Sticks and stones (16)
tomcattyCoral Bay, Paphos, Paphos Cyprus368 Threads 6 Polls 6,885 PostsSticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me, true or do you think differently?
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tomcatty: Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me, true or do you think differently?
This was a mantra pushed by teachers since I entered the first grade. Good to develop a thick skin. Words and names can hurt, though. Forty-seven years ago, when I was just starting out in life, I said something very unkind to a young over-weight lady in a restaurant. Even being so young, I knew better. That has followed me my whole life, as I will never forget the sad, bewildered eyes that met mine. Yes, words can hurt, no doubt about it.
“..and of all the harm, e’er I done, alas ‘‘twas done to none but me”
Three things returned not: the spent arrow, the lost opportunity, and the spoken word.
There are more grains of sand in all the deserts than there are apologies for a cruel comment.
What the world needs now, is love, sweet love....play it, Dino, if you see this..
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rohaan: This was a mantra pushed by teachers since I entered the first grade. Good to develop a thick skin. Words and names can hurt, though.
Forty-seven years ago, when I was just starting out in life, I said something very unkind to a young over-weight lady in a restaurant. Even being so young, I knew better. That has followed me my whole life, as I will never forget the sad, bewildered eyes that met mine. Yes, words can hurt, no doubt about it.
“..and of all the harm, e’er I done, alas ‘‘twas done to none but me”
Three things returned not: the spent arrow, the lost opportunity, and the spoken word.
There are more grains of sand in all the deserts than there are apologies for a cruel comment.
What the world needs now, is love, sweet love....play it, Dino, if you see this..
Whatever people say, names hurt but you just have to be ready with a quick wounding retort.Forty-seven years ago, when I was just starting out in life, I said something very unkind to a young over-weight lady in a restaurant. Even being so young, I knew better. That has followed me my whole life, as I will never forget the sad, bewildered eyes that met mine. Yes, words can hurt, no doubt about it.
“..and of all the harm, e’er I done, alas ‘‘twas done to none but me”
Three things returned not: the spent arrow, the lost opportunity, and the spoken word.
There are more grains of sand in all the deserts than there are apologies for a cruel comment.
What the world needs now, is love, sweet love....play it, Dino, if you see this..
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tomcatty: Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me, true or do you think differently?
It's true for me. I was called every name in the book and none of those names hurt me because they didn't describe me. Yet I think if the name hits home then it can be damaging. Like 'Rohaan's exemple of calling that poor woman a name that she may have felt fit her. To call an overweight person a "fat sow/pig" is very hurtful to that person's mental health.
Sometimes, the tongue is sharper than the blade and some tongues were even instrumental in incarcerating an innocent person or even kill someone.
It's no coincidence that the Bible describes the tongue as a sharp sword. It's important to teach children to hold their tongue if they have nothing good to say. Most bullying in school is done with the tongue.
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I read an article yesterday about 'ablism'.
Every time we use expressions in every day conversation relating to 'disability', whether that's mental, or physical, we feed into the idea that difference means deficit.
We fail to acknowledge ability because of pre-conceived ideas, or no idea, of of ther people's experience and a focus upon certain abilities.
A blind para-olympic cyclist is considred 'disabled', but someone with 20/20 vision who can't ride a bike isn't; dyslexia is termed a disability, but noone says you're disabled if you can't draw.
Language is powerful. It's how we express ideas and create our societies.
We can choose to do that inclusively, or exclusively.
Every time we use expressions in every day conversation relating to 'disability', whether that's mental, or physical, we feed into the idea that difference means deficit.
We fail to acknowledge ability because of pre-conceived ideas, or no idea, of of ther people's experience and a focus upon certain abilities.
A blind para-olympic cyclist is considred 'disabled', but someone with 20/20 vision who can't ride a bike isn't; dyslexia is termed a disability, but noone says you're disabled if you can't draw.
Language is powerful. It's how we express ideas and create our societies.
We can choose to do that inclusively, or exclusively.
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jac_the_gripper: I read an article yesterday about 'ablism'.
