn't present challenges for me and it would stunt my spiritual ,mental growth ,
If I build myself up on this great pedastil and say I won't make mistakes again I'd be fooling myself because I don't choose these so called mistakes that present itself,
Now I could choose something I'm well aware would be a bad decision for me ,
Are they really mistakes if we not aware we are making them,
I got married very young ,,could I look on that as a mistake,,,ill look on the positive side it was part of my growth ,,I had two lovely kids .,
If I was to look back on things I called mistakes then life wouldn't present challenges for me and it would stunt my spiritual ,mental growth ,
If I build myself up on this great pedastil and say I won't make mistakes again I'd be fooling myself because I don't choose these so called mistakes that present itself,
Now I could choose something I'm well aware would be a bad decision for me ,
It's only after the action and we reflect that we call them mistakes but they are not mistakes they are decisions we take in the day ,,.
Now decisions I have made in relation to self in the past that were not good would be a bad decision if I were to choose same again,,,
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2intrigued: Don't start with me.
itching to vacuum more dog hair eh?
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But there are some people who never learn from them.They tend to just continue to make them over and over again.