Social Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits (39)
Sometimes things we hoped to expect can come unexpected when we just relax.
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peachmelba: Sometimes things we hoped to expect can come unexpected when we just relax.
sometimes yes...sometimes no
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lifeisadream: I think we all have both the master and disaster.
A relationship can enhance more the “master” (good) or the “disaster” (bad) in within each person, I would think.
Interesting could be, to be able to conceptualize what a relationship has enhanced or weaken in our character(both persons).
A relationship can enhance more the “master” (good) or the “disaster” (bad) in within each person, I would think.
Interesting could be, to be able to conceptualize what a relationship has enhanced or weaken in our character(both persons).
you could be onto something, i think though that people tend to lean more one way or the other.
Here is an one example of master/disaster. (i think) When my daughters were younger (7/8 yrs old) we would stop at a gas station to fill up the car, they would ask if they could get out and wash the windows for me. I would let them, when they were done their mother would be mad because they didn't do a good enough job, I would laugh and say, well at least they got out and tried.
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michael63ca: you could be onto something, i think though that people tend to lean more one way or the other.
Here is an one example of master/disaster. (i think) When my daughters were younger (7/8 yrs old) we would stop at a gas station to fill up the car, they would ask if they could get out and wash the windows for me. I would let them, when they were done their mother would be mad because they didn't do a good enough job, I would laugh and say, well at least they got out and tried.
Here is an one example of master/disaster. (i think) When my daughters were younger (7/8 yrs old) we would stop at a gas station to fill up the car, they would ask if they could get out and wash the windows for me. I would let them, when they were done their mother would be mad because they didn't do a good enough job, I would laugh and say, well at least they got out and tried.
Men and women usually do the same chores but a friend of mine hated to see her husband doing dishes, she said that she would rather see him do grander achievements and he did.
Interesting subject, too bad I have to do dishes and cook.
although, I do enjoy it.
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lifeisadream: Men and women usually do the same chores but a friend of mine hated to see her husband doing dishes, she said that she would rather see him do grander achievements and he did.
Interesting subject, too bad I have to do dishes and cook. although, I do enjoy it.
Interesting subject, too bad I have to do dishes and cook. although, I do enjoy it.
It's not beneath me to do the Dishes !
those these people that practically clean all the dishes only to then put them in the dishwasher.....REALLY..?? just wash them and be done with it
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Closer to disaster! Glad I'm happy being single! lol!
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skippyguy: Speak for yourself !
You have more than one...?
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jac_the_gripper: You have more than one...?
More than one good trait ....Lordy i hope so !
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skippyguy: It's not beneath me to do the Dishes ! those these people that practically clean all the dishes only to then put them in the dishwasher.....REALLY..??
just wash them and be done with it
just wash them and be done with it
Sometimes the word 'dishwasher' is a misnomer.
Some of those machines are merely sanitisers.
In terms of food hygiene and safety, washing and then sanitising food related equipment isn't all that stupid if you are inclined to eating high risk foods.
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jac_the_gripper: Sometimes the word 'dishwasher' is a misnomer.
Some of those machines are merely sanitisers.
In terms of food hygiene and safety, washing and then sanitising food related equipment isn't all that stupid if you are inclined to eating high risk foods.
Some of those machines are merely sanitisers.
In terms of food hygiene and safety, washing and then sanitising food related equipment isn't all that stupid if you are inclined to eating high risk foods.
Ours is not a sanitiser it's a dishwasher, and im all for good hygiene
but in this case 80 washing 20 dishwasher its just easier to do the 100 percent !
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I think the attitude you go into the relationship with, and stay in the relationship with, reflects how the relationship will work.
if you go into it thinking it won't, or can't, work, then it probably won't.
Positive energy works.
As does negative energy...negatively!
As for dishwashers..I have one, but handwash 99% of the time. On the odd occasion I do use it, when I have a few guests to dinner, I rinse quickly before putting them in. I don't want food remnants clogging up the machine.
if you go into it thinking it won't, or can't, work, then it probably won't.
Positive energy works.
As does negative energy...negatively!
As for dishwashers..I have one, but handwash 99% of the time. On the odd occasion I do use it, when I have a few guests to dinner, I rinse quickly before putting them in. I don't want food remnants clogging up the machine.
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///i let my cat lick the plates......
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truheart1941: ///i let my cat lick the plates......
I hate cat licks
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mollybaby: I think the attitude you go into the relationship with, and stay in the relationship with, reflects how the relationship will work.
if you go into it thinking it won't, or can't, work, then it probably won't.
Positive energy works.
As does negative energy...negatively!
As for dishwashers..I have one, but handwash 99% of the time. On the odd occasion I do use it, when I have a few guests to dinner, I rinse quickly before putting them in. I don't want food remnants clogging up the machine.
if you go into it thinking it won't, or can't, work, then it probably won't.
Positive energy works.
As does negative energy...negatively!
As for dishwashers..I have one, but handwash 99% of the time. On the odd occasion I do use it, when I have a few guests to dinner, I rinse quickly before putting them in. I don't want food remnants clogging up the machine.
I would tend to agree with you with the addition of the attitude you BOTH go into the relationship with.
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Thank you for posting this, I think there is alot of truth in this. Treating someone badly or disrespectfully is damaging to a relationship, so it makes sense. This study did not conflict with another study done by the University of Washington which can predict which couples divorce with 90-something percent accuracy. I think it's true: treat someone like dirt and watch them walk out of your life eventually....of course
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michael63ca: I would tend to agree with you with the addition of the attitude you BOTH go into the relationship with.
That was a plural you I was using!
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michael63ca: you could be onto something, i think though that people tend to lean more one way or the other.
Here is an one example of master/disaster. (i think) When my daughters were younger (7/8 yrs old) we would stop at a gas station to fill up the car, they would ask if they could get out and wash the windows for me. I would let them, when they were done their mother would be mad because they didn't do a good enough job, I would laugh and say, well at least they got out and tried.
Here is an one example of master/disaster. (i think) When my daughters were younger (7/8 yrs old) we would stop at a gas station to fill up the car, they would ask if they could get out and wash the windows for me. I would let them, when they were done their mother would be mad because they didn't do a good enough job, I would laugh and say, well at least they got out and tried.
Second comment:
When my children were little we parents were required to take parenting classes for our children being accepted at a public nursery school and those classes went on along the terms. I found those parent-classes enlightening.
I do remember the psychologist saying: a parent does to their children what they want to do to their partner.
Perhaps, the disapproval of your wife at that time was not for your children?
One of my friends is going trough divorce, he is a “saint” but even so he is responsible for not taking actions, for doing nothing and letting the other part to choose the destination.
I do believe that both parts in a relationship are responsible for the everyday outcome.
Parents have to take actions that benefit the children first but:
Does divorce benefit them?
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You are absolutely right....I know masters and disasters. Think I can be both depending on the social environment and the people occupying the space. Local pub...definitely disaster. Any other place in the world...master.
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Aah yes us singles rock,
And I will make mistakes again I'm sure but hopefully wiser for it,