It would depend on the circumstances.. and what caused the break up.. I would consider giving a possible second chance if it was just a misunderstanding and we realized how foolish it was to let it come between us. Yes I would probably give it another go..
On the other hand if after the break up she went on to someone else and then tried to come back if things didn't work out between the two of them.. kinda like thinking the grass is greener on the other side and realizing what you had before and that it was a mistake to end what you had before so to speak..
I would have a very difficult time giving another chance to that person because she should already have known what she was letting go before she did it.. so in this case I would be leaning 99.9% against giving a second chance....
Been there done that they never work. The old water under the bridge thing still flows down the creek and into the lake and is still there in the water somewhere. Life is hard enough without the subliminal pressure of what if it happens again. I think people can change and realize they should have done things differently but that makes them better for the next relationship- their growth.
Agreed.. the only problem sometimes is that a lot of people let what happened to them in a past relationship get in the way of a new one...
Not all people mind you.. but I get tired of standing in someone else's shadow and having to prove that I am nothing like the individual before that caused you all this pain..
Of course there has to be a getting to know someone before a commitment is made, but at least give this new person the benefit of the doubt.. and see how things go..
"Not all people mind you.. but I get tired of standing in someone else's shadow and having to prove that I am nothing like the individual before that caused you all this pain.." And that is next to impossible to do. Sad but true.
Pompey70Portsmouth, Hampshire, England UK342 posts
Fully agree Daniel. My ex tried exactly that after I had caught her in bed with a guy. She's now pregnant by him due this month so in that perticuler example " Not a hope in Hell"
we have to forgive especially if we love them once
i dont want to look like religious man we are not saints
and every human make a mistake
i think the past go away ....
(Can the blind guide the blind? Won't they both fall into a pit? A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher. Why do you see the speck of chaff that is in your brother's eye, but don't consider the beam that is in your own eye? Or how can you tell your brother, 'Brother, let me remove the speck of chaff that is in your eye,' when you yourself don't see the beam that is in your own eye? You hypocrite! First remove the beam from your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck of chaff that is in your brother's eye. )
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