Did people become too presumptuous online? (29)
DedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia12 Threads 1 Polls 5,492 PostsStranger1978HQ: No, she is very sensitive and might cry for weeks
nahhh, she looks like a black belt karate expert 
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Problem with some is ego..know it alls. Problem with some is just mean and want to be better than and put others down,
Other issue is like the story of 6 blind men describing and elephant by feel. One grabs the tail and says it is like a snake. One grabs a leg and says it is like a tree trunk. One pats the side and thinks it is like a wall...on and on. So you have people who have minor input , but think they know it all.
Other issue is like the story of 6 blind men describing and elephant by feel. One grabs the tail and says it is like a snake. One grabs a leg and says it is like a tree trunk. One pats the side and thinks it is like a wall...on and on. So you have people who have minor input , but think they know it all.
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Bellanna: Since this lock-down self-isolation situation started I've been spending a lot of time at home. Being bored, I joined various sites and applications. Some are just for fun (photos, videos and memes), some are a sort of discussion boards. I joined several and in a very short period of time I was astonished by many ridiculous comments.
I would write several comments on various threads and people would already make silly and ridiculous assumptions about me! On a thread about aliens, I wrote that we couldn't be sure whether there was life in the universe and what it looked like and I got a long reply from a man. He said that as a former teacher and educator, it was his duty to educate me that people like me, who cannot take a stand for anything and fight for it never achieve anything in life, etc. It was a long long comment written by a teacher to a "silly little girl". I was...
Then I wrote the (valid and proven) information (something from my profession) and a person (who had nothing to do with it) told me to learn something before writing and that she could offer me some courses and lessons if necessary. And I was...
I entered a discussion about some relationship problem and one of the members concluded that I was either divorced or in a bad relationship (and definitely unattractive ) and that all that was obvious from my comment. And then I was again...
After a few days of random posting all around people already had a finished image of me and my life, my age and job, even my physical appearance (I had no picture) and - NOTHING they assumed was right.
This made me wonder if people make too many assumptions about other people online, based on some random words here and there on some discussion board or blog or because they had a casual short chat with someone and then they build and build some distorted images of people and stay tangled in them...
Do we all do that?
Is there a way to prevent it while avoiding a lot of unnecessary explanations and self-justifications?
I simply didn't want to reply to all these people mentioned above. I didn't want to explain myself, offer private information (about my job, relationships...). I left them to live in their illusions. But I was annoyed and angry.
Another problem is that a lot of people are drunk when posting, a big no no! The next day when they are sober, they probably think to themselves, that they were too drunk to be online!I would write several comments on various threads and people would already make silly and ridiculous assumptions about me! On a thread about aliens, I wrote that we couldn't be sure whether there was life in the universe and what it looked like and I got a long reply from a man. He said that as a former teacher and educator, it was his duty to educate me that people like me, who cannot take a stand for anything and fight for it never achieve anything in life, etc. It was a long long comment written by a teacher to a "silly little girl". I was...
Then I wrote the (valid and proven) information (something from my profession) and a person (who had nothing to do with it) told me to learn something before writing and that she could offer me some courses and lessons if necessary. And I was...
I entered a discussion about some relationship problem and one of the members concluded that I was either divorced or in a bad relationship (and definitely unattractive ) and that all that was obvious from my comment. And then I was again...
After a few days of random posting all around people already had a finished image of me and my life, my age and job, even my physical appearance (I had no picture) and - NOTHING they assumed was right.
This made me wonder if people make too many assumptions about other people online, based on some random words here and there on some discussion board or blog or because they had a casual short chat with someone and then they build and build some distorted images of people and stay tangled in them...
Do we all do that?
Is there a way to prevent it while avoiding a lot of unnecessary explanations and self-justifications?
I simply didn't want to reply to all these people mentioned above. I didn't want to explain myself, offer private information (about my job, relationships...). I left them to live in their illusions. But I was annoyed and angry.
A lot of times, people want to appear to be someone they are not in "real life". I wouldn't let it bother you what anyone thinks of you online or offline. Just as long as you know yourself. Sometimes you just have to have thick skin, other times, IF you can control yourself ignore them and sometimes you just need to take a break from the online sites for either a few days or more. Hang in there, chin up and best wishes.
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Bellanna:
But, I noticed that there are a lot of aggressive people online.
So I've noticed! Maybe it's a way to relieve their anger issues and frustrations.But, I noticed that there are a lot of aggressive people online.
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I've never eva been bored at home on my own.
Way too much to do an things to create.
I feel sad you are like you are.
Way too much to do an things to create.
I feel sad you are like you are.
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so viel idioten
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Bellanna: Since this lock-down self-isolation situation started I've been spending a lot of time at home. Being bored, I joined various sites and applications. Some are just for fun (photos, videos and memes), some are a sort of discussion boards. I joined several and in a very short period of time I was astonished by many ridiculous comments.
