LOVE ( Archived) (39)

What's your definition of love?

Not holding yourself or anyone hostage with emotional blackmail and expectations ...

'There is nothing I have to do or not do, say or not say for me to love myself' heart beating

'There is nothing you have to do or not do, say or not say for me to love you'. This applies to my children, grandchildren, parents and bothers and sister. And one other person not blood related. Totally detached from outcome

You seem to lump all types of love under the same definition.That may be so but the intrpretation of love must differ, say between parents and lovers, or are you advocating sleeping with your parents or siblings?

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the secret of lasting intimate relationships, largely because it makes us extremely aware of the changes—large and small—that are constantly occurring in ourselves and others. By building your EQ, you’ll have the sensitivity that each of us is always seeking in a significant other. You’ll automatically sense, through active awareness and empathy, the little shifts in the dynamics of your romance that signal a need for action.

We have the potential to attain the kind of love we all dream of—deep intimacy, mutual kindness, real commitment, soulful caring—simply because of empathy, our innate ability to share emotional experience. But to reach the height of romance we need all the skills of a high EQ: sharp emotional awareness to avoid mistaking infatuation or lust for lasting love; acceptance to experience emotions that could harm a relationship if left to fester; and a vigilant active awareness to appraise us of what’s working and what isn’t.
Building emotionally intelligent romantic relationships

We don’t have to choose the wrong lovers, end up in multiple failed marriages, or let the romance seep out of our long-term relationships. We don’t have to let conflicting needs and wants to come between two people who love each other. We don’t have to resign ourselves to boredom or bickering in our love lives.

So it is a different love and not just handled differently, some psychiatrists, put the scource of such love the same it's just proessed by our psychies differently.

You can see where people get their loves mixed up.

Take the case of oedipus.

neither be a narcissist , if you take literally.

Be confident and content in your self. kinda difficult for most