When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ... ( Archived) (10)

Jul 8, 2016 12:23 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
LVKarlier
LVKarlierLVKarlierIstanbul, Marmara Turkey3 Threads 3 Posts
We used to be friends for years, sharing good and bad time, supporting each other in any situation. Suddenly my good friend decided to get engaged, and now it is just a matter of counting days before he gets married. He has been with me when I felt broken heart, when my boyfriend left me, when my boss in the office got angry with me, when my other friend spied on me ... he gave his shoulder to cry on.

Slowly his attention shifted to her fiancee more and more, the time we used to hang out together reduced drastically. Although it doesn't truly mean that he will not be my friend anymore, however I already feel that I almost lost him crying
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Jul 8, 2016 12:28 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
KremaP
KremaPKremaPAt home, Shumen Bulgaria3,793 Posts
LVKarlier: We used to be friends for years, sharing good and bad time, supporting each other in any situation. Suddenly my good friend decided to get engaged, and now it is just a matter of counting days before he gets married. He has been with me when I felt broken heart, when my boyfriend left me, when my boss in the office got angry with me, when my other friend spied on me ... he gave his shoulder to cry on.

Slowly his attention shifted to her fiancee more and more, the time we used to hang out together reduced drastically. Although it doesn't truly mean that he will not be my friend anymore, however I already feel that I almost lost him






You should have married him... comfort
Men don't like to be just friends and if he did all this for you may be he wanted you to look at him with different eyes...
Missed the moment?
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Jul 8, 2016 12:34 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
unlaoised
unlaoisedunlaoisedTwilight zone, Wicklow Ireland34 Threads 12,152 Posts
LVKarlier: We used to be friends for years, sharing good and bad time, supporting each other in any situation. Suddenly my good friend decided to get engaged, and now it is just a matter of counting days before he gets married. He has been with me when I felt broken heart, when my boyfriend left me, when my boss in the office got angry with me, when my other friend spied on me ... he gave his shoulder to cry on.

Slowly his attention shifted to her fiancee more and more, the time we used to hang out together reduced drastically. Although it doesn't truly mean that he will not be my friend anymore, however I already feel that I almost lost him


If you're a good friend of his, why aren't you happy for him?
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Jul 8, 2016 12:39 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09New Jersey Girl in, North Carolina USA198 Threads 4 Polls 7,230 Posts
LVKarlier: We used to be friends for years, sharing good and bad time, supporting each other in any situation. Suddenly my good friend decided to get engaged, and now it is just a matter of counting days before he gets married. He has been with me when I felt broken heart, when my boyfriend left me, when my boss in the office got angry with me, when my other friend spied on me ... he gave his shoulder to cry on.

Slowly his attention shifted to her fiancee more and more, the time we used to hang out together reduced drastically. Although it doesn't truly mean that he will not be my friend anymore, however I already feel that I almost lost him



He had the time to be there for you when you needed him.

Now he is going to have a different life when he gets married.

You're feeling him slip away probably because he wants you to realize that he can't be there at your beckon call everytime you need a shoulder to cry on.

He will be your friend. Just in a different way.

Best thing you could do is to let him see that you are happy for him.

And stop crying for pete's sake grin bouquet
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Jul 8, 2016 12:46 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
LVKarlier,It's common for him to not be at your beck and call guy too much anymore as he used to be.

Being blunt here.He obviously will have a new life soon and so get off your pity party pedestal and show him how happy you are for him.

Who knows his wife may become your fiend too if you let her.
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Jul 8, 2016 12:57 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
tomcatwarne
tomcatwarnetomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK289 Threads 7 Polls 17,106 Posts
Ccincy: LVKarlier,It's common for him to not be at your beck and call guy too much anymore as he used to be.

Being blunt here.He obviously will have a new life soon and so get off your pity party pedestal and show him how happy you are for him.

Who knows his wife may become your fiend too if you let her.


Reminds me of Connie Francis......"Right to the end, just like a friend"grin
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Jul 8, 2016 1:05 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
tomcatwarne: Reminds me of Connie Francis......"Right to the end, just like a friend"



Actually it reminds of It's My Party and I'll cry if I want to.
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Jul 8, 2016 3:45 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
Ocee102
Ocee102Ocee102unkown, California USA10 Threads 1,399 Posts
Mutually platonic male female friendships are the exception, not the norm.

Usually it's one or the other waiting/hoping for a status upgrade.


He's right to push you away and take care of his relationship first.


The harder that is for you to accept, the more right he is to do it.
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Jul 9, 2016 5:25 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
LVKarlier: We used to be friends for years, sharing good and bad time, supporting each other in any situation. Suddenly my good friend decided to get engaged, and now it is just a matter of counting days before he gets married. He has been with me when I felt broken heart, when my boyfriend left me, when my boss in the office got angry with me, when my other friend spied on me ... he gave his shoulder to cry on.

Slowly his attention shifted to her fiancee more and more, the time we used to hang out together reduced drastically. Although it doesn't truly mean that he will not be my friend anymore, however I already feel that I almost lost him


It is normal that priorities change as life changes.

I do make time for my friends, but there is simply is less time when there is a new priority in someone's life - it's the way when I have a boyfriend as well as when a single friend gets a new partner.

I'm simply happy for my friends.
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Jul 9, 2016 5:30 PM CST When good friend almost leave you because of marriage ...
Bogart_1960
Bogart_1960Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France36 Threads 1 Polls 10,012 Posts
LVKarlier: We used to be friends for years, sharing good and bad time, supporting each other in any situation. Suddenly my good friend decided to get engaged, and now it is just a matter of counting days before he gets married. He has been with me when I felt broken heart, when my boyfriend left me, when my boss in the office got angry with me, when my other friend spied on me ... he gave his shoulder to cry on.

Slowly his attention shifted to her fiancee more and more, the time we used to hang out together reduced drastically. Although it doesn't truly mean that he will not be my friend anymore, however I already feel that I almost lost him


yup, that the person you are super into is super into someone else.
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