I would write several comments on various threads and people would already make silly and ridiculous assumptions about me! On a thread about aliens, I wrote that we couldn't be sure whether there was life in the universe and what it looked like and I got a long reply from a man. He said that as a former teacher and educator, it was his duty to educate me that people like me, who cannot take a stand for anything and fight for it never achieve anything in life, etc. It was a long long comment written by a teacher to a "silly little girl". I was...
Then I wrote the (valid and proven) information (something from my profession) and a person (who had nothing to do with it) told me to learn something before writing and that she could offer me some courses and lessons if necessary. And I was...
I entered a discussion about some relationship problem and one of the members concluded that I was either divorced or in a bad relationship (and definitely unattractive ) and that all that was obvious from my comment. And then I was again...
After a few days of random posting all around people already had a finished image of me and my life, my age and job, even my physical appearance (I had no picture) and - NOTHING they assumed was right.
This made me wonder if people make too many assumptions about other people online, based on some random words here and there on some discussion board or blog or because they had a casual short chat with someone and then they build and build some distorted images of people and stay tangled in them...
Do we all do that?
Is there a way to prevent it while avoiding a lot of unnecessary explanations and self-justifications?
I simply didn't want to reply to all these people mentioned above. I didn't want to explain myself, offer private information (about my job, relationships...). I left them to live in their illusions. But I was annoyed and angry.
Like something like interviewing a genie inside a bottle, do I ask him how did we end up inside the bottle or ask him to get me out of the bottle ?!I would write several comments on various threads and people would already make silly and ridiculous assumptions about me! On a thread about aliens, I wrote that we couldn't be sure whether there was life in the universe and what it looked like and I got a long reply from a man. He said that as a former teacher and educator, it was his duty to educate me that people like me, who cannot take a stand for anything and fight for it never achieve anything in life, etc. It was a long long comment written by a teacher to a "silly little girl". I was...
Then I wrote the (valid and proven) information (something from my profession) and a person (who had nothing to do with it) told me to learn something before writing and that she could offer me some courses and lessons if necessary. And I was...
I entered a discussion about some relationship problem and one of the members concluded that I was either divorced or in a bad relationship (and definitely unattractive ) and that all that was obvious from my comment. And then I was again...
After a few days of random posting all around people already had a finished image of me and my life, my age and job, even my physical appearance (I had no picture) and - NOTHING they assumed was right.
This made me wonder if people make too many assumptions about other people online, based on some random words here and there on some discussion board or blog or because they had a casual short chat with someone and then they build and build some distorted images of people and stay tangled in them...
Do we all do that?
Is there a way to prevent it while avoiding a lot of unnecessary explanations and self-justifications?
I simply didn't want to reply to all these people mentioned above. I didn't want to explain myself, offer private information (about my job, relationships...). I left them to live in their illusions. But I was annoyed and angry.
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I really don't care.
We all have our opinions and thoughts.
Actually I enjoy the banter and 'carrying on'.
Sometimes I get rude and down right mean... (depends on the day I'm having)
Sometimes I just read and fall out of my chair laughing.
Sometimes I wax philosophical.
I have found that there are many talented folks here.
I have realized that we all have our own personal wars to deal with.
Not everyone is going to see things alike.
Its our differences that make us unique.
I have come to admire and respect several, even those that I've had harsh words with.
One fellow (who I don't particularly get along with) posted in the "What songs are you listening to?" thread and I decided to check out his musical tastes. (You can tell a lot about a person by their musical tastes) and the music he posted was absolutely beautiful. Do I still give him heck? Oh yeah. But there is also a new appreciation of him as a man.
I've been rude to several women on here as well. Something I wish I could take back. Since I can't, perhaps I can be nicer to the next one.
I know I've strayed from the original topic... but all of us in our own way... are just fine.
We all have our opinions and thoughts.
Actually I enjoy the banter and 'carrying on'.
Sometimes I get rude and down right mean... (depends on the day I'm having)
Sometimes I just read and fall out of my chair laughing.
Sometimes I wax philosophical.
I have found that there are many talented folks here.
I have realized that we all have our own personal wars to deal with.
Not everyone is going to see things alike.
Its our differences that make us unique.
I have come to admire and respect several, even those that I've had harsh words with.
One fellow (who I don't particularly get along with) posted in the "What songs are you listening to?" thread and I decided to check out his musical tastes. (You can tell a lot about a person by their musical tastes) and the music he posted was absolutely beautiful. Do I still give him heck? Oh yeah. But there is also a new appreciation of him as a man.
I've been rude to several women on here as well. Something I wish I could take back. Since I can't, perhaps I can be nicer to the next one.
I know I've strayed from the original topic... but all of us in our own way... are just fine.
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Do we all do that?
I suppose to some degree. Personally, I'd like to think I make assumptions based on prior knowledge of a person, facts, and observation. However, I'm far from perfect and have been wrong many times in my assumptions.
I suppose to some degree. Personally, I'd like to think I make assumptions based on prior knowledge of a person, facts, and observation. However, I'm far from perfect and have been wrong many times in my assumptions.
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