should parents raised their children to believe they're better than everybody else to give them ... ( Archived) (18)

a good start in life ?

I believe so, however it is not a accepted belief in the US. I feel there is nothing wrong with thinking you are superior to the next man, However this does have a line that some will cross, when it comes to race or religion, I do not agree with these. I taught my children that they were better than anyone else, not better than this group or that. There are above others because they have manors and won’t be afraid to use them, They also studied Aikido so they could stand their ground. A person is only as prepared for the world as their parents make them. Sorry for the rambling.

no you're not rambling 76c3

i enjoy reading your stuff !
you know its a great idea to get kids into self defense at a young age !




and also to try to encourage what they're interested in at an early age .

i once had an argument with my father before he died ..he said " i'm not happy with the way you're living your life " i then said " you know what i've never been so happy in my life ...and whats more i don't like the way you raised me ...i'm not going to raise my children the same way ...and then shouted and pointed at him THE'RE THE SOMEBODY NOT ME "

he then showed me the front door .....see ' I WAS IN HIS HOUSE ' at the time

and untill this very day my parents still never listebed to what i had to say when i really started talking for the first time .

you see 76c3 our children might actually be more clever than what we are




but if we never listen to what they're got to say ...because we think we know it all ...then we're not really raising ..but holding them back !!!




lots more to talk about there !

what were your parents like ?....were they progressive ..or just the a. b. c. type?

I think I had my share of both from mine, maybe a not so average childhood because of the area I ran in, but that made me willing to do what it takes.
I told my children to think hard about the things they think I am wrong about when raising them and if they still agree I was wrong when they have their children make the change, as long as a problem is repaired it isn’t that bad but repeated mistake from one generation to the next are never acceptable.
I realized how much more advanced my children were by the time they hit 2nd grade.. They had been on computers since the first grade. Blew my mind

I think it's totally wrong to encourage children into thinking they are better than everybody else. Would this course of action not lead them to be arrogant? In my opinion I think it's far better to teach children from a very early age that everybody is equal. I also think that they should be taught that with good manners, kindness, and a lot of hard work, they can become a better person.

That’s the attitude here in the US as well, but I don’t think arrogant is all that bad, usually people who are in powerful positions are very arrogant, and for good reason. You can still have compassion and be arrogant. I would rather have my children do better because they now they are better and it’s not acceptable for them to fail. Just my opinion

I think, everybody is special. And would I tell my kids this. Nobody is like an other person. All are individuals. And yes, I think it is good, that I child think it is unique. And that´s the true. Everybody is unique.
Or is here anybody, who thinks he isn´t a unique individium?
I would also tell them, that in a group you can be stronger as alone and that they need other ppl. I would tell them, that in team every individual is needed. Because the different opinions can open your mind. And that they have to respect every other person for their special.

you've raised some good points again ...as long as they can cope with failure



because when people can't ( who ever they are ) ! is when the problem starts




i'll talkto you deeper about that privately another time because i don't want to feed the vulcers !




but i'll tell you something 76c3 most kids have now got computers and the the internet that they can grow and develope by ....we never had that when we were kids .




they can create things or extend themselves to the world without having to fully relate to mum and dad everytime now ( thank god in some cases because they might be even greater than you've brought them up to be ...but it would take them too long for them to explain it to you)!

one thing we must'nt encourage is to let them build they're lives purely upon props ....because when the props get taken away is when people are exposed to the real reality's of the world ..and if they're not ready for it thats when they crumble.




raising a child to 'believe in themselves, too have confidence, to be one step ahead of life is great ...as long as they still get on with everybody !




do you have upprcrust boarding schools or public schools in florida ?...where rich parents leave their children to live during term time to be MOUDED into better americans ( so to speak ) ?

do you think that sytem works or just turns them into a**hole ?

Public schools here. no boarding schools here that I know of anyway so that is something I can not judge, but I like to have some influence on my kids anyway.. That’s the key to immortality, they carry on a little piece of you with them.