any good advice on why we are the way we are? ( Archived) (15)

I think it depends on the woman.

Some women like to be pursued. Some women take the initiative.

So if you are a man who does not like to pursue, you better hope you find a woman who will pursue you.







PS. I'm old fashioned - the man pursues and is romantic in his pursuit.

I am just crazy about women, lol. If they won't chase me then I will chase them, lol. The fun is in the chase. If a woman is too chaste then chances are she won't chase. A picture is worth a thousand words but a real person doesn't need a picture to get a point across. The picture is important for mutual attraction but a heart of gold puts a picture on another heart, regardless if there is a picture or not. But the why of the missing picture can be construed as good or bad. If one leaves the picture out one has to ask why. Is it because it hides a beautiful person's body and having it displayed means they are only seen for their body? Is it because they think they are not as pretty as someone else and it causes them a complex? Either way it can be construed as omission. Some people think omission is a lie. If one can't be themselves here with the added benifit of a comfort zone since one can simply delete their profile and start over if things get too much; then how in the hell do they think they can be themselves in real life? Like the song says, 'If I can make here I can make it any where.'

i have taken initiative in pursuing some guys here and will continue to do so evne if its just to be firends with them

i still like guys to pursue me but hey its all good

A less vague clarification...you're attractive and seem to express yourself in an intelligent manner.

As ridiculous as it sounds, that can be intimidating to women who are used to the bad boy, meathead, toolbag type.

Especially to people who are just recently out of a relationship who may be struggling with self esteem/confidence issues.

Don't try to sell yourself as to say, unless you plan on living up to it. Many people try to make a good first opinion, and not tell the negatives. We all have them. I just try to give a good idea of who I am, what is important to me, my interests. Chemistry is important to me. In the beginning attraction is very important to me. But I am just as picky about Spirituality. I am desiring the one, not just someone. I could get someone anywhere, without having to use the internet. I guess it's what you want. Just lookout for scammers. There is information, and stories on this site, you may want to check out. Personally, I like to be pursued, but I also have no problem letting a guy know I am interested. Even though I am a Moral Christian. To me, the mor time a guy spends on giving a good idea of himself, it helps me to see what his intentions are, or how interested he is in finding the one, or just someone. I am not at all interested in just being another someone. I hope this helps.