Every time we use expressions in every day conversation relating to 'disability', whether that's mental, or physical, we feed into the idea that difference means deficit.
We fail to acknowledge ability because of pre-conceived ideas, or no idea, of of ther people's experience and a focus upon certain abilities.
A blind para-olympic cyclist is considred 'disabled', but someone with 20/20 vision who can't ride a bike isn't; dyslexia is termed a disability, but noone says you're disabled if you can't draw.
Language is powerful. It's how we express ideas and create our societies.
We can choose to do that inclusively, or exclusively.
I too am dyslexic and was accused of everything from being drunk to being stupid when I was going through a bad patch, now I have surrounded myself with aids in an attempt to overcome this disability.Every time we use expressions in every day conversation relating to 'disability', whether that's mental, or physical, we feed into the idea that difference means deficit.
We fail to acknowledge ability because of pre-conceived ideas, or no idea, of of ther people's experience and a focus upon certain abilities.
A blind para-olympic cyclist is considred 'disabled', but someone with 20/20 vision who can't ride a bike isn't; dyslexia is termed a disability, but noone says you're disabled if you can't draw.
Language is powerful. It's how we express ideas and create our societies.
We can choose to do that inclusively, or exclusively.
Be careful before you accuse someone of being stupid because of this shortcoming. You may be the stupid one
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jac_the_gripper: I read an article yesterday about 'ablism'.
Every time we use expressions in every day conversation relating to 'disability', whether that's mental, or physical, we feed into the idea that difference means deficit.
We fail to acknowledge ability because of pre-conceived ideas, or no idea, of of ther people's experience and a focus upon certain abilities.
A blind para-olympic cyclist is considred 'disabled', but someone with 20/20 vision who can't ride a bike isn't; dyslexia is termed a disability, but noone says you're disabled if you can't draw.
Language is powerful. It's how we express ideas and create our societies.
We can choose to do that inclusively, or exclusively.
At the risk of breaking HIPA, Every time we use expressions in every day conversation relating to 'disability', whether that's mental, or physical, we feed into the idea that difference means deficit.
We fail to acknowledge ability because of pre-conceived ideas, or no idea, of of ther people's experience and a focus upon certain abilities.
A blind para-olympic cyclist is considred 'disabled', but someone with 20/20 vision who can't ride a bike isn't; dyslexia is termed a disability, but noone says you're disabled if you can't draw.
Language is powerful. It's how we express ideas and create our societies.
We can choose to do that inclusively, or exclusively.
( small town here) we have, in one of our stores, a Down-Syndrome man working full- time. He handles the cashiering, as well as many other tasks. He is friendly, articulate, and obviously intelligent. (There is a stigma surrounding DS of these people being too marginal to compete in the business world beyond rudimentary jobs.)This guy breaks that mold. I believe there are noted cases of DS having advanced degrees. The high-autism of Temple Grandin did not stop HER— she has two advanced degrees and is a college professor and animal-cruelty specialist. Things aren’t always what we’ve been told to think of them as.
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tomcatty: Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me, true or do you think differently?
Being called putrid names on here doesn't bother me..What bothers me is we have mods and my hands are tied 
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Mercedes_00: Being called putrid names on here doesn't bother me..What bothers me is we have mods and my hands are tied
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tomcatty: Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me, true or do you think differently?
Trying to push the kindness side of people would serve better than to keep coming back to the negative which is to reply with insults.I'm not saying I'm always kind...god knows I'm not...but I'm a Trier
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tomcatty: I too am dyslexic and was accused of everything from being drunk to being stupid when I was going through a bad patch, now I have surrounded myself with aids in an attempt to overcome this disability.
Be careful before you accuse someone of being stupid because of this shortcoming. You may be the stupid one
Very True,Be careful before you accuse someone of being stupid because of this shortcoming. You may be the stupid one
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breda: exactly they don't care
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tomcatty: Very few people really do, they just pay lip service.
Nothing wrong with a bit of lip service T.C.
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Tiger_Moth: Nothing wrong with a bit of lip service T.C.
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How shallow, I'll have some of thatupload images online
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