Did people become too presumptuous online? ( Archived) (29)

Since this lock-down self-isolation situation started I've been spending a lot of time at home. Being bored, I joined various sites and applications. Some are just for fun (photos, videos and memes), some are a sort of discussion boards. I joined several and in a very short period of time I was astonished by many ridiculous comments.

I would write several comments on various threads and people would already make silly and ridiculous assumptions about me! On a thread about aliens, I wrote that we couldn't be sure whether there was life in the universe and what it looked like and I got a long reply from a man. He said that as a former teacher and educator, it was his duty to educate me that people like me, who cannot take a stand for anything and fight for it never achieve anything in life, etc. It was a long long comment written by a teacher to a "silly little girl". I was...

Then I wrote the (valid and proven) information (something from my profession) and a person (who had nothing to do with it) told me to learn something before writing and that she could offer me some courses and lessons if necessary. And I was...

I entered a discussion about some relationship problem and one of the members concluded that I was either divorced or in a bad relationship (and definitely unattractive ) and that all that was obvious from my comment. And then I was again...

After a few days of random posting all around people already had a finished image of me and my life, my age and job, even my physical appearance (I had no picture) and - NOTHING they assumed was right.

This made me wonder if people make too many assumptions about other people online, based on some random words here and there on some discussion board or blog or because they had a casual short chat with someone and then they build and build some distorted images of people and stay tangled in them...

Do we all do that?

Is there a way to prevent it while avoiding a lot of unnecessary explanations and self-justifications?

I simply didn't want to reply to all these people mentioned above. I didn't want to explain myself, offer private information (about my job, relationships...). I left them to live in their illusions. But I was annoyed and angry.

In my opinion, Bellana, it is human nature to "attack" something, or someone who they know nothing about...the unknown.

Many have a fear of the unknown!

There's no need to explain or justify yourself in order to be accepted.

Just let them think what they want and keep the suspense going.
Who knows, one day you might surprise them when they less expect it!

It was not going to happen, since I left them for good.

But, I noticed that there are a lot of aggressive people online.

Hallo frau Annabella

Every action has a reaction
Just do not bother yourself, the vast majority of people this im suffer from stress and anxiety (look at the levels of domestic violence these days) almost everyone has high levels of disappointment, people with depression are in serious danger, but what you may find on forums does not necessarily reflect their viewpoint It may be just a negative energy discharge, some may be unsuccessful in choosing the right words, some have the love to appear strikingly for others
Just do not bother yourself
You are a woman who has her own interests in the end



MFG

Would it be depersonailing if you talked sense. Once in a while?

okay, am I supposed to read it first and then attack you or ???

No, she is very sensitive and might cry for weeks